“Divorce can be a difficult time for a family” (Family Means). Marriage isn’t meant to be perfect, but that doesn’t mean things won’t work out as planned. Once a marriage occurs both parties are likely to imagine a great future ahead of them. No one wants to think about the possibility of getting a divorce. It’s important to realize that just because you feel compatible with your spouse doesn’t mean that you all are compatible. Along the way, the road will begin to get tough. As soon as that happens, you’re less determined that the marriage will return to how it was in the beginning. This brings about the question of whether we should reform laws to make it harder to divorce. There are difficulties in reforming laws to make getting a divorce …show more content…
Children with broken homes tend to head down the path of destruction. “Some children react to divorce in a natural and understandable way, while other children may struggle with the transition” (Family Means). By reforming laws to make divorce harder it’s beneficial to the child. It’s a weight that will be lifted off their shoulder and they will be able to function day to day without having to feel like they were the reason the divorce happened. Instead of being in a broken home, the child will experience the love of nurturing parents. “Research has suggested divorce can affect children socially. Children whose family are going through divorce may have a harder time relating to others, and tend to have less social contact” (Family Means). When getting a divorce, you must remember that it can affect your child not only in the midst but overall. Even though you and your spouse aren’t agreeing completely your child shouldn’t have to suffer for it. For the sake of the child, considering the possibilities to fix the relationship should be in your best interest. It may have seemed easy in the beginning, but nothing in life stays easy. Every marriage has their trials and tribulations. It’s up to you and your partner to work through your problems just like many married couples do. No child should have to witness this dispute between their parents and if these laws are put in …show more content…
By reforming laws, it allows for unhappy married couples to rekindle their relationship. If your relationship is in trouble, there is no need to make the quick decision to get a divorce. You should make the conscience effort to work things out for the better. It may start off rocky, but in the end, it will all be worth it. Typically, unhappy married couples aren’t willing to work through their differences. It takes 2 to make better of something that wasn’t well in the relationship. Your spouse is someone you should be able to say anything too. Being honest and open is important in every relationship, whether you may be married or not. Positivity should be focused on rather than negativity which allows you to bring back the spark that was once lost. Before even getting married, you should think of ways to prevent your marriage from leading to a divorce. Thinking ahead of time will be beneficial overall and it will provide a successful on going marriage. “Although the rate of divorce has declined slowly and steadily since the early 1980s, the rate of marriage has diminished rapidly, with more people choosing to marry later in life. Thus, experts routinely estimate that between 40 to 50 percent of married couples today will end in divorce” (Miller). It doesn’t have to be that way though and it shouldn’t be that way. The same way you could ask
Plunkett, Robert L. “Divorce Laws Should Be Reformed.” Marriage and Divorce. Eds. Tamara L. Roleff and Mary E. Williams. Current Controversies Series. Greenhaven Press, 1997. From Robert L. Plunkett, "Vow for Now," National Review, May 29, 1995; (c) 1995 by National Review, New York, NY. Rpt. by permission. Opposing Viewpoints Resource Center. Thompson Gale. 15 June 2005
The argument over how divorce affects children is one that has been going on for a very long time. Some people believe when parents get a divorce the children are not affected at all, while others believe when parents get a divorce the children are affected by the impact of divorce more than anyone in the family. In some cases, married couples can be in such a terrible marriage that divorce can in no way be avoided, and these divorces are usually the ones that children benefit from and are affected in a positive way. Many times though, a couple will choose to get a divorce because their marriage is not exactly the way it used to be, and they want that aspect of life back; these are the divorces that negatively affect children. Even though in some cases divorce does not affect children negatively, many times when parents obtain a divorce, the children are negatively harmed in many different ways that will forever change their lives.
Marriage is a commitment that seems to be getting harder to keep. The social standards placed on an individual by society and influenced by the media inevitably lead some to consider divorce as a “quick-fix” option. “Have it your way” has become a motto in the United States. It has become a country without any consideration of the psychological effects of marriage and divorce. The overwhelmingly high divorce rate is caused by a lack of moral beliefs and marital expectations.
Must we reform laws to make it harder to get a divorce? Would it annihilate the construction of the family, or would it serve as a headrest?
Sociological Analysis of Divorce as a Social Problem and Proposed Solutions Every year approximately 2.4 million marriages occur. Out of those,2.1 millionwill file for divorce in the United States. These marriage and divorce rates have significantly increased since the years past(Coltrane and Adams, 364).According to Schoen, in the 1950’s, 15 out of 1,000 marriages ended in divorce. In the 1970’s, the rates of divorcedoubled,increasing to 40 per 1,000 marriages. Currently, the rate of marriages resulting in divorce remains the same.
Most people, when thinking about divorce, worry about the impact that it has on the children that are involved. Even though children are most likely better off if totally incompatible parents separate instead of staying together, divorce is about loss and change, and it is still hard for children. Everyone knows that divorce has its effects on children. There are three different sources that try to explain these effects. Graham Blaine Jr. states that divorce is a threat to all children, whereas Rhona Mahony states that divorce is not always the cause of behavioral or academic problems in children coming from divorced families. Yvette Walczak and Sheila Burns state that the extent of the damage can be determined by the parents and their methods of explanation to the children.
When a couple with a child chooses to get a divorce this can have major impact on a child at any age. There are many causes of stress throughout the divorce process that can negatively affect children. First, negative reactions and behaviors are dependent upon the situation before the divorce. Some studies show that how much parents fight, how it is done, how it is resolved, and what precautions are taken to protect the children from it's effects are the most important predictors of child adjustment (Kelly, 2000). Meaning that if children are exposed to fights about custody, money, or the failing marriage they could feel the repercussions of their parents conflict. Next, divorce can cause children to have heightened fear...
Children can suffer from, fear, grief, anger, depression, shame, sadness, anxiety, embarrassment, self-blame, abandonment, and many other things. (Borden, 2015). There is no guarantee that if a child goes through a divorce that they will experience any or all of these things and there is no guarantee that they would not experience these things if a divorce did not happen as well. A divorce definitely would not help the child in this area and it would be in the best interest of the parents for a divorce to not happen if children were
Although almost all children from broken homes are survivors, they often have lifelong emotional scars. It would be impossible for a child of any age to come through a divorce no matter how civil without some sort of emotional damage. That is why it is so important for the parents of these children to make extra efforts to be a part of their kid's lives. It is vital at any age that these parents stress to their children that even though they (the parents) may not love each other anymore the love they have for them (the children) is unconditional and never ending.
Divorce is a process that many people in America go through. The divorce rate continues to escalate over the years. Divorce is a serious problem, it is a gradual process that ultimately results in families breaking up. There are various factors in which a marriage can fail and end up in divorce. Some skip the step of trying to reconcile things and make it work. In some cases it is easy for a divorce to take place. For instance, in cases where both parties are in agreement and have no children it is easier to handle a divorce. But in the cases where children are present, what happens to the kids? Both parents are at each others throats or one is devastated from the rejection, what role does the child play? It is a hard thing to cope with as an adult imagine as a little one or even a teenager, it affects them in more ways than anyone can imagine. It can affect them both physically and emotionally. The effects of divorce are immense, it permanently weakens the bond or relationship between a child and his parents. Can lead to them reaching out or looking to others for attention, causing poor attitudes, low self esteem, dropping grades, loss of virginity, use of drugs and or weapons, or in some cases mutilation of the body. There are various effects that children have to deal with that maybe extremely hard to cope with. One parent may say one thing yet the other disagrees and makes it impossible for the child to have a stable relationship with both of them. Children need both biological parents at their side to be guardians and counselors in their lives, to be examples of what they need to do to become outstanding citizens in our community.
Divorce is a growing epidemic in Canada and the United States. It affects both parties involved, being the spouses, and also has a profound affect on children of the marriage. Recently our government has been revising the old divorce act. It was apparent that it was time to revise the act because it did not properly protect the children from being caught in the middle of things.
In a marriage you have to work together and try your best to stay together. A marriage is all about caring for each other, having each other back, help each other grow, sharing a life with each other, growing old together and understand each other’s problems. Sometimes in a marriage you have your downfalls but it’s easy to get back up and to start all over again. Benjamin scafiai, and marriage counselor, said you should fix you problems by talking them out with each other .60% of divorces today affects other peoples live negatively. What reform, if any, should be made in divorce laws? Most marriages end over money, drugs, or love affairs Yes we should reform divorce laws getting counseling would in a marriages but getting a divorce would make the divorce rates go high in the US.
In today’s society, marriage is common when it comes to a couple that appears to be in love. Marriage is a form of union recognized by law. There is no law that forbids a certain age for dating, but most state laws declare that in order for a couple to get married one must be a minimum of 18 years old without parental consent. Little does society know the responsibilities that come with marriage and the hardships and struggles they may encounter. In detail, a couple marries, something goes wrong so they decide to divorce. Just as it is common for marriage, it is common for people to divorce. Divorce is the legal ending of a valid marriage contract. However, divorce can be caused due to several circumstances and can have a tremendous effect on many issues such as amongst themselves, children if any, and family relationships.
Over 60 percent of couples seeking a divorce have children still living at home. ( 6) What some parents don’t realize when they file for a divorce is the great impact that it will have on their kids. Divorce affects children in many ways. It affects kids emotionally and causes them to experience feelings such as fear, loss, anger and confusion. Divorce also hurts a child’s academic achievement. Children whose parents divorce generally have poorer scores on tests and a higher dropout rate. (3)
In any married couple's relationships there are going to be times when their relationship is put to the test. Some couples make it through their relationships without any and live the rest of their lives happily married, but most can not fix their problems and are forced to get a divorce. Couples marry with the intent of staying together for the rest of their lives, but unfortunately that is not the case for many marriages. In fact, more than 50% of married couples end up getting a divorce. Divorce is the dissolution of marriage by a court. Since the married couple is getting a divorce they do not only have to handle the stress of the divorce, but also the financial problems it brings. Divorce affects everyone differently, and there are many different types and laws that influence divorce.