Single Parent Struggles
Do Children need to be raised with both parents in one household? Do boys and girls need both mother and father figures in their lives to be raised "right'? What role does the government play to provide useful tools for single parents, if any? This is a argument that intrigues many. Now a days many children are being raised in single parent homes even though it may seem impossible to be done over the years it is starting to become more common. Yet, those children are being labeled as different because of their background. The issue being raised is the difference of how children are raised by single parents homes versus children being raised with mother and father in one household. Society must understand that raising a child properly
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does not rely on how the foundation at home is built, but should focus on the morality and values that are being taught as they grow through their stages of life into adulthood. Children being raised by single parents can progress emotionally, physically, socially, and have outstanding behavioral skills as a child who was raised by both parents. “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” James Baldwin Children get a lot more attention from mommy and daddy along with the quality time to grow from in life. Yes, having both parents is a definite plus especially when it comes to parties, outings, holidays, etc. When raised in a happy and content home all is well. Now, what if the home is not full of joy. The children would not benefit the joy of growing up with both parents if they grew up in a household where both parents argued, fought, and verbally attacked each other in the home. Naturally, children who grow up in those households follow in the same pattern due to thinking that is what happens. Seeing to it that is what that child was raised to believe was right. My boys and myself came from one of those families. My ex and I fought and argued everyday behind closed doors. It was miserable for me. I hated coming home because it was just nothing but hate and misery. My oldest was the one who made me open my eyes one day. He walked in my room and begged for his dad and I to stop fighting. I did not realize until that day how emotionally and physically we were harming him. It is said to say but my boys are now a statistic of being brought up in a single family home. Now children who are brought up by one parent that devotes their love, time, and energy into their children is just as good as one brought up by both parents. Those single parent children benefit a lot more than children who have both mommy and daddy who are raised in a broken home. This topic is such a touchy subject seeing to it that I myself am a single parent. I know and have personally seen the struggles. The going to work everyday, having to miss school performances, holiday lunches, school awards, field trips due to having to sacrifice in order to make ends meat. The statistics for single-parent children in 2013 was 24,647,000 that is 35% of America's population. Also, 77% of those single parents are single parent mothers. That is an extremely high number, but that just shows that as a single parent we must work harder and be the best role models for our children. Let them see our struggle so they can learn and want to better themselves as they get older. We as single parents need to make sure we show our kids by our struggles to never let history repeat itself. It is said the only way for a child to fully gain self-confidence, emotional, behavioral, and physical skills is due to being raised by both father and mother. I find that to be politically incorrect. My children are walking proof. During further research, I came across an article "Single-parent families cause juvenile crime", by author Robert L. Maginnis. Maginnis states, " Children from single-parent families are more likely to have a behavior problems because they tend to lack economic security and adequate time with parents". I beg to differ that statement, judging adolescence as criminals is inhuman. I, myself am a product of being raised by my grandmother because my biological mother was to young to care for me. I am now a successful physical education teacher. I am also continuing with furthering my education. As well as thriving, so that \my children have an amazing future. This author obviously does not know the struggles that single parents go through on a day to day basis to make sure their children are raised in a stable and happy home. I myself as a single parent work full time and some to be able to provide for myself as well as my two boys. While not only being a full time worker, I also spend lots of quality time on the weekends and give my boys the undivided attention they need for their wellbeing. They are both in sports so that it teaches them self discipline and motivation. I make sure as well as other single parents do to make sure our children know all the struggles, hard work, difficulties one goes through is all for them to better their future. Even if at times it feels impossible, the impossible can be done. In today's world single parent families are extremely more common.
Unfortunately, there are some single parents that do not take the time to take parental duties needed to raise a child. I work at a school and have seen my handful first hand. Those are the parents who think they will not provide emotional, physical, financial stability for their child or themselves. I have come across parents who live in their cars, struggling, not being able to feed ot provide a roof over their children's head. Now, I feel they should have thoroughly thought it through during the months of pregnancy and decide truly if having this baby would be in the best interest and whether or not financially if they can provide for them. Accidents can happen, my second born was one of them, although, in general adults know what is presenting itself when determining whether or not to have a child. Not all people are prepared to become parents, if you know you are one of those people do not do it. If it is to late there are other options such as adoption, handing them over to a loved one, etc. There are many different ways to enhance the better being of a child it is up to you and how you apply yourself as a parent/human being to do
it. Of course, not all families are blessed enough to live like the middle and high class family homes, Which is why it is important for those families to get the government aid and necessities needed to help single-parents. The single parent households are a lot more common now. I can honestly say the government plays a good role as far as helping any home especially single parent homes with assistance such as Snap, Medicaid, Housing, and Tanf. I am not on any assistance program but I am glad to know if I was to go into poverty, I could get temporary help. Being a parent in general is a hard job. I do not think there is such a thing as BEST parent or proper structure of raising a child. What I can say is that it does not matter whether or not you are raised with one parent or both. It is up to how you as a parent raise your child and show them the right way of living that will determine their outcome as an adult. “Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.” Benjamin Franklin
What is a single parent? Is it one who destroys their child’s life? Is it one who ultimately cannot raise a minor on their own? Or is it one who dedicates their lives to the well being of their kid? Imagine a parent, and for whatever reason they were left alone to raise a child. That parent you imagined has to work long hours just to put a meal on the table. That parent has to play the role of the mother and father. That parent has no financial support. Unfortunately, in our society, this image of a single parent is looked down upon. There are people that don’t realize how much a single parent goes through to give their child a better life.
A single parent many times has so many responsibilities that they just can’t be good at all of it. A job, bills, chores, errands, appointments, activities, it all just becomes too much for a single-parent and something always seems to get the short end of the stick. Usually it is the small things that make a child feel special.
Many individuals are taking the process of process of parental licensing into their own hands, despite their contributions being made up in mind only, however, it is thought that counts. One respective person believes that a restriction on having children should begin at the earliest stage of one’s life: birth. As soon as a child is born, doctors should “go in and turn off their spickets” (McRedmond). In the later stages of life, this would prevent several cases of teen pregnancies, seeing as though it would be an impossibility for women to get pregnant. Then, when a women eventually becomes ready enough to think about having children, they should go through a testing process, perhaps similar to Sherman’s ideas of interviews, writing, and demonstrations of capability. If they pass, they “get their spickets turned
Families are becoming more diverse and they come in all shapes and sizes. Some people consider families to be strictly biological, while others consider people they love to be their family. Although two-parent families are the majority, one-parent families are becoming more common in today’s society. A sole-parent is considered to be a parent without a partner or spouse who is the primary care giver of one or more children in a household (Ministry of Social Development, 2010). From the age of 14 onward I was raised by my father. I witnessed firsthand th...
expensive for working class parents. For parents that are working below the average household income, it would be tougher to pay for full time childcare if the money they are earning is not able to all go to that expense. Unfortunately, not all states in the U.S. provide services that assist families with paying for child care costs. These services are more common in urban areas where there is a higher percentage of low income families.
First, when it comes to paying child support, some men are lazy and try to find reasons or excuses to get out of paying what they owe. Child support is a payment that a noncustodial parent makes as a contribution to the costs of raising a child. Failure to receive such payment has a great impact on the well-being of the child. The U.S. Department of Human Services has reported that since 1975, the total child support arrears have accumulated to more than $114.5 billion. This result is because the nonresident fathers are not paying their child support payments.
Many families in the United States are separated or divorced. My family is a part of the divorce statistics. My mother and father divorced in 2001. I was four years old and my brother was two. My brother and I have to deal with the packing and the repacking of the bags every week. There was plenty of personal and social reasons behind the divorce. Some personal reasons were lack of commitment, too much arguing, marrying too young, and having kids at a young age. My parents got married at the age of 18. My mother had me at the age of 19, and she had my brother at the age of 21. That put a strain on their marriage, and that caused my parents to argue all the time. My father also worked all the time to support us. He was the only one with a job
We learn as kids through our society that we should strive to achieve the American dream. The idea that you will meet the love of your life, have two and a half kids, buy a house with a white picket fence and a dog, and then live happily ever after. Sadly it doesn’t always work out the way we imagine. For many people unexpected challenges will arise in life: divorce, death, and unplanned pregnancies are some of the curveballs life throws at us. All we are left to do is pick up the pieces and make the best of a bad situation. Blended families are sometimes looked at with negativity. Due to the unique struggles that blended families deal with, we as a society should: respect, encourage, help, and embrace them.
According to the article “Rather than confirming the home as a haven from the heartless world, this study has revealed the heartlessness of the system in which mothers and nannies are caught,” the researcher wants people to know, instead of that the child becoming a well respectful adult in society, there is a possibility that the child will experience some trouble in becoming that person in his/her later life, because of the constant conflict between mothers and nannies; puppeteer is the main reason for these conflict.
In today’s society many grow up in a single parent household and it may effect some different than other’s. For instance you can look at the percentage of race and how it affects each. For one can look at a black family and see the effects it has on them. Black families are in the high percentage range of growing up in a single parent home. The outcome has little effect on than that of a white family. Not all black families are single parent homes, but the ones that are may be due to parent killed, in prison, or just do not know who their father’s. To compare to a white family growing up in a single parent house can have a higher effect. White families may experience being in a single parent household due to parents getting divorced or death.
Parents are known to have a big impact on their chills’ life. As children grow up they learn from their parents and model behaviors that they see after them. Relationships between child and parent are also an important factor in child development. Many believe that having same-sex parent impacts a child’s life. I do not believe that the sexual orientation of a parent either negatively or positively impact the child but the relation between the child and the parent has the most impact on a child’s life not the sexual orientation of the parent. Having same-sex parents does not negatively impact children. Parent children relationship has shown to be important indicators on friendships, how well a child does in school, and also a predictor of
Having a child changes your life completely and you no longer have to attend to your needs first, but you have to first put the baby's needs. There is not a manual to be the perfect parent, but people must have a stable relationship, or if they want to be a single parent they need to give them attention love and also you must have to afford food. The population need to know how important is to be prepared to have a child to raising them correctly and meet the needs of the kid. No everyone has the capacity to become parents the reason is that they need to provide food, cloths, love, care, home and
The U.S. House of Representatives recently passed the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act after much toiling, debate, and media attention. This is the most sweeping overhaul of our healthcare system in recent history, and the implications for the average American will be huge. While the bill was passed into law in March of 2010, much of it will not be enacted until the beginning of 2014 and beyond. However, effective this summer, people with existing medical conditions will be able to join a high-risk pool in which they will receive subsidies to cover their premiums. Furthermore, effective September 23, 2010, children will be able to stay enrolled in their parent's health insurance plan until they are 26, and insurers will be forced
Most singles who request to adopt a child are college graduates and have earned postgraduate degrees. Many people may be against single parent adoption for one main reason. They may think that the child needs a stable family environment with a mother and father. There are many single parent families that have a loving supportive household. Meanwhile, there are families with couples that may be dysfunctional.
For many years, children growing up in a single parent family have been viewed as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father. Does a child need both parents? Does a young boy need a father figure around? Does the government provide help for single parents? What role do step-parents and step-siblings play? With much speculation, this topic has become a very intriguing argument. What people must understand is that properly raising a child does not rely on the structure of a family but should be more focused on the process