On the “What is your Explanatory Style” quiz I scored a three on the bad event category and a three on the good event category. My results show that I have an average level of pessimism about negative and average level of optimism about positive events but what does this all mean for me? My average score on the bad events category shows that there is room for improvement when I am faced with a difficult event or person. It is very important for me to become more of a glass half full person because of the many benefits. People who are more pessimistic are healthier, have longer life spans, are more successful in their careers, and have stronger immune systems. I believe that the reason I did not score higher on the quiz fall within Seligmans’ …show more content…
With every difficult or discouraging event in my life I have two choices. I can either become discouraged and blame myself or I choose to rise up and realize that every difficulty faced is only temporary. God is the creator of it all and nothing happens to us that surprises Him. With this understanding, I have to accept that God would not allow me to face a difficulty that He could not get me through. My results on the “Testing Your Hardiness Factor” assessment was not what I expected. I scored a negative two. This quick assessment showed that I really can benefit from the information I have learned from Chapter two and three. I am anxious to practice what I have learned and to see if my stress level lower.
One area that I need to work on is my ideal of perfectionism for myself. On the “Am I a Perfectionist” assessment, I scored a 94. I have always been my worst critic and I have a hard time accepting anything less than the best that I can do. I have always felt that this was one of my best qualities but I now realize that while it may seem beneficial now, I am doing more harm to myself. I also do not know how to take constructive criticism without becoming defensive. I excel at work and at home but I always feel like there is so much more I can be doing. I have a hard time relaxing until everything on my every growing to-do-list in complete and complete to
Do you know that all the struggles you have in life are there for a reason? Do you know that when you think you cannot go on anymore there is God there to pick you up? Be thankful for the struggles you go through because they make you wiser, stronger, and more humble as a person. When you think why me, why did I have to get this? No matter how low you are there is always someone there who can pick you back up on your
Throughout my years of high school, I have battled a chronic knee injury which was devastating for me. I have had surgery not once, not twice, but three times in efforts to correct the problem I was having. Throughout these past few years I often found myself asking, “Why me?” or “Why did this have to happen to me?”. Overtime, I started to ask myself a better question which was, “Why not me?”. I feel everything happens for a reason and I was dealt this difficult obstacle because God knew I could handle it. This injury has made me mentally tougher than I could have ever imagined. Along with my mental toughness, I have had to face some tough decisions at a
Throughout the entirety of my life I always have and always will face obstacles: I am a girl, I am African-American, I have a disabled brother, I have a single parent. Though these aspects of my life have created challenges, I am proud of who I am and I love my life. These challenges have molded my character and shaped me to be the person I am today and without these obstacles, I might not have been as driven to succeed, despite what has happened in my life that may have caused me to
The participant’s BDI scores reflected moderate depression severity in the depressed group (mean = 29.62, SD = 9.27), and no depression in the control group (mean = 3.26, SD = 3.83). To measure for the level of perfectionism of an individual the performance perfectionism scale which is a 32-item questionnaire that measures outcome expectancy for performance associated with perfectionism was used. The PPS indexes how individuals expect their perfectionism to influence their performance. To make a graph from the measurements two dimensions are used in this study include, the outcome expectancy for performance (positive or negative), and the source of the high standards for performance (self-generated or prescribed by others). Four subtypes of perfectionism are quantified in the PPS: Positive Self-Oriented Performance Perfectionism, Negative Self-Oriented Performance Perfectionism, Positive Socially Prescribed Performance Perfectionism, and Negative Socially Prescribed Performance Perfectionism. Another test was conducted to measure the depression symptoms which was called Beck depression inventory II. This test includes 21-items questionnaire and the coefficient alphas were .93 and .94 for the Cognitive and Non-Cognitive subscales, respectively. The results revealed that positive and negative outcome expectancy
I went through much of high school at stage two where I was thinking mostly about my needs and myself. Part of my perfectionism was driven by the promise of being rewarded for excellence. My teachers always told me that quality work would be rewarded with an excellent education and career and a life of satisfaction. I desired all these things for myself and so I worked to serve my self-interest. Now, however, I am more motivated to work towards the efforts of the team. Gradually, I am learning to subordinate this intense desire to get ahead in life to helping others in an interpersonal way. For example, it is easier for me to stop working on math homework in order to help take out the trash at night now that I am transitioning into Kegan’s third stage.
The toughest challenge that I ever faced is to stop being a perfectionist all the time. I have high standards for myself and I don’t expect any less than that. I must admit I am my hardest critic. Whenever I start anything I always tend to put everything I have in it. There are times where I even sacrificed sleep just to make sure everything was perfect. I overcame this challenge by allowing myself to relax and realizing that there are times when I can put myself first. I have used this experience to my advantage by setting limits. I don’t necessarily settle when it comes to my work, in fact I am never truly satisfied in it. However I am able to stop going overboard and causing unnecessary stress on
This study seeks to find out if a person’s explanatory style, as measured by the attributional complexity and proximal/distal explanatory style scales, will be related to their explanations for poverty. A person having low attributional complexity attributes situations/causations internally (proximal), whilst a person having high attributional complexity attributes externally (distal). Through this correlation, we would like to determine how this relationship will explain poverty.
In life we all face obstacles. The troubles that we face don’t define us, how we overcome the situation is what makes us the people we are today. Throughout my life I have faced many trials and tribulations that I had to overcome with the help of my mother, ofcourse. I was smooth sailing in life until I started high school.
One issue involving depression and perfectionism that was not addressed nor answered in this article was what can be done to prevent the problems people have with perfectionism to begin with. It discussed how parental influence can play a part in developing it, but the article never discussed what could be done to prevent this problem from becoming so widespread, rather than simply waiting for it to develop to the point in adulthood where it could lead to depression.
If Steve Harvey asked me about my story, I would immediately say, God wouldn't put anything on me that I could not handle. He has put me through some serious test, but every single test has shaped me to be the person I am. The loss of my great-grandmother put a strain on me mentally and altered my life. My family and I decreased from a comfortable poor to poverty. All of our family has left us high and dry,and I became mentally sick. I loss everything from my memory to my confidence. I struggled to be the gifted student that I knew I was and tested to be. College did not even look possible grade wise or financially. But I brought myself out. I'm building a business, getting my grades back on track and now i'm a full time college student, half
Everyone has trials and tribulations in life , and everyone has obstacles to overcome. What I have learned and reflected from journey is that, I am a better person because of what I have been through. If you take the easy road through life, you will never become strong minded or dedicated to anything. This is why I chose my education to be my greatest accomplishment, because I can truly say I worked hard for
A lot of us face adversity in our lives, unfortunately we just can not avoid it no matter how much we dislike it. Their is Adversity in our lives everywhere, even in the bible. Their are many characters and books in the bible that is what makes up the bible. If you have faith In God then he will help you get through the suffering that you may with going through because of adversity, however small it is he will help you get through it and remind you that you are not alone.
Lower down your standards. Are you a perfectionist? If you are, then learn how to lower down your standards, accept mistakes, and go for accomplishments like “good enough.”
Mental attitude refers to the complex mental state of a person which includes beliefs, emotions, values, and attitudes on which one’s acts certainly. Even before until now, self-help books and popular beliefs have already speculated the power of positive mental attitude in the lives of a person. Similarly, a number of theories on positive psychology may support this claim. On the basis of Seligman’s (1998) theory, pessimists tend to explain bad events that happened in their life as internal, stable, and global throughout their lives. Such people tend to develop learned helplessness and are prone to depression. Personal outlook in life, therefore, affects students’ performance. In school, study shows that pessimistic student performs less than their level of “talent” whereas optimistic student performs high (Seligman,
These phycologists have wondered if there are more optimist or pessimists in the world. They have made an attempt to find out what approach is greater or better. There are some advantages to optimism because it makes people feel better about life, however, there are also some advantages to pessimism in that looking at the unfortunate side of things can help some pessimists cope better with the world. Both optimism and pessimism have important roles to play the lives of everybody. Being optimist permits people to go after their goals in a positive way, to dream bigger and better dreams, which they can strive to work towards. Optimist also tend to respond better to positive feedback, and a part of being an optimist may be producing this feedback for themselves, example, thinking positive thoughts. While on the other hand, being pessimistic may help people to better acknowledge negative feedback and reduce their natural anxiety to perform better. Once again, part of the reason why pessimist generates negative thoughts is that it helps them perform a lot better. People tend to utilize both optimism and pessimism in order for them gain out of their advantages. People who are mainly concerned with growth or advancement often manifest an optimistic view, whereas those who are concerned with safety and security, or avoiding negative outcomes, focus more on pessimism in order to improve their