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Like Rock and Roll, true friendship will never die. True friendship withstands the test of time. It can be compared to a good song; I can listen to it over and over but never get tired of hearing it, and I can pause it, and pick up right where I left off. There is only one person in this entire world who I will never get tired of listening to or who I can go weeks without seeing and feel as if nothing has changed, and her name is Sara. We have known each other since kindergarten, and have been best friends since eighth grade. Why only eighth grade if I have known her since kindergarten? Well, because, as _________ states, “not all friendships are the same” (Citation). Most of my friendships
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Sara and I reached this stage when we began to spend time together outside of school. As ______ states, a “dyadic consciousness” developed; we began to see ourselves “friends” rather than acquaintances (citation). We did things as a unit, rather than as separate individuals. For instance, in my mind, Sara and I sat “together,” in class rather than “next to each other,” as we had before. The proximity theory, as well as self-disclosure, was a large influence on this second stage just as much as it was in the first stage of our friendship. We lived approximately ten blocks away from each other, so staying in touch over the summer was not a problem, and we took the short walk to see each other often. We often went to the lake together and rode horses, and during those long evening rides or leisurely afternoon floats we began to self-disclose, to open up and share our thoughts and feelings with one another. It was those hours spend self-disclosing that brought our relationship closer to the third and final stage of close and intimate …show more content…
This is, as _______ puts it, “an intensification of the casual friendship” (citation). _____ also states that at this stage, each of us “derives greater benefits (for example, emotional support) from intimate friendship than from casual friendship” (citation). Sara and I did indeed reap more benefits at this stage. For example, near the end of freshman year her father passed away, and I was there to console her and help in any way I could. Moreover, this stage of friendship is characterized by knowing one another’s values, opinions, and attitudes. At this stage, we exchange messages of affection that express our fondness and love for one another, and show that we care (citation). Sara and I do this still to this day; we text each other often and check in on one another to show that we care, we comment uplifting things on social media, and we make certain to make the other person know she is loved, saying “I love you”
Once upon a time, there was a little bunny named Harriet, and she loved nothing more than playing with her best friend Alice. Alice lived across the field from Harriet’s burrow. They spent hours nibbling on clover and wiggling their whiskers. Most of all, they loved playing with Harriet’s Wii. One tragic day, the Wii broke. The next day, Harriet waited and waited for Alice to come over to play. Alice did not come that day, nor the next. Alice never came over to play again. Harriet did not know that Alice had found a new friend, with a Wii that worked. When Harriet found out about Alice’s betrayal of their friendship, she wondered: what is a true friend? In an attempt to ease her pain, Harriet got a big bowl of ice cream, and lost herself in reading the Nicomachean Ethics of Aristotle. There, she discovered that there were actually three different forms of friendship: pleasure, utility and perfection.
Because of this, Steve Duck of University of Iowa refers to women’s studies as “understudied relationships” (Duck 1). In his book, Under-Studied Relationships: Off the Beaten Track, Steve delves into the complicated world that is friendship between women. He reveals that even the best of relationships, more often than not, will “dissolve due to geographical distance”, especially during the transition from high school to college (133). However, Duck claims that this occurrence during young adult transitional periods is “more detrimental to male friendships than female friendships” (133). He explains that, “men’s inability to maintain distal friends may be due to a lack of awareness about and skills to utilize effective strategies that maintain a [friendship]” (184). This argument implies that though males are invested in their friendships, they do not express as much emotional interest in these relationships as their female counterparts. While distance may seem challenging for women to overcome, they collectively put more effort into preserving their friendships than men. Duck further instills this concept by explaining that “women’s same-sex friendships tend to be based more on intimate and emotional discussions than men’s” (186). Men, Duck argues, lack the depth in their friendships that women possess, and, for this reason, have difficulty sustaining a friendship that is met with the strain
From a young age most people have gone through many relationships with other people who were not their family. Thus, we often acknowledge these relationships as friendships. But the word friend is too broad, so people categorize their friends to several types. In her book “Necessary Losses: The Lovers, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow”, Judith Viorst divided friendships to six types. Those are convenience friends, special Interest friends, historical friends, crossroad friends, cross-generation friends and close friends. In my life, I have been friend with many people since I was little. Although I have met all six kinds of friend of Viorst, convenience friends and close friends are two important kinds of friends in my life.
Also, Erikson’s Intimacy versus Isolation theory explained that young adults at this stage will think about being intimate or having a close relationship with a person (Miller, 1983). This could be a friend who they can confide in or a sexual partner (Miller, 1983). Those who engage in marriage at a you...
Often, particular people end up friends because of simple proximity. People who are in close proximity can get the rewards of friendship (companionship, social approval, and the occasional helping hand) without much cost. For young adults entering the college years, intimacy-versus-isolation is a very real concern. College students are unique in that their first year of school can cause a cluster of psychological symptoms including loneliness, anxiety, and depression. However, being in close proximity to other students and developing and maintaining intimacy with others can lead to improvement of these symptoms. Technological advancements in the world today has made proximity a relative term. Cell phones, email, and social networking sites allowing young adults to maintain relationships from their past, while forming new relati...
They hypothesized that people would use friend representations to interpret strangers, especially friend-likes strangers. They also hypothesized that friendship importance, the amount of contact with a friend or parent, and the degree to which a friend or parent fulfills attachment-related needs
There are many types of people in the world and many types of friends. Knowing that, it becomes all the more important to select the right people so that one might have the correct friends, but which types of friends are required? There are ten different types of friends that everybody should have, each fitting into one of three categories: the occasional friends, the benefactors and the greats.
This longitudinal perspective opens up the possibility that the peer social environment is one that is dynamic. Friendships can be added and terminated resulting in the number of friends reported changes from childhood into and through adolescence. Children moving from intimate elementary classroom settings into a broader age range of adolescents in junior high and high school increases the potential for developing friendships with older adolescents. At the same time, the quality of the relationships with these friends may also be changing. Adolescent relationships are becoming more intimate than those of childhood with the sharing of intimate feelings and being aware of the needs of others becoming a prominent feature of friendship during adolescence.
According to the article "Development of Friendship Between Roommates", there are some crucial factors for researching a study such as this one, conducted at the University of California, Los Angeles(otherwise known as UCLA). These factors include making sure that the social exchange processes, equity, similarity and self-disclosure are all studied jointly. Another factor that was extremely important was that of time dimension, because "friendships are extended in time and because each of those processes is proposed to change as a friendship develops" (346). Altman and Taylor hypothesized that "over time persons engage in increasingly intimate self-disclosure" (346).
“The two ladies, who had been intimate since childhood, reflected how little they knew each other”. This is how, author, Edith Wharton shows the relationship of two characters, Mrs. Ansley and Mrs. Slade, in the short story “Roman Fever.” These two women who are supposed to be friends, led envious lives of each other, and because of the way they lived they were very contrasting and conflicting characters. In the end, I believe Mrs. Slade was guiltier for her actions and in fact the whole incident would have never happened if it weren’t for her.
Friendship is the most wonderful relationship that anyone can have. Ideally a friend is a person who offers love and respect and will never leave or betray us. Friends can tell harsh truths when they must be told. There are four different types of friends: True friends, Convenient friends, Special interest friends, and historical friends. To have friendship is to have comfort. In times of crisis and depression, a friend is there to calm us and to help lift up our spirits.
Throughout most of my life I have gained friendships and relationships with others that have turned into long term, but others which only lasted a short while. The friendship that has greatly impacted my life significantly over the last eight years is someone who means so much to me. This meaningful friendship all started back when I was in middle school, which has grown stronger over the years. I met Brooke in middle school because we had some of the same classes and were in homeroom together. Our friendship developed quickly and lasted throughout our high school years. We became really close our Junior and Senior year of high school. But, maintaining our friendship hasn’t always been so easy. Today, we text and call each other on our free time, but I know I can count and rely on her when I need someone to talk too. I call her my second sister and vice versa. And when we go home on breaks we see one another as much as we can. The best part of our relationship is that if one is in need of advice or in need of a shoulder to cry on, we are always there for one another. Keeping in contact is very important in our relationship and communication has played a key role in our relationship.
We do not make friends because they are useful but the bond of friendship, once it grows stronger and stronger has a number of positive aspects. There are certain secrets that can only be shared with our friends only. When we are facing a difficult situation in our lives, only true friends come forward to help us overcome all the difficulties.
Growing up in school you have your friends in 1st, then in Jr. High, and then when you get to high school you might not even know or see your friends from 1st grade anymore. For the few people who’s had a friend from 1st grade till college I think that someone they need to hold on to because if they stuck with you through all them year I know they’re there for the right reason and there not just there for a season. As Elizabeth Dunphy says, “It’s the little things that matter, that add up in the end, with the priceless thrilling magic found only in a friend.”
In life we come across many people. Some will hate us while others will adore us. The ones who hate us can be referred to as enemies and the ones who show us adoration are referred to as friends. There are three types of friends. They are the aquaintinces we make in school, the friends we loose as one grows, and best friends who may stray, but never too far away.