Fitting In In the biomythography, Zami, by Audre Lorde, Lorde uses specific scenes to highlight arguments running throughout the text. The epilogue is Lorde's reflection on her life and emphasizes many of her struggles and ideals about life. Lorde uses this final place in the book to show the reader how her journey throughout life gave her the ability to define a home. This passage emphasizes that Lorde faced many hardships, especially the challenges of self-integration. Lorde, was a minority in every group that she belonged to. Because of this, Lorde had trouble with both fitting in and defining herself; it was not until Lorde became confident in being different that she could find a true home. The fact that Lorde faces so many hardships throughout the novel, results in her inability to gain self-confidence and therefore integrate. In the beginning of the novel, the reader sees Lorde as a loner; it is not until she meets women who influence her life that she begins to self-integrate. As a child, Lorde does not have many friends. She is isolated and feels that she is very different from those around her. She spends a lot of time with her mother, who she feels does not understand her, or allows her to meet a support network. Lorde's mother's isolation is one example of someone does not understand her lifestyle and therefore cannot giver her support. This is a form of discrimination, and one of the hardships that Audre faced her in adolescence and will continue to face for the rest of her life. It is not until see meets women that can relate to her life style that she feels she become a more complete person: "Recreating in words the women who helped give me substance" (255). As Lorde begins to meet friends an... ... middle of paper ... ...the journey that lead her to self discovery: "Once home was a long way off, a place I had never been to but knew out of my mother's mouth. I only discovered its latitudes when Carriacou was no longer my home" (256). This emphasizes Lorde's argument that Carriacou was an idea not a place, and once she came to terms with herself, and her differences, she did not need this idea of home anymore, and she found that her home right here. Lorde's experiences with women have shaped her life. Lorde has discovered who she is and where she fits into society through all of the relationships with women that she has had. In overcoming the hardships, that society has placed on her because of her minority status she has defined herself as different. Lorde embraces her differences from society and therefore is able to integrate, find freedom and therefore settle into her home.
Clare longs to be part of the black community again and throughout the book tries to integrate herself back into it while remaining part of white society. Although her mother is black, Clare has managed to pass as a white woman and gain the privileges that being a person of white skin color attains in her society. However whenever Clare is amongst black people, she has a sense of freedom she does not feel when within the white community. She feels a sense of community with them and feels integrated rather than isolated. When Clare visits Irene she mentions, “For I am lonely, so lonely… cannot help to be with you again, as I have never longed for anything before; you can’t know how in this pale life of mine I am all the time seeing the bright pictures of that other that I o...
The exterior influences of society affect a woman’s autonomy, forcing her to conform to other’s expectations; however, once confident she creates her own
The first part of the book gives an account of Immaculée’s family background. The love she experienced from her parents and her three brothers is illustrated. Her parents cared for everybody, particularly the poor. Because of the love with which she grew up, she never realised that she was living in a country where hatred against the Tutsi, her tribe, was rampant. It was not until she was asked to stand up in class by her teacher during an ethnic roll call that she realised that her neighbours were not what she thought them to be – good and friendly. After struggling to get into high school and university, not because she was not qualified but because of discrimination against her ethnic background, she worked hard to prove that if women are given opportunities to...
influence all her life and struggles to accept her true identity. Through the story you can
Despite the current scrutiny that her race faces she asserts to the reader that her race and color define her as a person and does not determine her identity. Despite the mindset that most of her peers keep about the inequality of race, she maintains an open mind and declares to the reader that she finds everyone equal. Thus proving herself as a person ahead of her own time.
Instead of proclaiming her feelings out loud, she suppresses them. The result is a series of recordings, which describes her life, and the things she wishes she could change.
... among the first people to break out of these roles Diana leaves herself open to ridicule. This can be seen in the strained relationships she has with her best friend and others in her high school. Moreover, because Diana defies the gender stereotypes she has a hard time being accepted by both boys and girls—society does not know how to treat her since she does not fit into any of its categories.
Additionally, she stresses that the values of her childhood helped her to develop respect for different people. Her father influenced her a lot to feel comfortable just the way she is around her hometown; ...
...ut men, family ties and financial stability would be difficult to obtain, which were necessary to secure an identity in the early south. Early Southern women were ultimately forced to identify themselves by the males to which they were tied. Three female characters from the works read thus far, struggled without men to identify them. For Désirée, her past and family heritage proved too much to overcome. Without the surname provided by her husband, Désirée was without an identity to call her own and gave way to societal code. Yet, due to their internal fight for self-satisfaction, Lena and Janie were able to overcome their lack of identity by establishing their own without the aid of a male. In conclusion, identity is attainable for some women. However, it takes a Southern woman dedicated to her own beliefs to overcome such obstacles and return stronger than before.
And I certainly don’t like ‘handicapped,’ which implies that I have deliberately been put at a disadvantage.” Similarly, The Muslim women wants to conform to be an American. Although Americans see her and her religion in relation with terrorism so they automatically assume that she has no good intentions in being apart of the American culture. The women sees herself as a part of the American society, but people refuse to acknowledge that she is a part of their culture. This explains how both of the sources of these individuals struggle with their identities because the people who are conforming to society’s idea that these women should not be accepted. This causes Maris and the Muslim women to feel internally corrupt. With conformity, people do not feel fully accepted into a society. Maris struggles to find acceptance because she does not want to be considered a “handicap,” however society does not accept her as a “cripple.” As for the Muslim women, she wants to be an American, though society only views her as a terrorist. Both feel like they are outcast because they do not know who they are truly accepted
After learning of her mixed-race ancestry and the experience of being a slave, Iola demonstrates her unwillingness to withdraw protection or care from the people that she so lately finds are hers. Iola sacrifices love, fortune and the upward mobility granted to whites to live as a black woman and promote racial uplift.
Lorde decides to take a step toward making a change for her as well as other people. The author writes, “I was left to write my angry letter to the president of the United States all by myself, although my father did promise I could type it out on the office typewriter next week, after I showed it to him in my copybook diary” (Lorde, 242). The quote describes how Lorde decides to write a letter to the president by herself because her father would not help her to write a letter. Though he gives permission to Lorde to use the typewriter from the office. It shows how her parents were not willing to support Lorde to take a stand in the society for their freedom, their independence. Although, her father shows the support by giving her the permission to use the office typewriter. Moreover, It refers that Lorde has to convince her parents to let her fight for the independence before fighting to the society. It concludes that the meanings of independence for Lorde are to stand up for herself and fight for her rights, the independence that she
Since Audre was from an immigrant family, the poem might reflect the insecurities that she had during her teenage years and how she perceived the world. She felt like an outsider according to her autobiography, Zami: A New Spelling of My Name, where she voices a “black girl in white schools with very poor vision, causing her to be clumsy, and a self-image as fat and ugly” (Blackbird). The feeling of disconnectedness and alienation is evident throughout the poem which led to her impaired relationships and a neurotic attitude towards her adolescent life. The discrimination on the basis of race and gender and peer pressure are implied through the poem, which might be the reason of her negative behaviour and thoughts. The poem resonates with Audre’s real life perceptions and
Her poem describes three different types of women or three different things women experience, and each stanza of the poem focuses on one type. Each stanza has seven lines and follows the same pattern. The first five lines describe how the narrator is like a certain type of woman, and the sixth line offers some sort of general idea about that type of a woman: “A woman like that is not a woman, quite”; “A woman like that is misunderstood”; “A woman like that is not ashamed to die” (Sexton). She then ends each stanza with the line, “I have been her kind” (Sexton). None of the women she describes are women who would be considered good or normal, such as the “possessed witch” in the first stanza. However, these types of women are all types that most women can relate to. Women are all different; very few would fit the current description of society’s ideal
...ake her super model worthy and she accepts them. Her fear was created within herself, in a dark corner of her brain, and she had let the insecurity take over her world but not for long.