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A picture perfect family is something to strive for. The day the groom and bride agree to be together for better or for worse is something to remember. But what happens when the “worse” is too much to handle? Divorce is often criticized and sometimes seen as humiliating. Going through a divorce can often damage the image of someone. Divorce is something that is not that uncommon now in day; however, it is still has the image of the “easy” way out of an unwanted relationship. Divorce becomes even more complicated when there are kids in the middle. The life of those kids will change for the rest of their lives. They are now exposed to a future step-father, step-mother, and step-siblings. It is true divorce is a decision that will bring many changes; however, being in a peaceful, joyful, and healthy environment is the most important. A marriage who is no longer functional will cause more damage than any benefit by forcibly staying together.
According to Diane Medved there is no such thing as a “good divorce” (A.9). The consequences that are caused by divorce are far greater than the benefits. The results of divorce are broken families, financial loss, and heartache. It is understandable to think that divorce is something is becoming far too common; that the option of a divorce should not be taken too lightly. Many believe that divorce underestimates the value of marriage and commitment. Divorce was uncommon a few years back. In a way, divorce was never really an option.
Everything mentioned above is valid and understandable. However, divorce is not just the “easy” way out. It is rare when two people who are in love marry thinking that in a few years they will “call it quits” and get a divorce. Divorce is a long and tedious process. D...

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...new and inexperienced, even a marriage with experience can make the decision that divorce is what is best for them.
The essay is not intended to say that divorce is the only way to fix an unhappy marriage. However, divorce is an option. Weather it is accepted or not, divorce is happening every day. Divorce is not a “tragic” event, it is simply the decision that two adults decided was best for their family. Even if you fix what is broken, there are times when the scars are too deep. There is no purpose in masking a marriage when the chemistry and love is no longer there. Instead of fighting and causing pain to them and everyone around them, it is better to be honest and admit that that the marriage is no longer working. It is perfectly fine to admit and decide that divorce is the best thing for their family. Marriage is a beautiful decision not a painful sacrifice.

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