My parents were authoritarians. Especially my dad. Everything had to be done his way, on his time. Like most authoritarian parents he was not a very loving or warm person (Boyd, 2016). Every day, I was expected to get up at 4am, feed and water the chickens, collect any eggs, feed the horses, then get to the bus stop by 5am. I then took a 2 hour bus ride to school. If I missed the bus, I would not only get grounded to some sort of cleaning chore, but I would also get punished by getting spanked. Normally missing a bus would just be a few spanks from a belt.
When I got home from school I was expected to go straight in the house and do all my homework. Then after dinner I could ride my horse, or do something productive but quiet outside.
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With him, as well as my grandma and grandpa, being raised in Germany, it was normal in their culture to be authoritarian. During and after WW2, authoritative parenting was normal. “Authoritarian parents valued obedience for the sake of obedience. Diana Baumrind, describing this style in the late 1960’s, described authoritarian parents as believing that their job was to socialize children to act ‘appropriately’. In other words, they believed a good parent was a parent who (lovingly) bent the child to their will. Objectively, authoritarian parents demanded compliance, but were relatively low in warmth( Darling, 2010)”. This sounds just like my family. My grandmother is a proud, strong German woman, and wouldn't let her family act out. I have heard many stories about him getting beat with a broom by my grandma from him acting out. This is something, that when I have kids, I will break the cycle. I do not think that a child deserves to be be beat with a belt or a broom, or anything else. I think that being respectful and teaching your child to be respectful and kind are very important.
I think that when Parenting can end is different for everyone. For me, my mom left my dad when I was 12, and he never had to parent me again. My brother and I no longer saw him, and he never had any other kids that were younger than us. For my mom, parenting ended recently. She got very sick, and lost some brain function. She no longer can parent, because he brain doesn't work properly, but there are plenty of people that I think are parents from when they have a baby until they die. They still give advice to their children, and still help them make decisions in life, even when “kids” are not
Webster’s Dictionary defines diversity as, “the quality or state of having many different forms, types, ideas, etc.” Although most people associate diversity with race gender or social class, it also applies to the styles a family chooses to raise their children. Throughout many different cultures around the world, we find many an array of styles in which parents raise their children. Though one culture might looks at another’s style of raising children as abusive, merciful, manic, or rudimental, these vast differences play a key roll in the success of the children that will go on to mold the worlds societies after we pass. Authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved parenting is three of many parenting techniques guardians embrace to raise their
Authoritative parenting is both a demanding and responsive way of parenting a child. The responsiveness aspect of the parenting allows for the child to still be creative and unique while offering understanding, empathy and love to the child. Responsiveness is a vital key during the child 's cognitive development as it helps guide the child on how to deal with certain things and how to act, while giving them a sense of understanding and answering their question of “Why.”The demandingness is also very important and helps lay the foundation for what is to expected of a child when they grow up and live on their own. Parents who are demanding, set age-appropriate limits and boundaries and the majority of the time those limits and boundaries have good intentions and rational reasoning. The parents
For example, Joe is an eight-year-old kid that was raised by permissive parents. Joe is known as the trouble kid throughout his school district and is a frequent visitor at the principal’s office due to his use of curse words and disrespecting his teachers. Joe continues to explain that he does not understand what he is doing wrong or why he is always in trouble. When Joe’s actions are brought to his parent’s attention, his parents do not discipline him or make him apologize, resulting in replicated bad behavior from Joe. Similar problems could occur on the other end of the parenting style spectrum; authoritarian parenting. Let's say that Sally has authoritarian parents. Her parents tell her that if she does not get at least A’s in all her classes, she will be grounded until her grade is brought back up. Although Sally might have great grades and appear to be a great student, she will have a great amount of anxiety and fear of failure because of the mindset that her parents have installed into
Their attitude towards discipline were very different from the white social workers that bought them together. They believe in physical punishment but no shouting, only talking nicely. If a parent shout he is out of control and it is abusive according to them. Good parenting is a complex combination of warmth, teaching, talking nicely and disciplining physically. But you can’t punish too harshly then you are doing it wrong. Interesting enough studies showed that in some cases children did respond positively to physical punishment. The difference seem to be that in black communities the punishment are culturally approved and given in a supportive environment in the aim to help the child to become responsible adults. Whereas in white communities they believe physical punishment is wrong so by the time resort to it they are highly agitated and the child might view it as
While authoritarian parents have many structure and household rules, they don’t explain to their children the underlying reason for these rules.
I benefited from having authoritarian parents as they taught me about the importance of rules and boundaries, but there are more cons than pros for the authoritarian style. What I dislike most about this style is that my parents did not provide emotional support to me as I was growing up. They believed in setting standards, rules and regulations that were too punitive. My parents were too caught up in demanding complete obedience, and they did not take int...
The authoritarian style of parenting is control focused and militaristic in approach. This parent has high expectations and demands strict obedience. They often rule by fear and punishment. Dr. Gwen Dewar states, “… Little nurturing, lots of psychological control” (Dewar). On Consistant-parenting-advice.com the author communicates this type of parenting can result in abusive discipline that can be emotional and physical; however this writer is also including verbal abuse to the list.
An authoritarian parent emphasizes conformity, obedience and respect for authority. An authoritarian parent is more likely to choose the sport classes, and social events their child participates in without an input from the child. Children with authoritarian parents often associate obedience and success with love, some children display aggressive behavior outside the home, while others may are fearful or overly shy around others, they have lower self-esteem, and have difficulty in social situations.(Hoang)
There are many approaches to parenting and everyone has their own preferences as to what they think is best. In a fast paced rush around society, it is hard to know what the best choices are for your children. There is a struggle to balance what needs to be done with what can be done, and this has negative and positive feedback on the children. Parents play a critical role in shaping and guiding their children into functional confident adults. An effective parent will learn as they teach in order to grow into understanding with their children.
Even though authoritarian and permissive parenting may have some minor similarities they are remarkably different from one another in their approach to raising children. One of the most striking differences is that of expected social behaviors. Authoritarian parents expect and require strict adherence to proper manners, often to an extreme! Demonstrating manners in all circumstances is a sign of obedience and respect within this parent-child relationship. This act of obedience may also be expressed in a formal style of communication rather than a casual style both to parents and others. “Yes Sir”, “No Sir”, “Please”, and “Thank You” are words of common...
Authoritarian-parents who are punitive and focus on gaining a child's obedience to parental demands rather than responding to the demands of the child.Authoritarian parenting styles give little to no options to a child. What the parent says goes. It is a rigid approach to raising children that may have been most effective in times of great famine or toil. It was used most commonly in large, traditional families in which the father was the patriarch, and everyone else was called to follow his command. Times have changed greatly since. Doctors see a problem with this approach in modern times,it creates a distance between parent and child in which the child doubts the parent's love for him. It is based on punishment, which can easily create anger.
Authoritarian parents, show very little acceptance, have very high expectations of their children and are extremely controlling. These parents are strict, and use a prohibitive and punishment method. According to a research done by Kimberly Kopko from Cornell University, it “reveals that adolescents of authoritarian parents learn that following parental rules and adherence to strict discipline is valued over independent behavior. As a result, adolescents may become rebellious or dependent” (2). The adolescents who come to be rebellious may showcase hostile behaviors, while those who are passive are likely to stay relying on their parents (2).
This paper will explore the strict parenting whether it has positive effects or negative effects on children. Before I begin my discussion, I want to ask you a question. How do you define an authoritarian parent? In response to this question, you can think about someone who has a complete control over his or her children. According to Kendra Cherry, the author of “What Is Authoritarian Parenting?”, she explains that, “Authoritarian Parenting is a style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness.” In this sentence, authoritarian parenting, also known as helicopter parenting, is parents who force their children to follow their needs without any explanations, so their children must be under their regulations even though children do not
Authoritarian parenting, is low on warmth/nurturance, harsh, and strict on discipline, and high on expectation. Parents instruct and order, they do not consider the children 's opinion as a group, and discourage verbal give-and-take. With this parenting style, children are more susceptible to antisocial peer pressure during adolescence, a time when peer influence is the greatest. Boys in this category have the highest level of violence. Teenagers become less self-reliant, persistent, socially poised, and have lower self-esteem.
My parents followed moderately different parenting styles. My mother’s parenting style was strict and extraordinarily Authoritarian, while my dad practiced a mix of Neglectful and Authoritarian parenting. My Father was a workaholic and was not around much. During early childhood, I would be in bed by the time he arrived home from work, so I would rarely see him. He did not get involved with my schoolwork and would rarely show up to piano recitals or swim meets. The few times he did show up, he would ridicule me and tell me I should have done better. Since my