Analysis Of True Friendship

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Like Rock and Roll, true friendship will never die. True friendship withstands the test of time. It can be compared to a good song; I can listen to it over and over but never get tired of hearing it, and I can pause it, and pick up right where I left off. There is only one person in this entire world who I will never get tired of listening to or who I can go weeks without seeing and feel as if nothing has changed, and her name is Sara. We have known each other since kindergarten, and have been best friends since eighth grade. Why only eighth grade if I have known her since kindergarten? Well, because, as _________ states, “not all friendships are the same” (Citation). Most of my friendships …show more content…

Sara and I reached this stage when we began to spend time together outside of school. As ______ states, a “dyadic consciousness” developed; we began to see ourselves “friends” rather than acquaintances (citation). We did things as a unit, rather than as separate individuals. For instance, in my mind, Sara and I sat “together,” in class rather than “next to each other,” as we had before. The proximity theory, as well as self-disclosure, was a large influence on this second stage just as much as it was in the first stage of our friendship. We lived approximately ten blocks away from each other, so staying in touch over the summer was not a problem, and we took the short walk to see each other often. We often went to the lake together and rode horses, and during those long evening rides or leisurely afternoon floats we began to self-disclose, to open up and share our thoughts and feelings with one another. It was those hours spend self-disclosing that brought our relationship closer to the third and final stage of close and intimate …show more content…

This is, as _______ puts it, “an intensification of the casual friendship” (citation). _____ also states that at this stage, each of us “derives greater benefits (for example, emotional support) from intimate friendship than from casual friendship” (citation). Sara and I did indeed reap more benefits at this stage. For example, near the end of freshman year her father passed away, and I was there to console her and help in any way I could. Moreover, this stage of friendship is characterized by knowing one another’s values, opinions, and attitudes. At this stage, we exchange messages of affection that express our fondness and love for one another, and show that we care (citation). Sara and I do this still to this day; we text each other often and check in on one another to show that we care, we comment uplifting things on social media, and we make certain to make the other person know she is loved, saying “I love you”

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