Anger can be a destructor like none other. While we, as humans, need anger as a part of the human condition because of the protective system that it provides us with, thereby, shielding us from harm, too much of anger can land us to situations we otherwise would not want to see ourselves in. As has been very rightly quoted by Louis L’Amour, “Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before – it takes something from him”. The quote above summarizes in a nutshell how anger can be a destructive force, a force that can harm not only people around us but can harm us greatly too. In fact, history bears testimony to the fact that too much of anger has almost always led to the downfall of …show more content…
One such happened incident while I was working prior to joining XLRI. The incident occurred at a time when I had just finished a year in the organization and was elated at that. I was working as an Assistant Systems Engineer and was responsible for all learning and development related activities of my team, which comprised of 13 individuals. The responsibility required me to co-ordinate with the Learning and Development team of the organization, the Learning and Development SPOC (Single Point of Contact) for my project and between the team members. The primary responsibility of the role was to ensure that the training and learning needs of the team members were taken care of and were aligned with the organizational requirements. This particular incident happened when my Team Lead was replaced by a new one. Before the arrival of the new lead, the team had expressed desire for having fortnightly hourly meeting where every team member would update everybody else of the work they were doing in the project and share with other team members any latest learning or technology or programming code used by them, which can be used by other team members too sometime in the future course or which might simply add to the existing knowledge of the team members. In order to get the initiative approved by the Learning and Development team of the organization, I had to put in several …show more content…
While my Team Lead never mentioned the e-mail to me or sought any explanation for it either, every time I came face to face with him, the cold look I received was sufficient to explain the damage I had done to my reputation. There were no immediate repercussions but the fortnightly meetings were eventually stopped because my Team Lead had become even more against it and found ways to stall them. Also, I did receive a much lower than expected rating during the appraisal and was moved to another team. The only silver lining in this whole episode was that I had learnt my lesson and a bitter one at that. Small, unresolved conflicts can often lead to much bigger problems. Anger can indeed leave its wielder less whole than he initially was and this I can say with my experience
As mentioned earlier I would start my discussion with a very prominent emotion called Anger. Anger is defined as a person’s response to a threat or the perception of a threat against an individual or group. Anger is an emotion that is often difficult to control because of the intense physiological reactions involved in the fight or flight response that triggers anger. The fight response is a response triggered naturally by the body to protect itself against the instigating situation (Lazarus, 1991). In the novel The Great Gatsby Fitzgerald narrates two important incidents that stand as a fine example for expressing anger with violence i.e., 1) Tom hits Myrtle 2) Wilson kills Jay Gatsby.
This paper will examine Robert C. Solomon's Emotions and Choices article, to best identify what anger is, and to what extent a rational human being is responsible for their anger. Firstly, Solomon's argument must be described. A quick summation of Solomon's argument can be found in the following four points: Emotions are judgements, emotions are chosen, emotions serve a purpose, and emotions are rational.1 To quote Solomon, he explains that “Emotions are not occurrences, and do not happen to us. They ... may be chosen like an action.”2
When angry, it is hard for a person to see the damage they are doing. Concepts of revenge, murder, jealousy, greed, selfishness, rage, resentment, and hatred are all offspring to what anger can become if allowed to grow (Potter-Efron, 2). In some cases, anger is the result of feelings of helplessness and a desire to regain power in life (Glick and Steven, 103). Anger is not completely evil, but there are dire consequences if we let ourselves be corrupted by its influence. Loss of life, or losing the love of someone close to you can instantly make you regret your actions while angry.
emphasized a lack of restraint. Popular psychology identified “the positive aspects of anger” and encouraged couples to communicate their desires to one another.
According to Kirby Deater and Deckard in their article “Anger”, anger is a complex psychological behaviour which has its own structure. Some researchers believe in that anger is an overwhelming emotion that has effects on man's personality, as well as it indicates the different perspective by which people
Seneca who was a Roman philosopher between 4 B.C and 65 B.C has given his opinion about anger in his essay 'On Anger '. This essay will illustrate his views on anger by looking at his definition on anger, the discordances of anger with nature, the decision and causes to start anger, his argument on anger and the remedies of it.
My sixteen week class in English 111. I was really nervous about this class. Because English has never been my strong point. This class has hard, but fun all at the same time. I learn a lot from this class. Meanwhile,the first day of class you handed a paper with a question on it. “The first thing I want to say to you who are students is that you must not think of being here to receive an education; instead, you will do much better to think of being here to claim one.” Even though putting my all in what I have learned, claiming my education with hard work because using the skills of the meal plan, as we write to different audiences and learning to be a Critically thinker as I start becoming a critically-Literate Citizenship.
If anger were a disease, there would be an epidemic in this country. Road Rage, spousal and child abuse, and a lack of civility are just a few examples. Emotionally mature people know how to control their thoughts and behaviors how to resolve conflict. Conflict is an inevitable art of school and work, but it can be resolved in a positive way.
In ‘Of Mice and Men,’ anger and violence is of common recurrence. Anger, as shown by many characters, is always around because of fear, jealousy and anxiety.
According to Seneca, anger is a bad thing that can destroy the universe, and he argued that one had to be reasonable and get rid of anger in order to achieve a state of mind not subject to emotions (Kim 2). To Rene Descartes anger is the most dangerous emotion, and it is more violent than other emotions(55).
and pleasure, the body changes into a relaxed state. When an individual is angry different
“His ability to mask his anger was the means by which he thrived”. It is only through cumulative stress that he explodes, a common human flaw which is understandable and somewhat pardonable.
Anger changes the behavior pattern of the person as a result of changes in his emotional status. it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes. Actions resulting from anger often lead to undesirable physiological and health consequences, because the neuro-transmitters/hormones (eg. adrenaline) released during anger intensify impulsive action and obscure rational
This can either be a positive or negative thing and how you act on it, or do not act, can show how in control and effective you are with your feelings. According to the text, “just because you feel a certain way does not mean you have to act on it” and that “people who act out angry feelings actually feel worse than those who experience anger without lashing out” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Even though acting on your feelings may seem uncontrollable, it is important to deal with them in a different and more productive way. Recognizing how you feel and using the right approach during a constructive conversation is always better than quickly lashing out without completely understanding the situation or how you feel besides angry. Furthermore, “recognizing the difference between feeling and acting can liberate you from the fear that getting in touch with certain emotions will commit you to a course of action” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Understanding your emotions is important so that you will be able to experience feelings that may upset you and still be able to deal with them from a positive standpoint. Once you can separate your feelings from actions you will be able to make more rational
Another of my irritating and potentially harmful habits is my ability to let anger build up inside and redirect it to another source. The main reason that I say that this is potentially harmful is that when a man lets his anger build up over an extended length of time he eventually becomes a bomb, ready to explode at any time. This anger could show up at any time and be redirected toward anything, such as cars, other people, or things in the home.