A person could increase openness when appropriate by self-disclosing, answering spontaneously and truly to individuals with whom that individual is interacting, and have possession of his or her own moods and thoughts. There are many advantages and risks to this form of communication. I have had times where I lacked in this behavior. There have also been times where I used openness with the wrong means. Here, I will explain openness while giving personal experiences of when I lacked in this form of communication and how I could fix it. Openness is a great thing to obtain while communicating with others in more than just conversation.
Openness means exactly what it sounds like it would be, the quality or state of being open. To improve, or in
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Make sure you show the other person that his or her views and emotions are being heard. Own your own feelings and thoughts and take charge for what comes out of your mouth. Pay attention to the different types of messages that you are presenting while using I-messages instead of you-messages. Another example would be my relationship with my travel soccer coach. Before games, we have meetings to talk about strategies and he asks around the team to see if anyone has opinions or judgements of their own about the team we are about to play. He seems to always ask the same people on the team and never calls on me. One day after practice I talked to coach about how he makes me feel like I don’t know anything and feel stupid. As a replacement for saying, “You make me feel stupid when you don’t ask my judgement,” I should’ve owned my own feelings and said something like, “I feel stupid when you ask everyone else what they think but don’t ask me.” When I represented an I-message, I showed how “This is how I feel,” “This is how I see the situation.” I-messages make an okay speaker into a great one while using openness. Individuals can listen thoroughly to the confessions of others and these mutual confessions (or the absence of them) will help guide their own confessions or
Beebe, Steven A., Susan J. Beebe, and Mark V. Redmond. "Understanding Self and Others." Interpersonal Communication: Relating to Others. Boston: Allyn and Bacon/Pearson, 2009. 43. Print.
The process of communication is brought into existence by a two-way channel, as there's one who listens (the receiver) the opposite talks (the sender). The prerequisite for a healthy communicative relationship starts with the ability to interact in a context of support, valuing, and within barrier limits of impartiality. The book is a therapeutic solution to helping foster better relationships; it uses the process of communication as an intervention for the journey of self-discovery.
I am the person who talks to the people in the grocery store line and leaves by having already given a verbal dissertation on my life or viewpoint. This is a downfall/habit I believe I learned from my family, I am the third generation of "20 Minute talks" I have an inability to stop talking or openly discussing with people. As I have learned to harness myself over the years, I see how it aids in my influencing people, because if someone hears something enough they will begin to believe in your vision or your observation. This also is my direct line to building trust, because it is not only spewing out words and explaining it is paired with listening and being attentive to what others are saying. I align everyday discussion with purposeful direct professional advices. Communication does help me with students when they are trying to explain something and lose words or cannot describe things, it helps them fill in blanks. In Physical Education it is key, I not only have to show visually the movements and actions but verbalize and communicate the sequences for students to use as guidelines for success. If my communication is not clear I had a bank of different word approaches to get through to students if it must be differentiated for them. For many years I have had administrators tell me I over-communicate, verbally, email, and memos. Which is a great thing
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I can be kind of closed off and separated from people at first, but once I start to know people and approach them more then I become very open and outgoing. I feel this is a very important aspect of my life, it could be a good thing or a bad thing. One problem that comes from this aspect of me is that it makes it hard for me to meet new people because I always come off as closed off. I see Chuck Nolan as being a very outgoing person and he is not afraid to express himself, that is one difference between me and Chuck, but I feel that in time I could be more open and more approachable as a person like
To begin, the Big-Five traits of the Five Factor Model of Personality are each unique in their own way and offer hints or clues into an individual’s personality. The Big-Five traits can be easily remembered by using the acronym O.C.E.A.N. O represents the trait openness, C represents conscientiousness, E represents extraversion, A represents agreeableness, and last, but not least, N represents neuroticism. Openness is a trait that is characterized by a multitude of positive components. For example, individuals who score high in the trait openness often tend to be imaginative, creative, intelligent, broad-minded, and curious. They are likely to be more motivated, and they enjoy pursuing diverse and new experiences. Individuals high in openness are also more likely to be proactive meaning they actively seek more challenging and complex opportunities (Choi, Colbert, & Oh, 2015). Low scorers of openness are more practical, conventional, narrow-minded, and tend to avoid new experiences. The next trait, Conscientiousness, is a trait which is characterized by more efficient elements. For instance, individuals who score high in
I was surprised to learn that people can communicate about their communication. This term is called metacommunication and it is something we all do every day. We communicate about our communication by sayings like, “I do not know how to say this, but…,” or by rolling our eyes after making a comment to indicate sarcasm. I use metacommunication to help me clarify or reinforce what I am saying. I find it very useful when I am trying to convey the importance of my message. I may gesture with my hands or simply state, “This is very important.” Metacommunication helps us convey our messages by adding meaning that our primary message was lacking.
Communication is the sending and receiving of information. It is the “interactive exchange of information, ideas, feelings, needs, and desires” (Heward, 2009, p.297). The act of communication allows us to understand relationships between people, things, and actions. Types of communication include spontaneous requests, spontaneous comments, responsive requests, responsive comments, and imitation (Bondy & Frost, 2002). Receptive communication occurs when incoming information is interpreted, while expressive communication occurs when an individual conveys information (Heward, 2009). Communication requires a sender and a receiver of information. Thus, as humans, communication allows us to relate to our peers. We can express o...
Openness, the first area of the personality test, is described as a person’s ability to think in abstract, complex ways. In this section, I scored a 70% which means that I am moderately open to experience. People who are creative, intellectual and adventurous tend to score higher, whereas people who are dull, practical and more concretely focused tend to score lower. Since I scored moderately, I fall in between both
When people choose to not disclose important information or lie they can feel a tug at their being, which makes them question who they are and why they feel the need to be secretive or lie. At some point, people all feel the need to be truthful and to speak what is on their mind, this is where genuine dialogue comes into play. When one turns towards the other and openly tells them what is on their mind, they usually feel a sense of relief. One is able to get their thoughts and feelings off their mind, and then take the next appropriate action based off of what they expressed. When exposing one’s inner thoughts they are able to call to their Being and determine who they really are. Getting this information out really lets someone and others analyze what the information means in relation to who the speaker is as a
One way to be a competent communicator is to be aware of things that can affect the way you communicate. For example, your environment. Personal experiences and your personal cultural background can affect the way you think about others, which can resultantly affect the way you communicate. While you might think something you do is right and ethical, while another person might find it wrong and unethical, or vice versa. This can make communication more of a challenge or impossible. One way to eliminate this problem is to try to be more understanding to someone’s background, to put yourself into their shoes and to understand that everyone has different backgrounds and different ways of perceiving what is right and wrong. It is important to remember that people from different backgrounds often can share enough common ground to make an effective relationship which can lead to effective communication.
The effectiveness of one’s communication can significantly impact one’s ability to initiate, develop, and maintain personal, therapeutic, and interprofessional relationships. According to Casey and Wallis, “Without it, people cannot relate to those around them, make their needs and concerns known or make sense of what is happening to them,” (2011, p.35).
I should know my skills, talent, how I can impart my knowledge for problem solving. If I know my strengths and weakness if am fully aware of it then only I know what I can do and which is my problem area and thus I can work on it. Today even in class we performed personal effectiveness scale which gives an insight of things which we know but don’t realize can might hinder in our growth process. I scored around 8 in self-disclosure, 9 in openness to feedback and 12 in perceptiveness. That means for me it is easy to read others but I don’t let others read me. I don’t disclose myself till the point of time where I know the person fully. When I know the person is not going to judge me. I don’t let anybody to say anything about me. I am not open to feedback. I don’t like when anybody gives any feedback or comment on me. I fall in the category of lonely empathic that means that I am low in self-disclosure which means that my open space is less. I am low in openness to feedback which means is my blind space is low but my perceptiveness is comparatively high that means my hidden space is high. I tend to keep things to myself. I don’t let anyone know about it. For me it is easy to read others rather than to disclose myself. It can be harmful for my personal growth as it may hinder it. If I want to grow as a person it is important for me to work on my problem areas that are openness
“open-door” policy with the people in my life and I’m confident when meeting new people, I
One of the main aspects in communicating is listening. An effective listener is one who, not only comprehends how the speaker feels but, also understands what they are stating. Building a strong connection between the speaker and the listener is one of the first steps to become a good listener. By building this connection speakers should first be in an environment with open minded listeners, it makes them feel more comfortable to state their opinions, feelings and ideas. Listeners should avoid being judgmental. The individual does not have to agree with the ideas, values or opinions of the speaker; however, to fully understand them, one must put aside their criticism. Speakers will believe that they can trust the listeners with their information when they know that they will not be judged. Miscommunication happens frequently, listene...