Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own (H. Jackson Brown, Jr.). When one truly loves somebody, they care for them and express their love through their actions. Though not everyone demonstrates their love in this manner, some may make take actions that may negatively affect their partner emotionally and or physically. In such an instance, as this the person in question could be classified as a bad lover. Sei Shonagon, a Japanese woman in the late 900’s elaborates in-depth on her theory of what makes a good or bad lover. When applying her theory of love to evaluate Ernest Hemingway’s “Cat in the Rain” and Judith Ortiz Cofer’s “I Fell in Love, or My Hormones Awakened,” one can visibly distinguish good and bad …show more content…
In which she describes her experience with three separate lovers. The first lover she depicts is a man “who is leaving at dawn” and bumps into to furniture attempting to find his positions (Shonagon 683). He is not concerned with the lady he was just with or her feelings and instead rushes around to make his departure from her as quick as possible. Based on this, one can infer that he is selfish, neglectful and inattentive. She concludes her depiction of the first lover with the statement, “Hateful is an understatement”, further clarifying her disproval and disgust (Shonagon …show more content…
In the excerpt, Ortiz Cofer depicts her days in high school when she obsessed over a high school senior, which she believed to be out of her lead. Though later the senior eventually grabbed her off guard and kissed to her and scurried off to never acknowledge her again. Ortiz Cofer’s gives her outlook on the situation stating “he had bestowed a kiss on me to please himself, and to fan his flames” (Ortiz Cofer 683). These actions make the high school senior very comparable to Shonagon’s second bad lover in the sense that once they have used a woman to please themselves, they hurry away as soon as possible to never associate with them again. Ortiz Cofer goes as far as to say that “the kiss was nothing but a little trophy for his ego”, further exampling the parallel between him and selfish and narcissistic traits found in Shonagon’s second lover. (Ortiz Cofer) Due to such strong similarities between the high school senior and Shonagon’s second bad lover, it is ostensible that under Shonagon’s theory that the high school senior would classify as a bad
“Love is like the sea. It's a moving thing, but still and all, it takes its shape from the shore it meets, and it's different with every shore.” The main character in Their Eyes Were Watching God, Janie Crawford, possesses a seemingly unquenchable thirst for affection, and does not rest until she finds the man who is able to offer her the love she desires and believes to deserve. Janie defines love as a fluid force that is different with every man, and transforms with changing circumstances. Janie does not care to be wealthy, or to have high social standing; she wishes to be submerged in a sea of tenderness and to swim through waters of passion, and to be caressed by captivating waves of lust. Her idealistic conception of love and the corresponding desire for it developed from her sixteen-year-old obsession with a bee pollinating a pear blossom in the back yard of her grandmother’s house.
"Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while." This quote summarizes Catherine and Henry's love for each other. Even though Catherine died, Henry had a huge space of emptiness left in his heart. Marriages in today's society are very serious relationships although some people don't seem to take them so seriously. Take for example Dennis Rodman, who married Carmen Electra and they divorced a week later. This shows how men are sometimes over powered by looks. My essay contrasts the relationships in Hemingway's Farewell to Arms to the relationships in Steinbeck's East of Eden. E. Hemingway displays a sense of respect for couples whereas J. Steinbeck portrays that women are venerable can't hold a steady relationship. Abra gradually fell in love with Cal and eventually cheated on Aron with his brother Caleb. Cal slowly tries to ruin Aron. Cal influences Abra's thought of Aron by saying sweet things to her. Adam smiled at her. "You're pink as a rose," he said. (590) The passage shows that Cal is trying to romance Abra. He knows Abra is venerable because Aron is away in the army and she misses him. By Aron absent, Abra needs a man and she turns to Cal.
Much like Lorraine Hansberry, Madeleine L’Engle believes that “the growth of love is not a straight line, but a series of hills and valleys.” Lillian Hellman’s The Little Foxes, Tennessee Williams’ Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, A Streetcar Named Desire, and The Glass Menagerie, and Robert Harling’s Steel Magnolias use the idea that even through struggles their characters show that love always endures. Although loving someone, who is not particularly loveable, is one of the most difficult parts of being human, it is possible by remembering that addictions can be reversed, blood is forever, and a ring is more than just an object.
Love is the intense feeling of deep affection. For example, feeling a deep attraction to someone. Love doesn’t judge, nor life. Love is patient, kind, and understanding. Love never fails, it always triumph over anything. When you love someone, you fall in love with all of them. You can’t just love the caring and gentle side of them but you have to love the hard edges too, and grumpy moods. You have to love the storm, as well as the sunshine. Love is not always going to be easy but you have to fight if it’s really what you want. And sadly in some cases one person’s love is not enough, and everything just comes tumbling down. Not everyone is going to get their happily ever after. In Silvina Ocampo’s “The House Made of Sugar”, she writes about
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
Love is defined as a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. Faithfulness is often defined as true to one's word, promises, vows, or being loyal. In Homer’s famous story, The Odyssey, Odysseus and Penelope show their true love for one another, and how a good marriage can stay together. In “Bound by Love and Disability, and Keeping a Vow Until the End” you can take away that Edwin and Noemi love each other dearly. Marriages do not always turn out the way you want, but true love can make good things happen.
The Lais of Marie de France is a compilation of short stories that delineate situations where love is just. Love is presented as a complex emotion and is portrayed as positive, while at other times, it is portrayed as negative. The author varies on whether or not love is favorable as is expressed by the outcomes of the characters in the story, such as lovers dying or being banished from the city. To demonstrate, the author weaves stories that exhibit binaries of love. Two distinct types of love are described: selfish and selfless. Love is selfish when a person leaves their current partner for another due to covetous reasons. Contrarily, selfless love occurs when a lover leaves to be in a superior relationship. The stark contrast between the types of love can be analyzed to derive a universal truth about love.
This passage marks the first of several types of love, and gives us an intuitive
Anton Chekhov and Ernest Hemingway both convey their ideas of love in their respective stories The Lady with the Pet Dog and Hills like White Elephants in different ways. However, their ideas are quite varying, and may be interpreted differently by each individual reader. In their own, unique way, both Chekhov and Hemingway evince what is; and what is not love. Upon proper contemplation, one may observe that Hemingway, although not stating explicitly what love is; the genius found in his story is that he gives a very robust example of what may be mistaken as love, although not being true love. On the other hand, Chekhov exposes love as a frame of mind that may only be achieved upon making the acquaintance of the “right person,” and not as an ideal that one may palpate at one instance, and at the another instance one may cease to feel; upon simple and conscious command of the brain. I agree with Hemingway’s view on love because it goes straight to the point of revealing some misconceptions of love.
Love is a concept that has puzzled humanity for centuries. This attachment of one human being to another, not seen as intensely in other organisms, is something people just cannot wrap their heads around easily. So, in an effort to understand, people write their thoughts down. Stories of love, theories of love, memories of love; they all help us come closer to better knowing this emotional bond. One writer in particular, Sei Shōnagon, explains two types of lovers in her essay "A Lover’s Departure": the good and the bad.
The Oppressive and Submissive What is love? An intense feeling of deep affection that one craves. Husband and Wife relationships are usually developed by a mutual understand and love. Love is powerful and strong, so powerful and strong that one might go to the extreme seeking lust or one partner may even become more aggressive and dominant.
This feeling is particularly obvious in the sonnet beginning "What lips my lips have kissed" (1); the speaker's love life is characterized by a series of convenient relationships. Given lines seven and eight for analysis, "For unremembered lads that not again / Will turn to me at midnight with a cry," Dr. Freud might suggest that the impulsive sex serves the double purpose of sabotaging a promising relationship while feeding the needs of thespeaker's ego. Feminist and other [1] critically-oriented literary scholars who have learned how to identify objectification in their sleep certainly would not miss it in this poem. [comment4]But because convention is twisted by the poet's gender, this tactic seems fresher, less hurtful, and more amusing. There is novelty and irony in a woman using what may be considered the male gaze to scrutinize her own capriciousness.
Love can be very effective on people. Some might go to the extreme to show their love for one another. These acts can have a very negative outcome. Some effects of being in love can prove to be bad such as love having an effect on one's sleeping patterns and other unique
Love is said to be one of the most desired things in life. People long for it, search for it, and crave it. It can come in the form of partners, friends, or just simply family. To some, love is something of a necessity in life, where some would rather turn a cold shoulder to it. Love can be the mixture of passion, need, lust, loyalty, and blood. Love can be extraordinary and breathtaking. Love being held so high can also be dangerous. Love can drive people to numerous mad things with it dangerously so full of craze and passion.
During the course of Edmund Spencer’s Amoretti, the “Petrarchan beloved certainly underwent a transformation” (Lever 98); the speaker depicts the beloved as merciless and is not content with being an “unrequited lover” (Roche 1) as present in a Petrarchan sonnet. Throughout Sonnet 37 and Sonnet 54, the speaker provides insight into the beloved not seen within the Petrarchan sonnets; though the speaker does present his uncontrollable love for the beloved, he does so through his dissatisfaction with his position and lack of control. In Sonnet 37, the speaker describes the beloved as an enchantress who artfully captures the lover in her “golden snare” (Spencer, 6) and attempts to warn men of the beloved’s nature. Sonnet 54, the speaker is anguished by the beloved’s ignorance towards his pain and finally denies her humanity. Spencer allows the speaker to display the adversarial nature of his relationship with the beloved through the speaker’s negative description of the beloved, the presentation of hope of escaping from this love, and his discontent with his powerlessness. Spencer presents a power struggle and inverted gender roles between the lover and the beloved causing ultimate frustration for the speaker during his fight for control.