Violence In The Cry Of Tamar By Pamela Cooper-White

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In the literature The Cry of Tamar the author Pamela Cooper-White provided an in-depth insight on how the act of violence has received increase attention over time throughout all over the world. I found it really interesting how the different violent acts that have been directed towards women, can all be directed toward really anyone not just women. This text helps the reader understand the acts of violence that are being used against people, and how the church should respond to assist the victims in coping and moving forward to get past these vicious acts. Pamela uses the story of Tamar the daughter of the king of David to help us get a grasp for the type of violence that can take place, shockingly even within a family. I found several parts …show more content…

One night Tamar was called to her brother room to feed him from her hand and he lay with her. Amnon had a lust for his own sister and took advantage of an opportunity to be with he in a sexual way. All to often women are victims to rape, I know people who are very close to me who have fallen victim to this act. It is an unfortunate, and degrading act. Rape as defined in our text is the “unlawful sexual intercourse with a female without her consent.”(Cry of Tamar, 109). Now I would have to disagree somewhat with this version of the definition, being that rape can happen to men and women. Most cases are involving women but very few times men can fall victim to rape as well. For example his father’s friend victimized my cousin’s son sexually. It was unlawful sexual intercourse but not with a woman, is that still not rape? I’ve never had to go through something so traumatizing, however like Mrs. Rape is often not able to be accurately calculated because “ women are often reluctant to report the incident to anyone.” (Cry of Tamar, 107). Rape victims feel embarrassed or fear victimization by the victimizer so some refrain from reporting it to anyone. That is why it is important for churches or peer groups to be able to help these victims open up and cope with their …show more content…

I wish I could say that we can fins a way to stop the violence, however unfortunately it’s going to happen and we can not stop every person from being abused. But this text allowed us to understand how churches can respond to these acts in an effective way to allow the victim to heal and move forward. Being a clergy or pastor that is helping someone through these trialing times is difficult and White states that ‘ they should expect the feeling helpless, overwhelmed and dis-liked as a regular part of the challenge of this work.” (City of Tamar, 195). When dealing with these traumatized victims they are looking for a way to forget, and as a pastor, clergy or counselor you looking for a way to help cope with the situation. I found that the biggest way to help someone through these situations is empowerment. I agree that it is also important to make sure to help the victim understand that it is not their fault that this happened and that you believe them. You have to build trust with the victims for them to be able to trust that your actually their to

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