When the word trauma is used to describe a situation, what feelings are associated with the word? Is it sadness? Pain? Trauma may be identified as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience, but it is not always an ending. I am going to write about my very first love. I rarely talk about it anymore but considering the assignment and much needed release, it seemed like the right topic for me. Do not worry, I will not go into full detail, but just enough to understand how one of the worst things that has ever happened to me, made me find light in such a dark place. I met my dear towards the end of my middle school career, I was heading into my freshman year when I fell head over heels for a boy. I was so young and naive at the time, but …show more content…
We were finally eighteen. Keep in mind, I met this boy when we were only thirteen. That's five years of being a part of each other's lives. Five years of planning, five years of building something invincible, all the while dealing with friends, family, school, and our own battles. Pretty impressive, if I must say. I was starting my freshman year of college, while he was starting his senior year of high school. As the assignments became harder, and the stress became very overwhelming, we started to see how busy our lives were going to be for a while. But, there was nothing we could not handle. With that being true, how does one handle losing their significant other? In November of 2015, I lost my love to an impaired driver, while he was riding his street bike. That day still haunts me. Certain smells, noises, and songs can trigger a memory. Some are good and some are bad, but they are still memories. The memories are definitely what helped me overcome such a life changing experience. I'm here to sum up how I went from hitting rock bottom, to being where I am …show more content…
All I did was go to work and come straight home. I would work 8-10 hours a day to keep myself busy, and avoid being in my bedroom, in my bed, where I sat alone with my emotions. I needed something new, so I decided to try and make new friends, or reach out to those in need. I never really put much effort into making new friends, but I made sure I spent my free time talking to those who needed guidance. I saw a post that everyone kept sharing on Facebook, this young woman lost her significant other as well. I knew it was not my place to message a complete stranger, who just went through something so heart wrenching, but I took a chance. We talked for a few days and I gave her some pointers on how I manage a healthy balance between my mental state and emotions. I will admit it was comforting knowing I could express my pain and sadness to someone who actually understood everything I felt. The day she thanked me, something in me clicked. I felt a sense of hope for myself from helping someone
The “Trauma” is a. It doesn't eke itself out over time. It doesn’t split itself manageably into bite-sized chunks and distribute it equally throughout your life. Trauma is all or nothing. A tsunami wave of destruction. A tornado of unimaginable awfulness that whooshes into your life - just for one key moment - and wreaks such havoc that, in just an instant, your whole world will never be the same again”(Holly Bourne, The Manifesto on How to be Interesting).
Trauma can impact someone’s life to where they can’t make connections with anyone. Even connecting with family it would be hard.Trauma changes the way they see the world and other people. In both Good Will Hunting and The Catcher in the Rye, Will and Holden go through traumatic events that change their lives. This makes them see everything negatively and impacts their ability to cope.
Trauma is defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience; however, it can impact those who experience the initial experience and those who learn about it. Secondary trauma is a state of emotional distress caused by hearing the firsthand stories of trauma survivors. Trauma is a social disease because it is spread through close relationships impacting family and friends and can be prevented.
“Trauma is used when describing emotionally painful and distressing experiences or situations that can overwhelm a person’s ability to cope” (John A. Rich, Theodore Corbin, & Sandra Bloom, 2008). Trauma could include deaths, violence, verbal and nonverbal words and actions, discrimination, racism etc. Trauma could result in serious long-term effects on a person’s health, mental stability, and physical body. Judith Herman, from Trauma and Recovery, said “Traumatic events are extraordinary, not because they occur rarely, but rather because they overwhelm the ordinary human adaptations to life” (John A. Rich, Theodore Corbin, & Sandra Bloom, 2008). Trauma does not involve the same experiences for everyone; each individual is unique in that they, and only they, can decide what is traumatic for them.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines trauma as a very difficult or unpleasant experience that causes someone to have mental or emotional problems usually for a long time (Merriam-Webster, Incorporated, 2015). From a medical perspective trauma is describe as severe damage to a person’s body. Trauma can be cause by multiple factors in a person life. Trauma could stem from a distressing experience of a physical or psychological nature. In recent years’ major natural disasters and acts of terrorism have become more prominent and devastating creating long lasting traumatic effects in individuals lives. Trauma can have a lasting negative impact on a person’s life. The lasting effects of trauma can have a negative effect in development as well as
In the production of Shakespeare’s Hamlet, trauma played a huge role in the lives of some of the characters. Characters such as Hamlet, Ophelia and even Hamlet’s mother, Gertrude displayed effects of trauma within this production. Trauma is defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. Brooke Sanders came and explained how people are affected by traumatic events in their life time whether it has to do with death, family issues, or just dealing with issues in life, period.
According to the American Psychological Association, trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event. Some terrible events that happen all too often are rape, natural disasters or an accident. Immediately following the event shock and denial are likely to occur, but in the long-term flashbacks, unpredictable emotions and troubled relationships can arise. Defining emotional trauma on a child. Emotional trauma in a child can be created by bullying, emotional abuse, death of loved ones, separation from parent, or chaos and dysfunction in the household. Child symptoms of trauma can be very similar to depression symptoms. They can over sleep or sleep to little, unexplained anger, trouble focusing, obsessive worrying and some anxiety. How a child experiences an event and how it’s handled by those around him have an effect on how traumatizing it can be, notes Dr. Jerry Bubrick (Child Mind Institute , 2017). People grieve at different speeds and the way the child grieves is not the correct indicator on how the child will cope later. Defining physical trauma on a child. Physical trauma on a child is considered non-accidental or the cause of physical injury. Some households that suffer from alcoholism/substance abuse and anger issues have higher occurrences of child abuse as compared to households without according to psychology today. Sometimes kids that are abused are unaware that they are being abused and are victims of child
It was almost midnight on a school night during my freshman year of high school and I had just laid down in bed after getting
We were suffering, my grandma was suffering. I loved that as a family we had each other, but there was no one there to help guide us into repairing the brokenness within our family. We didn’t discuss what was happening, we didn’t discuss what we could do to help each other. Everyone went about their day and kept it to themselves. As a young child and later as a teenager, I found this confusing. I wanted my feelings to be heard. I wanted to hear the feelings of my family. I wanted us to start healing, and I wanted to help. The desire to help others truly began within these terrible times my family was experiencing. I wanted to help individuals and families who going through situations like members of my family were going through. I wanted to give people someone to be able to confide in in their darkest and most vulnerable
I met her in the autumn right after she had taken a terrible fall going to her mailbox and I was hired by her family as an in home aide. Her name was Jane* and she became a fast friend and provided me with never to be forgotten lessons that cant be taught within the walls of a school. Jane took the time to prove to me that I was worth loving and showed me unconditional love that at the time I couldn’t find. In the end all I have left are a few cherished memories, a pearl necklace, and some of the best lessons in life.
When the end of my 5th grade year had hit; A land mark of the most traumatizing event of my life was about to take place. My mom had left my father and took us along with her. Over the summer and a few addit...
The first time I met him my heart felt as though I had met him before. There are no words that can clearly articulate the connection. It was a magnetic energy, an intuitive knowing and everything felt right. There was no matter of space or time but we had found our way to each other, there was an instant feeling of security, he fit so perfectly into my life it was as if somehow he had been there all along. He was someone that I couldn't imagine being without.
The theory of trauma that will be highlighted in this study has been discussed in many books, journals and theses. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman (1992) explores trauma and puts individual experience in a broader political frame, arguing that psychological trauma can be understood only in a social context. The book also documents and uses the victims’ own words to change the way we think about and treat traumatic events and trauma victims. John Fletcher's book Freud and the Scene of Trauma (2013) helps to explain the affinity that Freud had felt between psychoanalysis and literature and the privileged role of literature in the development of his thought.
Vincent and I met when we were in grade school, and since then we have grown into best friends and then into boyfriend and girlfriend for more than a year now. Vincent was from the class below me, and while I was heading to another college, we decided to start talking and ended up being in a relationship, knowing that it would be a long distance relationship. We entered into a long distance relationship having in mind that we were in school and needed to accommodate our relationship as best we could.
I was in my final year at high-school. I was only seventeen and the pressure of knowing that the outcome of school results would determine my whole life ahead finally got to me. I snapped. One day, in the absence of my parents, I ran away from home, hoping never to return.