Amy chua is a parent of the strict style, while she prefers to use the word "Chinese". She believes that there are two types of parents "Chinese" and "Western" with chinese being strict and western being more lenient and free. When she is using the word “Chinese” she means chinese, jamaican, etc. parents who are stereotyped as strict parents, while western parents are stereotyped as the happy golucky american with the allamerican son or daughter. Chua writes about her experience parenting and how strict she is as a parent while also presenting what she believes "Western" parents do. While also showing how her parenting will be perceived as too strict and abrasive. Amy Chua is a parent who believes her way is the right way and those who parent …show more content…
Many times she uses example of her parenting she describes herself as being strict to a point where she almost seems heartless and in many cases stereotypical. In one case she is describing how a “Chinese” and “Western” parents react to grades to which she writes, “If a Chinese child gets a B which would never happenthere would first be a screaming, hairtearing explosion.”, which to me is a very stereotypical view of Chinese mothers. While she then states she believes the way “Western” parents are soft for not calling their kids …show more content…
On the most general sense the parents of these two nations will parent differently due to the sole fact of where they live. For example if you take two families on in China that is middle class and one in America that is middle class there's hire likelihood that the parents that are based in China will be more strict when it comes to grades than the American family, and not because Chinese parents are naturally more strict, but because of our different education systems and populations. In China there is over 1 billion people while in America we don’t even come close to half of their population, so what does that mean not enough jobs for all those people with prices of things like food and gas rising for the strain all those people put on the national economy, but what can save you. It’s simple being educated if you can reach the top of your class you can raise your chances drastically of having a better life for yourself and your family. However in America where we still have moderate unemployment we have far less people which causes less of a strain on our economy, and also unlike China many of our most advertised people are not for their brains but for their talents. So in our culture parents put more effort than maybe a Chinese into making the kid happy and promoting their talents, but this does not make American parents superior or vice versa, American parents have a different circumstance than Chinese parents based in China. What Chua needs to
Amy Chua utilizes evidence to verify that Western parenting practice is wrong and not as effective as Chinese parenting practice. In her article, Chua comments, “Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners, “Hey fatty-lose some weight.” By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue” (Chua 54). She also gives her observation as evidence to convince Westerners treat their kid wrongly. She adds her observation in her article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” “I also once heard a Western father toast his adult daughter by calling her “beautiful and incredibly competent.” She later told me that made her feel like garbage” (Chua 54). Brooks, in opposite, does not fight against to prove Chinese parenting techniques are completely wrong. However, he just want to give evidence so that Chua and Chinese, in common, understand Western parenting practices are good in some ways. In Brooks’ article, he clears, “So I’m not against the way Chua pushes her daughters” (Brooks 59). Furthermore, David Brooks writes in his article “I wish she recognized that in some important ways the school cafeteria is more intellectually demanding than the library” (Brooks
In the Article “Amy Chua Is A Wimp” by David Brook. He points out chinese parents mindset and approach. Amy is a wimp for not allowing her children to experience the truly demanding cognitive, such as participating in the most intellectually demanding activities. Chua's intentions of isolating her childrens from the group is not allowing her children to be emotionally intellectual. Chua’s style of chinese parenting is pressuring her children to focus only on academic success. Due to Chua’s strict parenting method her kids are not truly creative and passionate. Chua’s firm guarding enables her children to build the sense of maturity and knowing the reality of the world. Therefore, Chua’s superior parenting style should not be praised.
New Yorker Elizabeth Kalbert focuses on a story on America’s Top Parent. Amy Chua a writer on “The Roar of the Tiger mom,” Kalbert tells how there are two kinds of mothers. Amy Chua for instance is a Chinese woman who keeps her children from the outside world Chua, and her daughters of Chinese immigrants. Her daughters and herself practice their work every day and is a law school professor, who also includes only the best for her children. Although western mothers think they are being strict when their children were to practice their work.
“Two Kinds” by Amy Tan is about an immigrant family from China. The two main characters consist of a chinese mother named, Suyuan, and her American-born daughter, Jing Mei. For Suyuan, moving to America meant opportunities. She pushes her daughter, Jing Mei, into trying new activities in hopes of turning her into a child prodigy. Jing Mei becomes stubborn and resentful. Her attitude towards her mother becomes a protective wall against her struggle to change her. Amy Tan’s “Two Kinds”, depicts the cultural conflict that can arise between first-generation American children and their Chinese immigrant parents today.
There are big differences in how Chinese mothers act towards their children compared to Western mothers including the expression of feelings and approval, the worth of their children, and what is best for them. Amy Chua (2011) incorporates her own personal experiences of being a Chinese mother within her article and compares that to what she witnesses in America.
The author starts the article with saying, “A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids.”. With this
Chua then tells a story about her daughter, Lulu, struggling with playing a piece of music on the piano and refused to let her give up. Chua threatened to give her dollhouse away, and also threatened to not let her eat until she played it perfectly. After hours of practicing and stressing over the difficult piece, Lulu finally played it successfully and she was so proud of herself she repetitively played it and did not want to stop. Chua knew the whole time her child could accomplish her goal and was willing to apply the necessary amount of pressure for it to become possible. She then explains that Western parents worry way too much about their child’s self-esteem, and instead they should worry about their children giving up. Chua admits that most parents just want the best for their children and will do pretty much anything to protect them no matter the circumstance. She finally states that while Western parents support their children’s individuality and all activities they are involved in, Chinese parents prepare their children for the future and help them believe they can achieve anything they set their minds
Amy sticks to the Chinese parenting she learned, but she doesn’t get the desired results with Lulu. After growing up and seeing such different standards for her peers, Lulu begins to disobey her mother. However, Amy being the Chinese mother she is does not condone her daughter’s disobedience and feels the need to double down. She responds with “Had I not been strict enough? Given her too much” (173)? Amy’s past orientation causes her to think she didn’t do a good enough job of Chinese parenting, when instead it is the opposite problem. Lulu wants more Western values to be incorporated and for the restrictions of Chinese parenting to be gone. None of her friends have parents who exert as much control over their lives. In America, freedom and individual choice are valued, and Lulu’s mother doesn’t give her much of either. Lulu and her mother get into a fight where Lulu says “I know-I’m not what you want-I’m not Chinese! I don’t want to be Chinese” (205). The expectations and important values that Lulu is introduced to in her school life goes against what her mother values and expects of her. It is clear from the way she acts out and says that she doesn’t want to be Chinese, that she doesn’t like this one bit. While Chinese parenting might’ve worked in China, it is more difficult in America because Western values are bound to affect children growing up there, who might then start to see that style as extreme-just as Lulu
In “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” Amy Chua argues that while Western parents have a certain way of parenting that works for them. She believes that Chinese parenting is the best way to raise a child so that they become successful adults. There are many differences between the two, from standards, to punishment, and motivation.
The very first important development for a successful country is to have a respectable education system for those who need it from the first day they are born into the world. We have to instill what we want in our people to reflect how we want our to development to appear. In china their school system has more of a strict structure for example, at Harbin Number One High School; students begin school at 7:00 a.m., and remain until 8:20 p.m. The seniors, preparing for their final examinations, stay later, even until 10:00 at night.(Rybak) In a Chinese school the day are much longer than an American school day. This means that Chinese student spend a lot more time in school which bring us to conclusion that Chinese are more advantaged then the American student in long run. This prepares them for college or even the young adult can be bio-lingual. Most American student usually attends school for seven hours each weekday and may forget what they have learned because it in instilled into the young adults’ heads like the Chinese do with their students.
The culture differences were evident the moment I stepped off the plane to greet my waiting parents; people were kissing each other on the cheeks to say hello, kids were interacting with their parents like best friends…things I’ve only seen on T.V. But nothing prepared me for the American style of education. In China, I was ranked and compared with my peers within every aspect of my learning: tests, homework, and even the neatness of my writing (you name it, we ranked it)! In a Chinese mentality, being the best is the only way a person knows she is succeeding. By the time I moved to the U.S., my mindset was to fend for myself. If others fail,
Having read Shirley Jackson's "The Lottery" (1948) several times now; the biggest thing I've learned is that just because something is tradition, that doesn't make it right. In our lives it's easy to get in the habit of doing things because that's how our parent's or grandparent's did it. It is important to make sure we are in God's word, examining our actions to make sure that they line up with what God wants of us.
“Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” is an excerpt from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, a Yale Law professor. In this excerpt the author explains why Chinese children tend to be more successful in life and expresses her dislike towards Western parenting. The first idea Chua explains is a list of activities her daughters are allowed to do and not do in order to focus solely on academic progress. Second, the author demonstrates the contrast in mindset between Chinese mothers and Western mothers by explaining how Chinese mothers feel differently than Western mothers in regards to academic success and learning. Furthermore, she describes how Chinese mothers can demand things from their children. Finally, they can also say
Every parent uses different ways of parenting some parents like to be lenient because they value independence, and others like to be very strict because they value more culture and family but both want to teach something to their kids and succeed in different parenting experiences. In the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, Amy Chua writes about her experience of raising her two daughters in a very strict “Chinese” way. In her book Chua claims that Chinese “strict” parents raise their kids better than Western “lenient” parents. Chua raises her daughters Sophia and Lulu with strong habits, skills and self confidence for their future. Expecting a lot from her daughters, Chua forces Sophia and
The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” was written in 2011 by Amy Chua, who is a professor at Yale Law School in the United States of America. The article follows significant themes such as the upbringing of children and perfectionism.