How to Deal with Being Rejected By Your Parent
There’s no argument: rejection hurts. The pain felt after being rejected by a person who is naturally supposed to accept you, however, is an altogether different pain. When a parent rejects you, it may make you feel insecure and angry. Learn how to cope with this rejection by reacting in a healthy way and choosing effective methods for overcoming the negative effects of parent rejection. You may also reach out to others around you for encouragement and support.
==Steps==
===Reacting to Rejection===
#Share your disappointment with your parent. Odds are, if your parent rejected you, you may not have gotten the opportunity to fully tell your side of things. If so, find a way to express your feelings
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If they are open to listening, you might use this opportunity to share your story. For example, if they rejected you because of your religious choices, you might explain why you chose a specific religion.
#*How you choose to share your feelings depends on your ongoing relationship with your parent. If you have become estranged, a letter or email may be the best method.https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/mindful-anger/201405/the-five-steps-mindfully-releasing-anger
#Grieve. Being rejected by a parent hurts. Pretending like it doesn’t will only delay your recovery. Allow yourself to feel those feelings however they come. You might need to cry, journal, listen to music, or watch a movie that matches the emotions you’re experiencing.http://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/rejection
#*If you don’t want to spend too much time wallowing, give yourself a deadline. For instance, you might say, “In a week, I will try to pull myself together.”
#*Setting a deadline doesn’t mean you will have fully processed all your grief. It simply pushes you to return to your life despite the
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In other words, don’t blame yourself for how they treated you. It’s a parent’s job to be loving and accepting. If they don’t do their job, it’s not your fault.http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/dealing-with-rejection_b_3705663.html
#Build healthy ways of relating to others. The insecurity that follows parental rejection can affect the way you relate to friends, other family, and future romantic partners. You might be tempted to isolate or push others away out of fear of being abandoned or rejected.https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/06/120612101338.htm
#*Firstly, don’t depend on others to [[Develop Self-Worth | build your self-worth]]. Whether someone calls or doesn’t calls, likes you or not, you are always worthy. Remembering this will reflect positively in your
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I yelled at them, ignored them, and occasionally did the opposite they told me too. At the time, I thought that made me better than them, but in the end, it got me nowhere. Soon I entered high school and my bratty preteen-self calmed down. However, my parents became stricter on my grades because there was a big milestone that would be coming up in a few years, getting accepted into college. My parents made it very clear that if I did not get a large scholarship to any university, I would have to go to the local community college. That was the last thing I wanted to happen, I wanted out of the house. I now had a strong incentive to do well in school. I wanted to be able to go out on my own and escape their tight grasp on me. I completed year after year, always making “A’s” in my classes. I soon climbed to the top of my school’s ranking system and was at the top of my class. Though, this did not matter to me, I wanted out of my house. At this point, I knew I was not disappointing my parents, they were as proud as can be with a daughter at the top of her class. This was the first time in my life that I felt as if my parents were generally proud of me and my accomplishments. I still however, felt guilty. Even though I was doing it for myself, I felt bad that I wanted to escape my parents. I did not hate them, I just could not stand being under their control
This communication models used to prevent rejection threats, cope with stress and defend self-esteem. In all cases, family or other group or interpersonal relationships, the individual feels and reacts to stress; but it does not show "weakness" and tries to hide it with the following forms of communication like; Blaming, so that the other person sees it as a very strong one, or distracting, so the situation is ignored. The person behaves as if this situation did not exist. (satirglobal.org. (2016). Obtain additional information on how the family responds to these tasks. With this therapy we can explore the system of family process, see their relationships and rules focus, with this also establish and help them find their individual goals in treating your problem. "Family life is a bit like an" iceberg. “Only a small part of all the part that everyone can see and hear and often people believe that this fraction represents the whole is perceived. Some suspect that there may be more but do not know what it is, much less how to find out. (Satir. 1993). If we need to find this, we must also take into account their customs, rules, their culture,
Individually, everyone has their own methods of dealing with situations and emotions regardless of any positive or negative connotation affixed to them. One prime example of this comes with grief. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying” suggests that there are five stages of mourning and grief that are universal and, at one point or another, experienced by people from all walks of life. These stages, in no particular order, are as follows: Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally Acceptance. Each individual person works through these stages in different orders for varying levels of time and intensity, but most if not all are necessary to “move on.” In order for positive change to occur following a loss, one must come to terms with not only the event but also themselves.
One summer I awoke to the chirping of my cell phone. I was really confused because I had a bunch of notifications. On a normal day I usually only have a couple. When I checked to see what they were, I discovered that they were all concerning my best friend. They all said “I’m so sorry for what happened.” I got really confused and stumbled down the stairs to talk to my mom. When I saw her, she had tears running down her face and she said “He’s gone.” My emotions hit me like a runaway train and I immediately went into a depression. The grieving process had just started and it was awful. Eventually, I knew it was necessary in order to heal. Grief marks our memories with sadness and pain; however, this way of coping is the essential key to moving on with our lives.
Some of them do not get over it easily, and they are not able to move on that quickly. It is hard to face a rejection after so much effort out into it. Also, it is hard to digest a rejection when a person’s economic situation is not the best. People who struggle with rejection are disadvantaged in finding a job because like many aspects of life the job search process can be tough. As many people shared the rejection experience, they realized that they spent days thinking about a rejection without doing anything productive for their job search. However, they learnt the lessons and tried to become better at it. On the other hand, some people are able to deal with rejection like is part of the process and it cannot be avoid. For them moving on to the next step is easy and comes natural. They always see something positive even in rejection, and use it for the next job application. They are incredibly talented in forgetting failure, but also learn form it. Rejection is going to put people down if not taken in the right way. It is normal to be frustrated, but rejection should not put anyone
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In this Journal, it is written by the author Elizabeth A. Millen. Elizabeth A. Millen decided to do sociology research in terms of the specific issue of rejections among adults. The author starts off introduces the experience of rejections towards other that causes of painful and confusing from a child to a young adult which is during the process that adolescents are developing a sense of personal identity. While following up the authors interpretation of social rejection, the author also mentions the outcome of it in which in can later on cause school violence and having trouble in school. Not only can that factor occur but also the aggressive behavior, depression, and surprisingly suicide.
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