Being A Child With Divorced Parents

Children of Divorce

Another car ride, another mental break down. Since it was just my brother and I one of us had to grow up. I was the only real mental support for my brother because we would go everywhere together and we would only have the insight of one parent at a time. This was the struggle of being a child of divorce. Being a child with divorced parents obviously had some pretty rough challenges to overcome. Probably the biggest challenge was being forced to grow up faster than other kids my age. To understand children of divorce, first the children and parents must be understood by how they feel and how this affects their lifestyle.

According to many experts, children of divorce is one of the most commonly debated topic.

In terms of the impact on the family, many find that a divorce affects the children the most. Families of those who have dealt with a child of divorce typically see the child having a rough time between parents and often create a hope that their parents will reunite (Pickland, Carl). This shows that children have it the worst during a divorce. This false hope that is created is confusing to the child. The child struggles to appear as if everything is ok, while in the child's mind a bottle of fears is bubbling up (Pickardt, Carl). This suggests that family members should pay less attention to the divorced couple and more on the children. As a result of the harsh environment they are exposed to, children of divorce must discover how to mature faster than kids who have parents that aren't divorced. Approximately 75 through 80 percent of divorced children turn into well behaved adults. This evidence shows that with the divorce of a couple comes the making of a matured adult. To conclude, families and society mostly focus on the parents who divorced instead of the kids and the kids are forced to mature faster so they can keep up with events that are occurring around

Co-parenting requires open communication and cooperation between both parents to ensure the well-being of the children. First, parents should give emotional support to the children to ease the transition of a new lifestyle. If the parent doesn't give emotional support to a child the child may try to gain attention from doing the wrong things. They do this to feel connected to the parent and to reassure themselves that they aren’t being left out (Pickhardt, Carl). For example a child might break rules or throw fits to gain attention from loved ones. Second, children need stability, reassurance, and routines. It's hard on the children when they being switched around too often with their parents. It's essential that one parent is given the child for the school year so the child can has the opportunity to develop a routine (Pickhardt, Carl). In other words, one parent should be allowed to care for the child for an extended period of time. Third, children are unfortunately forced to mature faster but can learn what to do or not do based on their parent's relationship. Since 45 percent of relationships end up in a divorce. The hope is that children from these divorces can build on their own experiences and ensure that their own marriages will be healthy, loving, and nurturing, so their own children don’t have to experience what they've gone through. This passage suggests that children learn from their parent's