Adoption Solutions

Adoption Adoption is a strenuous process that affects the child and the parent. Most of the time it has lasting effects on the child, due to many issues within the adoption process itself. A child who has gone through the adoption process also deals with issues post adoption. Information of birth parents may be locked away due to the fact that the birth mother does not want to have contact with the child. Which brings me to the first solution I have to offer. My first solution is to open adoption records to adopted kids. Granted this has actually been happening in 24 states across the nation already. (OmniTrace) Opening the records in the other 26 states could resolve major issues. More to the topic of genetic issues, kids who are adopted

The reason I say this is because of a couple of reasons. Those being loss/grief, identity development, and lastly self-esteem. Starting with loss/grief, a child can experience a sense of what they call “ambiguous loss”. “Ambiguous loss is the loss of someone who still is alive.” This could tie into a sense of uncertainty such as “do I look like my parents.” Also tying this into identity development because the child does not a have a sense of belonging. Especially during the adolescent years, a child can have a feeling of not really knowing who they really are. This issue can pile onto the child creating further questions of who they really are. Such as“Why was I put into adoption”,”Do I have siblings that look like my birth parents.” Questions like these really further the gap between who I think I am vs. who I really am. All this really ties into self-esteem. Pretty much if you know the why, the how, where, when, you feel better about the situation. Compared to someone who does not they have a hard time dealing with what they have been delt. Especially trying to vent to someone, most of the time it is hard for a child to find someone who understands what they go through. (child

I find this to be a tricky one. Mostly due to the fact that myself I have not really accepted my situation completely. “According to child welfare, there is 5 phases that an adoptive child will most likely go through.”(child welfare) Phase 1 is no awareness/denying the adoption or the issues that come with that.” This is a pretty difficult stage to go through especially early on in a child's life, not knowing or denying can lead to more problems than they realize. “Phase 2 is, emerging awareness of the adoption process and issues.”(child welfare) This is a step in the right direction, the child is starting to experience a sense of who they are and confidence is starting to rise. They are slowly getting there, but then comes phase 3 which hits harder than most expect. “Phase 3 is drowning awareness, the adopted child has feelings of loss, anger, and sadness about the adoption. It happens to most kids going through post-adoption.”(Child welfare) There mind goes a racing and they start overthinking the situation which creates problems like those listed above. “Phase 4, the adopted child realizes the situation they were put into, and are now seeing the positive aspects and looking towards acceptance. This is an amazing step to take. Realizing the situation and working towards a positive future is great! Me personally I can say that I am in phase 4. I realize the situation