In the chapter “ The Upside of Dreaming” from her book Rethinking Positive Thinking, Gabriele Oettingen explains how positive fantasies are beneficial. Oettingen started out with a story of a college graduate. The college graduate Rachael was dealing with a heartbroken experience with seeing her boyfriend going to jail for selling drugs. Rachael felt as if she had a stay by her boyfriend’s side. She dreamt that the judge or the prosecutor was saying something bad about her boyfriend, Tim and giving him a lot of time in jail. Rachel wanted to defend him, but she knew couldn’t help him.Tim finally went to jail.
People go through situations that they are not able to handle. Rachael was very uncomfortable. When being in a situation, and it doesn’t go how it supposed to happen then it’s time for the positive fantasies to start. They have been proved to be useful and essential. “ Positive fantasies provide people with short-term pleasure, and they enable people to imaginatively explore an option for future action” ( Ottingen 24). Positive
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fantasies are important and useful part of life. People, who don’t have control over their lives have “ endured by imaging idealized outcome” (Ottingen 25). Some be exaggerated dreams and unrealistic. Positive fantasies have its “ ability to provide short-term relief from depression” (Ottingen 33). People behavior starts to change in a negative way. They deal with very bad pain. Their behaviors are not believing they have problem or drinking or doing drugs that show more of depression. People allow the drugs and alcohol be the cause of their pain.The short-term sufferer of depression is an important thing. Getting people to dream can be beneficial to them because it can be a therapist to them. It causes them to have relief. The pleasure of dreaming can have some way to argue that dreams can have values. Positive fantasies can help you learn what is real and was not real. Ottingen said that “ Dreaming is a vital way of claiming what belongs to you” (34). Dreaming is an important way of believing you in something that belongs to you. Dreaming you the difference what is reality and what is not reality. Dreams are good because they still have us believe. During the reading of Oettingen, Rethinking Positive Thinking, I found everything very interesting, but what really caught my eyes was her last paragraph. In my eyes dreams give people hope and a reason to believe. In my experience , I dreamt of graduating and walking down the aisle to make my parents proud. I made my dreams came true, I believed in myself in high school. My dreams gave me hope as senior. My high school was not an easy high school to be in. You had to work your butt off to make sure you was staying up with your grades.There were times I wanted to give up but I followed my dream kept going. My dream made pushed harder than I was pushing before. Positive Fantasies are good for the society because dreams can have the society have hope for their inner-selves. The society will give up on themselves so quick. Some just on their dreams and decide to just live real world instead trying to pursue their dreams. I believe that they are not giving their dreams a chance to happen. Dreams don’t come quick, they really take time; depending on how much hard you work it.
I think giving up on your dreams is like kind of giving yourself. When people lack of having control of their lives they endured by them imagine their dream and idealizing the outcome. They decided not to take action and make their dream come true. I thinks its like this because they could have insecurities and hope in the inner-selves. Some people have depression for not them following their dreams. Lose hope in themselves and makes not in themselves. This not beneficial because dreams are not becoming true and nobody want faith for themselves. They believe that it’s no point of having hope about their dreams if they think it’s not going to come true. I think if I can do so can others. They just have to the confident and potential as me, and whatever they want can come true. They also have to work hard and just give up it’s a obstacle
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People have goals everyday, believe it or not some people think that dreams aren't worth it. I believe that it is worth it to dream because it gives a person a goal, it makes them feel good, and it makes them stronger. I know this from The Pearl, A Cubs video, the Susan Boyle video, and We Beat the streets.
Imagination enables doctors to discover new ways of curing a disease, but also to discover new ways of inflicting pain. An imaginative vision of a paradise may inspire improvements, but may also convince people to eliminate obstacles that get in their way for their vision. In that respect, imagination is like knowledge. It can’t be good or bad. The more vivid the idea is, the more likely it is to motivate someone. If you want to reach a certain dream than you have to imagine
Everybody dreams during his lifetime. It is a part of human nature that we experience almost everyday. Dreams can be lost memories, past events and even fantasies that we relive during our unconscious hours of the day. As we sleep at night, a new world shifts into focus that seems to erase the physical and moral reality of our own. It is an individual's free mind that is privately exposed, allowing a person to roam freely in his own universe. As we dream, it seems that we cannot distinguish right from wrong or normal from abnormal and, therefore, commit acts that we would not have done in a realistic society. Perhaps Lewis Carroll, author of Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, describes the nature of dreams best. He contemplates the definition of insanity by saying, "... May we not then sometimes define insanity as an inability to distinguish which is the waking and which is the sleeping life?" He is suggesting that our dreams display a sense of mindless behavior, and an insane person could be one who does not realize he is awake and thinks he is still dreaming. Alice, the main character in these two books, is caught in her own lapse of reality and sanity. She is engulfed in a mass of items and events that she has experienced in the real world that have conformed to the environment of her own imagination. They are brought to life in a distorted way in her imaginative world of Wonderland. Throughout these stories, Alice encounters characters and landscapes that are created from her own view on nature and the behavior of people as she knows it. Alice dreams of animals taking the roles of adults and a misshapen landscape of unusual foliage and shifting conditions in propo...
Oprah Winfrey once said, “The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don't know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened.” But, what actually is a dream and what do dreams really have to do with one’s everyday life? In essence, a dream is a series of mental images and emotions occurring during slumber. Dreams can also deal with one’s personal aspirations, goals, ambitions, and even one’s emotions, such as love and hardship. However, dreams can also give rise to uneasy and terrible emotions; these dreams are essentially known as nightmares. In today’s society, the concept of dreaming and dreams, in general, has been featured in a variety of different mediums, such as literature, film and even music. While the mediums of film and music are both prime examples of this concept, the medium of literature, on the other hand, contains a much more diverse set of examples pertaining to dreams and dreaming. One key example is William Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream. While the portrayal of dreams, in general, plays a prominent role in Shakespeare’s play, the exploration of many aspects of nature, allows readers to believe that dreams are merely connected to somewhat unconventional occurrences.
Synopsis. One of the more interesting readings in Behrens and Rosen’s Writing and Reading Across the Curriculum was “Happy Like God” by Simon Critchely. His major point was his own opinion on the flow of happiness that everyone experience’s throughout their daily life.
...resses but also repressed desires and possible predetermination of some psychological disorders. Using dream material is also a good way of changing how we look at and define ourselves; and thus of helping patients find new understanding of themselves, new ways of behaving, new aspects of personality (Calmar, 1987)
to be pointing at. What if that person gets stuck doing another job that he/she lacks interest in and that talent turns into something negative just because society didn’t allowed him/her to fulfill his/her dreams? What now? What is going to happen to that person? If a person with his/her shelved dream loses all hope and is so filled up with anger, he/she might explode with resentment and may commit suicide, homicide or maybe both.
Although, not all dreams come true, giving up is never going to be the correct answer. The whole idea of the American Dream is doing what you love without any consequences. If people allow life to get in the way of their happiness, certain people are constantly going to be upset with the way life turns out. Dreams are not meant to happen overnight or be easy to achieve. Dreams take time, effort, and ambition to achieve. Even then dreams might never come true, but that should not stop anyone from trying their utmost hardest.
A variety of dream theories will be analysed after which a number of benefits to dreaming will be explored. It will implicate different possible dream applications drawing information from dream-themed books and movies. The ethical concerns of such innovations will be scrutinised. • Limitations The report is limited to a scientific perspective mainly due to the word count.
Maintaining a positive attitude is the key to success in life. However, a positive mindset alone is useless unless it is coupled with dedication, perseverance, and desire. Positivity, if coupled with these other traits, can allow you to surpass adversity, impediments, and personal goals. Negative attitudes, oppositely, can detract from achieving success because a negative mindset can often lead you to losing sight of the goal or giving up easily. Last year, I was diagnosed with a virus called mononucleosis ("mono") -- symptoms of which include chronic fatigue, sore throat, and fever. I had mono for five months, during which I played my favorite sports: cross country, indoor track, and outdoor track. Mono made running seem almost impossible; I was always tired and could no longer run like I used
Norman Vincent Peale, minister and author of “The Power of Positive Thinking”, once declared: “the trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism”. The majority of people do not take pleasure in receiving criticism; this is especially the case in the world of public speaking. Criticism in public speaking assists with refining skills and supports personal growth, but it is not without challenges. There are ways to overcome the challenges which accompany receiving and giving criticism. The ability to bounce back from criticism is a key skill amongst accomplished public speakers; they did not start out being the best public speakers. Being able to accept criticism is a difficult skill to learn, but it is imperative to the growth of a speaker.
We can expect bad things to happen, but even then, it's hard to accept. I'm not saying I'm a dreamer. I'm just saying that I follow broken dreams. That way, I won't be disappointed when they don't come true. Plus, I have no other dreams to follow."
People give up on their dreams because they decide it is just to difficult for them, without even trying. In my hometown;
Jim carrey, a famous hollywood actor, said “Is it better to risk starving to death than surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what’s left?” The big hollywood dream is not for everyone. However, take it from Jim carrey, a funny man even, understands dreams because he sought after his. What is left of anyone, if they never even attempt to chase their dream? Often times people don’t chase their dreams because they fear risk, leaving people behind, changing, and the idea that the dream might or might not be their fate. Everyone has a dream, their dreams have changed, their dreams have even come true, or fear and risk have pushed them away from their dreams. Some believe fate is linked to their dreams, and they have a purpose in the world. Some
The world is made up of optimist and pessimists, and the survival of human beings and our well-being requires a balance between optimism and pessimism. Disproportionate pessimism makes life unbearable; however, too much optimism can advance to dangerously hazardous behaviors. The Optimism and pessimism approach is expecting a positive or negative future outcome, a recognizable way of reasoning is best conceptualized as continuity with many amounts of optimism and pessimism. Successful living requires a great balance between optimism and pessimism. Too much optimism may embolden one to take uncalculated risks that will lead to inadvertent and reckless behaviors, which may conclude in a catastrophe. On the contrary, worrying too much about