A Comparison of ‘To His Coy Mistress’ by Andrew Marvell and ‘To His Mistress Going to Bed’ by John Donne

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A Comparison of ‘To His Coy Mistress’ by Andrew Marvell and ‘To His Mistress Going to Bed’ by John Donne

‘To His Coy Mistress’ and ‘To His Mistress Going to Bed’ are both

poems about men seducing women. They centre around sex rather than

love or romance. Sixteenth and seventeenth century attitudes to love

and relationships were much stricter going as far as wealthy people

asking their perspective lovers to court them via love poem or letter.

Though this has changed from the sixteenth and seventeenth century to

today, little else has. It is still most common for a man to initiate

a relationship, and men are still perceived as the most sex obsessed.

However, even though we are led to believe that their attitudes were

more conservative, the attitudes conveyed in these poems are very raw

and primitive in the way that they make sex the ultimate. The men are

desperate begging the women for sex. However, as we know from other

poems (such as Cousin Kate and The Seduction) men valued purity above

most other things (when considering marriage). So we could say that

these men were hypocritical for wanting their women pure for marriage

but willing to have sex with them pre-marriage!

These poems are both themed on love, sex, romance and seduction.

However, the attitudes towards their relationships and lovers are

completely diverse. Andrew Marvell uses all forms of persuasion both

negative and positive to get her into bed with him. On the other hand

John Donne doesn’t seem to have to persuade his lover to sleep with

him at all, it seems that she is already willing. Andrew Marvell

appears to be incredibly desperate, but, in an unrelated way quite

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...day. Today we are much freer to talk

about our emotions. Whether we want to or not, nowadays when we listen

to music, see the television, films, magazines, papers, even just

walking down the street we have sexual, lustful references forced on

us. Back in the sixteenth and seventeenth century people didn’t have

the opportunities we have today to express themselves where as in

Donne and Marvell’s times emotional outlets were few and far between.

Therefore when they did get an opportunity they really went into

graphic detail, and although this can seem quite disgusting I can

understand why it had to be this way. My favourite of the two poems is

“To His Mistress Going to Bed”. I preferred it because the atmosphere

created by Donne is more loving, romantic and sincere. It really

showed that he had deep emotional capability.

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