I have a number of personal item that I have held on to throughout my lifetime for various reasons. Many of these items were retained as I thought they would have great personal value in the future. Others were kept as reminders of things that I have accomplished in my life, and to show that I can do anything if I set my mind to it. Why though have I kept all of these items throughout the years? Was it for memorabilia, OCD, or perhaps for their usefulness? No, it wasn’t that simple. The reason they were all retained is something much deeper and even more primal, I simply fear getting rid of them.
Several of the items that I have saved over the years were from high school. They include items like decorative prom cups, graduation awards, and even my old cap and gown. Some of the other items I have held on to include the empty shell of a grenade, decorative pencils, Taekwondo and Shotokan karate belts, comic books, and other assorted random items. All of these items vary in age, type and
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Guilt is the stickiest clutter issue for people. Not just women. So many people are riddled with family guilt about holding onto things – most of which they don’t like or need – because it’s the family stuff. (10-13) Now I think we are on to something. I don’t think that guilt needs to be tied to just family items though. There is also something that I would call trash guilt. So many of the things I am holding onto could be linked, in a way, to guilt. I feel guilty to hang on to them, but I would feel even guiltier to just throw them away. One example of trash guilt is the afore mentioned prom cups. They sit on a shelf just waiting for some use, but they were not designed to actually be used for anything. They are from a time prior to the proliferation of digital cameras, or even the popularity of the disposable camera. Therefore, to keep the memories of an event, you preserved them with keepsakes, like a big mug with a date on it, to be able to always reflect on the
All of these items were carried for two simple reasons, to survive, and to kill, which was of course their job. Next, the things that each individual chose to carry, for many of the men, these items were things that they personally believed that they could not live without, but to others would be unnecessary for survival. For First Lieutenant Jimmy Cross. It was pictures of Martha, and also letters from her whom. he loved unrequitedly.
I felt guilty for throwing away items that were in such good condition, because I know some people would give the world in order to be able to own the stuff I have. The economy has gotten so bad, that it’s almost impossible for somebody to find a job that pays more than simple minimum wage to support themselves, along with a family. My heart aches for people who have to live this way, and I give a lot of respect to the people who can actually do
A deeper meaning into what a soldier carried along to the war from which it was necessary supplies to good luck charms or something that reminded one of home. The things each person carried shows more into who the soldier really is or who he wants to be in front of the other soldiers-trying to become someone else. The different pieces each carry will remind them of home “Jimmy Cross carried letters from a girl named Martha…Mitchell Sanders carried condoms…Kiowa…carried an illustrated New Testament…” (Tim O’Brien The Things They Carried pg. 3) Every soldier carried what was necessary like food, guns, bullets etc. but the personal things they carried made everyone different form that crowded but big space between each soldier. Tim O’Brien uses this description to introduce the characters and how each one starts from one po...
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Shame and guilt are often used interchangeably as they are often perceived to be the same or eerily similar. Yet shame is more associated with feelings of poor personal character and guilt is associated with what a person’s character does. Studies have shown that shame rather than guilt is a significant risk factor for the onset and maintenance of mental health difficulties and it has been further theorized that guilt is actually an adaptive response in which movement from shame to guilt represents a stage of mental health recovery (Dyer, et al., 2017). Though shame over particular events in the moment are not uncommon due to humanities imperfect nature, the problem resides in lack of shame resolution. May (2007) exemplifies this in that the
Reading the story “On dumpster diving” by Lars Eighner it made me feel grateful for my materialistic things, because I would not want to experience dumpster diving to survive. Eighner has led me to question where I place my value. He has made me curious about what treasures could be found in dumpsters. Most of these items have lost their intrinsic value; however, they could hold great personal value. A can of food could mean a meal for someone in need. It has also made me wonder about what I throw away, and if someone has ever discovered what I’ve thrown away and used
Guilt can be a major force or motivator that can help influence one’s decisions. Parents often use this as a tool to persuade their children. Advertisements often use this as a tool to persuade consumers. When a party inflicts guilt on another party it is usually to convince and persuade them. Guilt is also a huge tactic used for many controversial topics. The ability to persuade as stated before definitely comes in handy when some sort of bias is trying to be accomplished. In the article Mangu-Ward characterizes the cause and effect relationships which have lead to the unpopularity of plastic bags in terms of guilt.
Guilt acts as one of the strongest and most prominent emotions humans feel throughout their lives. Guilt can cause people to help others, push through obstacles, or make friends. Guilt, however, may not stop one from doing amoral actions. This can happen as a result of a perceived bonus outweighing the negative feeling one may experience from completing the action, or a heat of the moment action, where one may not fully understand the consequences of their actions.
Addiction can be a disorder filled with denial and regret, and is often sparked by one’s free will. Children are taught, as early as elementary school, to abstain from drugs and alcohol, which constitute the two of the largest culprits of addiction. Naturally, when one ponders addiction, his or her mind automatically travels to the realm of addictive substances, and does not consider what else may constitute as an addiction. What about an addiction affecting nearly a million Americans that does not involve choice? It is an addiction so mysterious that a significant percentage of sufferers go undiagnosed due to hidden mounds of unnecessary clutter. According to Randy Frost and Tamara Hartl, hoarding is medically defined as “the acquisition of, and inability to discard worthless items even though they appear (to others) to have no value” (Defining Compulsive Hoarding). Compulsive hoarding is a devastating disorder that affects an estimated 700,000 to 1.4 million people in the United States (Maidment).
First, some may ask the question “What is guilt?” Easily enough, guilt is the feeling one has after doing something that has a bad consequence. Guilt can easily push a person into doing actions that they didn't even think they were capable of, causing depression or large amounts of anger and sadness (Guilt). Being...
Grisham and Barlow (2005) define hoarding as the excessive collection of items and the inability to discard them. As per DSM-5 (2013), hoarding falls under obsessive-compulsive and related disorders due to the recurrent and persistent urges, as well as its repetitive behaviors or mental acts. The act of hoarding can affect anyone, regardless of age, sex or economic status. However, according to development and course, there is a strong association in having a family member who is a compulsive hoarder and becoming a hoarder oneself. This problem usually emerges in early adolescence and tends to worsen with age (American Psychiatric Association, 2013). Individuals have been known to develop hoarding after experiencing a stressful life event they had difficulty coping with, such as the death of a loved one or divorce. Additionally, individuals affected by hoarding behaviors usually have complications with information processing, problems forming emotional attachments, behavioral avoidance, and flawed beliefs about the nature of possessions (Muroff, Bratiotis & Steketee, 2010). Furthermore, people who hoard are typically socially withdrawn and isolated while, ironically, others turn to the comfort of hoarding out of loneliness.
First, the acquisition of any failure to discard large amounts of possessions that appear to be useless or of limited value. Second, clutter that precludes using living spaces as initially intended such as using the kitchen to cook or the bathroom to bath. Finally, third significant emotional distress or impairment in function caused by hoarding behavior and clutter. (Cited by Fleury) Studies of hoarding show the rate of occurrence somewhere between 2 to 5 percent of the American population. That means as many as six million to fifteen million Americans suffer from hoarding that causes them distress or interferes with their ability to live. (Frost9) Neighbors or even family members could display symptoms of hoarding, however many times these signs go unnoticed because they are not thought of as hoarding most of the times they are laughed off or referred to as the “pack rat”. Robert Frost stated in his book Stuff, “The passion of a collector, the procrastination of someone who has not taken the time to put things away, the sentimentality of one who saves reminders of important personal events---all these are part of the hoarding story.”
Compulsive hoarding has been universally defined by researchers as a chronic behavioral syndrome that is categorized by three unique qualities: the extreme retention and failure to dispose of an abundant quantity of useless objects, living environments so condensed with clutter that it compromises day-to-day living for its occupants, and finally a significant provocation of anxiety or distress caused by the hoarding (Franks et al. 79). Although the definition of compulsive hoarding is universally accepted, the cau...
Guilt acts as one of the strongest and most prominent emotions humans feel throughout their lives. Guilt can cause people to help others, push through obstacles, or make friends. Guilt, however, may not stop one from doing amoral actions. This can happen as a result of a perceived bonus outweighing the negative feeling one may experience from completing the action, or a heat of the moment action, where one may not fully understand the consequences of their actions.
While I was growing up I always took to gathering items that looked old and worn. I absolutely loved to gather old newspaper clippings, vintage buttons and anything that had age to it. The dustier the item, the better it was in my eyes. As an adult my love for old items has not changed. The only exception is now I enjoy collecting larger, more meaningful vintage pieces.