7) Expectations Couples are optimistic in relationships, especially when they are committed to each other. Some require extra attention while others are easy to please. At first, most people are not very demanding due to fear of scaring the other person away. However, over time this attitude changes. Difficult to please people have no inhibitions about pointing out disapproval. This can be a range of little things, such as not washing dishes after dinner or keeping the toilet sit down, all the way to absolute control over insignificant details. Expectations that are hard to meet bring uncertainty to a relationship. Some examples of this are requesting an expensive diamond ring for a wedding when you do not have the income, or demanding a vacation to an exuberant place or having to buy a house right away when you have insufficient credit. Other expectations can be reasonable, but harder to meet. A seemingly easy expectation is family or church weekly visitation. Just because you enjoy it does not mean everyone in your household does. Other examples include personal habits and house chores among …show more content…
Communication is the key to understanding personal values. By understanding the other person, one can have a clear picture of where the relationship is going. You must also be true to yourself. If the differences of opinion are too radical, it might be better to call it all off before it gets too serious. We must never compromise our most important values. Do not make a commitment with the assumption that your partner will agree to change just for you. We need more than love to keep us together. Unconditional love should exist in all marriages, but in reality, it does not. When the gap is not too great, try your best to please. You will receive rewards beyond measure, as long as your partner 's love is real. I do not know anyone who does not appreciate seeing a loved one making an effort to
Stepping into a new life with someone is difficult enough, but if you step into the marriage with unrealistic expectations (which vary among couples) you’ve set yourself up for great conflicts. In “The Myth of Co-Parenting” and “My Problem with her Anger,” both Edelman and Bartels are at a disadvantage due to the expectations they’ve created. Everything in their marriages is going in a different direction, and nothing is parring up with their original expectations. They’ve seen marriages they admire, and also marriages on the other side of the spectrum. To better phrase this, both authors allow expectations to control their mindset in their marriages, but Edelman’s expectations
The relationship between the husband and wife seems initially to be perfect. They both show each other expressions of love. There is understanding, harmony, financial security, and good communication between them. The couple spends a lot of time together, discussing future plans, and talking about the good moments they had in the past. However, behind all of this positive interaction between the two of them is something they are both not able
Bonnie and Clyde, Adam and Eve, Beyonce and Jay-Z – these are six individuals, but perhaps more conspicuously, they conjure up an image of three couples, each better recognized as a unit than is any individual member of the dyad alone. Indeed, when individuals become romantically involved, they often morph into a single entity in the eyes of others; for example, celebrities Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie earned themselves the single moniker of “Brangelina” when they started dating, exemplifying this phenomenon of thinking about romantic couples as a unit rather than just as separate individuals. Yet, despite rife anecdotal evidence such as these compound couple nicknames, psychological theory and research have paid relatively little attention
For a relationship to stay successful overtime, the couple should be able to communicate with each other. Having the ability to talk to your significant other about problems that are occurring in your life or even if it's just for a simple advise, you should always be able to talk to them. For example, in Hemingway's, "Hills Like Elephants", the husband and wife talk about having an abortion and the wife just tells him at one point to be quite because she did not want to hear him. (Hemingway, 2004, p. 232) That shows that the couple is struggling in communication, that one partner does not wish to hear her husbands opinion and views on the matter not just because she is getting an abortion to make him happy; but because he did not seem to care as much of her views and opinions on the topic.
It is clear that gender roles and expectations become linked to broader cultural beliefs and prejudices. Some occur due to culture and religion, others due to the prejudices through the hetero-patriarchal normativity of gender roles and expectations. As evident in the documentaries “Gender Against Men”, “Gay Witch Hunt in Iraq”, “Life at Any Price” and “Guatemala: Killer’s Paradise,” if surely gender-based expectations and norms are explicitly defined and manifest into violence, war, murder and prejudice. This paper will decide whether or not the state plays a key role in all of the above cases.
Even traditionally strong relationships, such as marriage, are prone to many instances of interpersonal conflicts. Home buying; what is important to each in a home? Career choices; does one career affect the other, if so, which one is more important to each? Holiday plans can involve conflict. Oftentimes during the holidays I would like to visit with my family...
Before marriage, couples often find themselves talking all the time, but this soon lessens over time. They must understand and learn from one another, by means of taking time to share their thoughts and feelings. For the marriage to grow in unison, and prosperity, each must try to know what the other is thinking. Problems can fester over time, if not addressed in a timely manner. Each should take a moment to listen, and look in each other’s eye, so you can recognize each other’s needs and concerns. Genuine compliments should also be a part of ordinary conversations. Always use kind words and be supportive and attentive, in addition to motivating each other to succeed in all areas of
With commitment comes challenge. Various items can affect two people’s choice to commit and their future within that commitment. One of these challenges includes distance. With distance two people are not able to share the small events of their day with their partner. Distance disables two people share their ordinary comings and goings that helps relationship stay woven together. Another challenge is unrealistic expectations for time together. Partners who are distant tend to expect each moment that they spend together to be perfect. They believe that conflict should be avoided and that they should be joyfully focused on their partner not realizing that conflict no matter what type of relationship is inevitable. Another challenge with this type of relationship is unequal effort that the two partners invest to make and maintain their connection. One of the main reasons distant relationships do not work is because one person feels as if they are doing all of the work to keep the relationship solid and ongoing. (Wood, 407)
Then, people in relationship should have communication, willing to work through the inevitable differences, and aware of their partners own live-time goals. After reading chapter 6 Relationships: Mindsets in Love (Or Not) in Mindset, I found Dweck has a really good point, she writes, “A no effort relationship is a doomed relationship, not a great relationship. It takes work to communicate accurately and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs.” It does not really dangerous that a relationship have a serious problem, as long as people are pleased to discuss and put themselves in each other’s shoes, their relationship is going to grow and
I can relate this to a relationship. Many women want their husbands to be understanding and do things around the house without being told. Women expect men to know what they are thinking and feeling all the time. In reality, many men do not know what their wife expects them to do which can lead to problems or arguments. Also this can be related to jobs. Many people work very hard and expect to get paid more or have some kind of bonus. Especially if that person has a degree in that specific field, but what people sometimes get is underpay and no
They wanted to become someone else, sacrifice themself for their relationship. I told them that their partner loves them for who they are. But, they would have to sacrifice some things to adapt to their relationship. Relationships take two people working as one, willing to sacrifice for each other. Sacrifices help relationships grow and build into amazing things. A three part study on relationships and sacrifices, with a sample of eighty dating couples. Partners reported on their daily sacrifices and then took a survey. When partners discussed a sacrifice they had made, they experienced greater relationship quality. The research shows that the quality of the relationship gets better with
Men and women have diverse thoughts and beliefs, leading them to take different actions. It consists of a lot of decision making and depends on whether or not the needs of the partners are being fulfilled (Lauer, 2012). Humans are driven by power and encourage competition, even in marriage. The way a husband and wife can apply power is based on their interaction. A healthy marriage needs good communication to survive (“Understanding Marriage”). Conversations can be symmetrical, where spouses give similar messages to each other (Lauer, 2012). This type of discussion can be competitive, neutralized, and submissive. Conversations can also be complementary, where spouses agree that one partner is dominant and one is
However; if marriage wants to be happy, each of them need to give their best to have a good relationship, they also have to respect each other, have patience and always talk about their problems or dreams. As a matter of the fact that romantic love is essential and that exists, some marriages have been together for more than fifty years; their secrets are not expensive, or impossible ones, in fact, they are as familiar and accessible as patience, love, and respect. Today's couples should value the essence of marriage and should put on a scale what is most important and give their beloved the value they deserve. It is essential to learn to love as couples did before
The more you get to know someone, the more you are able to make better decisions and judgments for not just yourself, but for your partner as well. How a couple handles issues while
Throughout most of my life I have gained friendships and relationships with others that have turned into long term, but others which only lasted a short while. The friendship that has greatly impacted my life significantly over the last eight years is someone who means so much to me. This meaningful friendship all started back when I was in middle school, which has grown stronger over the years. I met Brooke in middle school because we had some of the same classes and were in homeroom together. Our friendship developed quickly and lasted throughout our high school years. We became really close our Junior and Senior year of high school. But, maintaining our friendship hasn’t always been so easy. Today, we text and call each other on our free time, but I know I can count and rely on her when I need someone to talk too. I call her my second sister and vice versa. And when we go home on breaks we see one another as much as we can. The best part of our relationship is that if one is in need of advice or in need of a shoulder to cry on, we are always there for one another. Keeping in contact is very important in our relationship and communication has played a key role in our relationship.