In Colm Toibin’s novel “Brooklyn”, Eilis’ inability to make up her own mind creates a chain of events that results in an opportunity for her growth. Eilis grew up in a family where being assertive and speaking directly is not the norm. Instead of making up her own mind she passively allows them and other people to make decisions for her, including the important decision to emigrate to Brooklyn. When she leaves her family for Brooklyn, Toibin then clearly shows Eilis’ growth with her increasing her knowledge of her own mind and asserting herself. However Eilis is still passive at times at work and in her relationships. When she returns to Enniscorthy after her sister’s death, her growth is evident to people in the community. Ironically, her initial passivity in taking the job working for Miss Kelly is revealed to be the cause of her family members deciding that she should move to Brooklyn and therefore is the cause of her experiencing growth. Eilis grew up in a family where people suppress their feelings and don’t communicate directly, preventing her from asserting herself and instead supporting passive characteristics. They often communicate nonverbally, using silence to convey what they want. When Father Flood first visits and introduces the idea of moving to Brooklyn, the reader is told that “the silence” makes it “clear to …show more content…
Eilis what the others were thinking.” and, in regards to the decision to move to Brooklyn, “it was the silence itself that led Eilis to believe that Rose and her mother had discussed it and were in favour of it.“ Eilis hides her feelings about going to Brooklyn from herself, not allowing herself “to conclude that she did not want to go.” Instead, she contemplates Rose’s sacrifice in arranging for her to go, thinking about Rose “giving up any real prospect of leaving this house herself”. Eilis resolves to hide her sadness at leaving Enniscorthy from her mother and sister. Eilis understands that there was “enough sadness in the house” that she tries “as best she could” to not add to it. The family also hide their sadness as Eilis realises that “the house was...unnaturally happy”, reminding her “of the weeks before Jack had left” where her family “would do anything” to not think about losing Jack.The direct display of emotion when her mother expresses her grief at Eilis’ leaving to the neighbour, is so surprising to Eilis because it is not the way her family communicates. Instead of “following her mother” Eilis attempts to make “small talk with their neighbour” in hope of that “her mother would soon return and they could resume what had seemed like an ordinary conversation”. It is clear that Eilis would find it difficult to connect with her feelings and start directly speaking her mind when the unspoken rules of her family do not encourage it. When she is departing on the boat to Liverpool, Eilis adopts a more self-assured attitude, using “a tone used by a woman in full possession of herself.” but Toibin shows that this new confidence was “something she could not have done in the town or in a place where any of her family or friends might have seen.” This suggests that Eilis can only develop into her own person away from family and must go away from Enniscorthy for this to happen. As soon as Eilis departs Enniscorthy and leaves her family it is apparent that she is developing her assertiveness. On the voyage to America Eilis gently refuses Georgina's requests to join her for a smoke and asserts that she is “all right” in third class when Georgina encourages her to sneak up to first class. When Eilis moves into the boarding house there is apparent evidence of her coming to know her own mind and setting boundaries. In the kitchen with she decides to “not sit down” since “she did not want to talk” with the other lodgers. When Patti and Diana gives Eilis unwanted attention and advice, she attempts to “let them know how little appreciated their interest was” although in a indirect way. Eilis decides to maintain a boundary with Mrs Kehoe when she gives her the basement room, not wanting to “become close to her or come to depend on her in any way.” When Sheila Heffernan remarks that she will cross to the other side of the street to avoid Bartocci’s because they sell to coloured clients, Eilis bravely challenges her directly by sarcastically insulting her style, commenting that Sheila has “ladders in [her] stockings” and degrading her “fussy old cardigan”. Furthermore when she presses Father Flood for the real reason as to why he has gone to so much trouble for her, he tries to answer her with silence, but she doesn’t accept it. Eilis “returned his gaze calmly, making clear that she wanted a reply”. During Eilis’ time spent in Brooklyn, her assertiveness actively grows, to the point of where she becomes forthcoming of her own wants and needs. While Eilis is shown to be developing a sense of assertiveness, she still show signs of passivity in Brooklyn, particularly in her workplace and her relationships. For example we are told that Eilis finds the “fierce tension” in her workplace when dealing with the coloured ladies “exhausting” and “she wished she had not been singled out to stand at this counter and wondered if, in time, she would be moved to another part of the store.” However she doesn’t directly express her desire to be moved to her managers Miss Bartocci and Miss Fortini. After Rose dies, Eilis gives in to Tony’s proposal of marriage for perhaps the wrong reasons - “if we don’t it, I’m going to go crazy”. On her return to Enniscorthy, her relationship with Jim Farrell makes her realise that she has compromised herself by marrying hastily - she could not stop wondering “what would happen if she were to write to Tony to say that their marriage was a mistake”, and we are told “She was sure she did not love Tony now.” Within her workspace and her relationship with Tony, it is evident that Eilis shows a lot of her retained passivity and sometimes finds it difficult to show the assertive side of her character. Nevertheless, when Eilis returns to Enniscorthy after her sister’s death, the people can tell that she has grown. Her friend Nancy tells her - “You have changed ... You look different. Everything about you is different, not for those who know you, but for people in the town who only know you to see. “ and “You seem more grown up and serious. And in your American clothes you look different. You have an air about you.” In an ironic sense, Eilis’ passivity in agreeing to work for Miss Kelly is shown to be the cause of her going to Brooklyn. It is revealed that Roses and her mother's decision to have Eilis emigrate was due to Eilis telling them about the “weekly humiliations” that were brought upon her by Miss Kelly at work. What Eilis thought was a comedic act “that made her sister and mother laugh” eventually was perceived to be a horrendous job, and “her mother and Rose did not think…[it] was funny at all”. Eilis has little input into the decision to leave Enniscorthy, and we are told she “felt like a child” as the arrangments are made for her. If Eilis wasn’t so passive in this decision, perhaps she would insist that “she did not want to go” and that “Rose could go instead”, denying herself the rich opportunities for growth that she finds in Brooklyn. In conclusion, since Eilis felt that she couldn’t act as a woman in full possession of herself in the town or in the presence of any of her family or friends, she needed to move away from Enniscorthy in order to grow.
We are shown that Eilis’ inability to make up her own mind about working for Miss Kelly and moving to Brooklyn result in the opportunity for her to have experiences away from home and her family. She becomes more able to assert herself and speak her own mind. Far from stunting her growth, Eilis’s inability to make up her mind results in her having experiences that change her into a more grown up and serious
person.
The main conflict is Ellen’s inner conflict and the effect that her repressed feelings have on her life and her attitudes.
In the novel “Homecoming” by Yaa Gyasi, the family tree of two half-sisters, Effia and Esi, is explored. Although they share blood, these half-sisters are sent down completely different paths. Each successive generation of the family tree is impacted as a result of the disparate experiences of these half-sisters. The novel begins with the story of Effia, as known as “Effia the Beauty.” Effia grew up feeling ashamed and unloved because of the lack of affection she received from Baaba, the non-biological mother of Effia. In the novel, it is described how Baaba dreamed of leaving Effia as a child in the dark forest so that the god Myame could do with her as he pleased. The acts of cruelty Baaba inflicted on Effia continued into adulthood. For instance, in her last visit to her village, a pregnant Effia was told by Baaba that she was “..nothing from nowhere. No mother and now no father” (Gyasi 27). Although she was not her biological mother, Effia considered Baaba as her mother because she had no other mother figure in her life. Throughout her childhood and adolescence,
In Equus, the lack of communication causes the disconnection between not only Alan and his parents but also between Alan’s parents themselves. Alan’s parents, Frank and Dora, do not agree on how to raise Alan, which is where the tension with the in family appears. Alan’s parents shelter him from the outside world because they disagree on how to approach the confrontational issues that appear in reality. Frank arrives at Dysart’s, the psychiatrist’s office, and approaches Dysart by saying, “My wife does not know I’m here. I’d be grateful to you if you didn’t enlighten her, if you receive my meaning”(Shaffer 1.14.). With this statement the audience can sense the secrets and the lack of communication between the Frank and Dora. The audience notices this because within a working relationship there should be no secrets and Frank should be able to tell Dora that he went to talk to the psychiatrist. The disconnection in the family emerges at this point because everything starts with the parents. The lack of communication with the parents overflows to the Alan because the parents do not have a ste...
Additionally, she stresses that the values of her childhood helped her to develop respect for different people. Her father influenced her a lot to feel comfortable just the way she is around her hometown; ...
The model, Evey Hammond, assists the creation of an improved society only after undergoing activation and her own transformation. At the beginning of the graphic novel, the death of her violators rescues her from death and oppression. This, just like the destruction of corrupt institutions, creates the space for freedom. V not only creates this space for both Evey and society, but also calls them out of their passivity. Particularly, he challenges Evey to be stronger than her past because “[it] can't hurt [her] anymore, not unless [she] allows it” (Moore 29). By executing her father and enslaving her to child labour, the government turned her into a “victim” and a “statistic,” but she has the power to free herself from the regime's ideology and exploitation (29). It is Evey's responsibility to find such power within her past and identity to “become transfigured... forever” (172).
...tionship has completely evolved and the narrator somewhat comes into her own a natural and inevitable process.
In Brooklyn: A Novel, Colm Toibin narrates the experience of an ordinary young woman named Eilis Lacey, who leaves behind Enniscorthy, Ireland to start a new life in Brooklyn, New York. Like many immigration narratives, immigrating and coming-of-age develops the protagonist’s identity and character. For Eilis, this development is portrayed through her changing bodily and physical appearance. Her smiling, crying and use of make-up shapes how her character and identity comes-of-age and becomes mature and confident. The defining experience of settling into a new life of her own and coming-of-age changes her appearance from a negative one to a positive one. Throughout Brooklyn: A Novel, the concept of change in Eilis’s identity and character is prominent and represented through her bodily and physical appearance of smiling, crying and the use of make-up.
In Brooklyn: A Novel, Colm Toibin narrates the experience of a young woman named Eilis Lacey, who leaves behind Enniscorthy, Ireland to start a new life in Brooklyn, New York. Like many other novels about migrants, Eilis’s relationship to “home” and Brooklyn is represented through her experiences and feelings. Eve Walsh Stoddard states that “Home points at rather than determines its referent. Thus we may say that ‘home is where the heart is’ or home is where one’s family is,”’ in her essay “Home and Belonging among Irish Migrants: Transnational versus Placed Identities in The Light of Evening and Brooklyn: A Novel,” (156). This makes readers constantly question where Eilis’s heart lies and where she believes home is. Throughout Brooklyn: A Novel, the concept of home is prominent and represented in more than a physical location; but a meaning, a state of mind, and a feeling of belonging.
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