Verbal Abuse in Young Age Children:
The Psychological Effects of Vernal Abuse Remain from Childhood to Adulthood.
We are living in the rapidly developing world where multitasking is an unavoidable act. We spend most of out time to learn, and to work. Pamela Druckerman, an American book writer who is working at home said, “I feel like doing two jobs at the same time while I am working at home with kids.” Especially with parents, active kids can drive their parent crazy. For stubborn children, some families believe that scolding is necessity to correct their behaviors, and to keep the children learning knowledge and skills. The phrase “Spare the rod and spoil the child” is a famous proverb, which means if parents refuse to punishment an unruly child, that child will become a spoiled man. But not all parents know how to properly punish their children. Usually, after the improper actions of the child, parents scold or yell at the child first. There are many opposite point of views about verbal abuse on the young age. But, based on some practical experiments, and research, scolded children have more psychological impacts and subsequent psychological damages than physical abuse.
How common is verbal abuse? In an experiment of University of New Hampshire, the experiment’s population of three thousand pairs of parents, after showed examples of verbal abusive cases, more than sixty-three percent of parents realized that they have psychological abused their children more than one time (Vardigan). Based on the studies of World Health Organization (WHO) in selected countries in South America, 75% of 1525 Chilean kids asked are having some experiences with psychological abuse from their parents. In Uruguay, between 1100 households,...
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...method, French parents create closer relationship between them and their kids. This relationship is necessity to the child feel safe to confide to their parent. More over, parents can detect early the difficulties of their child, so they can easily help them get over it (Drukerman).
In conclusion, verbal abuse is becoming a major problem in today’s society. Verbal abuse can take place at home, and school. I think that verbal abuse can be stopped very easily because adults are responsible for this problem. When adults scold children, they not only hurt the children directly, but they also hurt themselves as well. When you express anger, you are also losing your ability of resiliency to stress. Verbal abuse heavily affects mental of children; its consequences remain in the rest of their life. Because of its harmful effects, please do not use them on kids.
...g and filled with detailed solutions for each act of child abuse. The book allows the reader to visual themselves in each situation and knows how to react towards such each incident. It helped me understand why adults abused as children act the way they do when it comes to social interaction. Personally, I have attained new information that I was unaware of. In the beginning, I have always believed that child abuse only involved physical or sexual abuse. I did not know that emotional abuse actually existed. I was unaware of the fact that emotional abuse gravely affects children as they grow up. This book may open up the minds of people who are unaware of or refuse to believe that child abuse is occurring daily in our society because it is so informative and persuasive at the same time. If one needs to educate themselves concerning child abuse, consider this book.
Psychological maltreatment, like many other forms of abuse can also be passed down through intergenerational transmission. It is not unlikely for parents to psychologically mistreat their children due to their own past or childhood experiences with psychologically abuse. For example, it is not uncommon during the course of an investigation of physiological maltreatment that it is discovered that the perpetrator had their own form of abuse history in the past. Often time’s people look at psychological maltreatment as a consequence resulting from some other form of abuse, mainly physical and sexual, but tend to overlook the fact that it may also occur as an individual form. Psychological maltreatment can take more than one form. During the course of researching for this paper I learned that there are three typical forms of behavior in which people follow when displaying this type of abuse against children. The three types are acting in an aggressive, rejecting, and lessening
Bullies, who can be children and adults, can be physically violent towards others because they have seen domestic violence in the comfort of their own homes. According to Behavior Advisor, “Some believe that bullies learn their intimidation tactics from their parents/guardians, and are displaying behaviors that serve a function in their home environments” (“Bullying: Characteristics and Interventions”). Children watch a lot of adult activity and they have the drama embedded in their brain; thinking it is tolerable to be dominant towards others. In the same way, when children grow up, they still have a violent mindset when they become
Parents' discipline of young children affects many aspects of their lives. There are many different methods of discipline being used my may different parents. Each parent has different methods to helping their children distinguish right from wrong. Some methods are more beneficial than others, but when comparing methods, it is clear to all that corporal punishment is the most frowned upon form of discipline. Some may wonder why it is looked down upon today if it was a major method of discipline in the 1900's that seemed to work just fine. A recent survey has shown 40% of parents with children under 3 yrs. old have yelled at their child and 40% of parents in this same age bracket have spanked their child (Regalado, M., Sareen, H., Inkelas, M., Wissow, L., & Halfon, N. 2004). Also, 11% of parents have spanked their infants under 1 year of age and 16% of parents have yelled at them. (Regalado, M., Sa...
Physical abuse can have a number of long term effects. It can cause physical injury, brain damage, and may lead to emotional dev...
During a child’s development, he goes through different stages in life, so parents create their own parenting styles from a combination of factors which evolve over time. For instance, during the stage of infancy,
The early childhood years are a period of rapid change in the brain, this leaves children exceptionally vulnerable to psychological abuse. Psychological abuse includes rejecting, ignoring, criticizing, belittling, humiliating, threatening with violence, or otherwise terrorizing the child, all of which have the effect of eroding the child's self-esteem and sense of security. Psychological abuse can come as a result of actions that do not specifically target the child. Studies show that children who have experienced domestic violence are more anxious and insecure then those who do not. Children who observe violence react with many of the same psychological symptoms as children who have experienced it directly. Psychological abuse is often accompanied by other forms of abuse. It is difficult to prove, however, and rarely is
The article “Why French Parents are superior” written by Pamela Druckerman talks about the different between how French parents raise their children compared with American parents. The article begins with a story of Druckerman and her British husband going on vacations to a beach in France with her 18 months old daughter. She thought it wouldn't be so hard spending a few days out of her house, but as soon as they started their vacations, they discovered how difficult for them was,. At one point when she was trying to calm her daughter, Druckerman noticed that French parents did not suffer the same problem as her. Besides their kids were calm eating their food and not shouting in the middle of the restaurant making a scene. After that she tries
There are many forms of physical abuse, such as, slapping, hitting, strangling, beating, kicking and sexual abuse. In many cases objects being thrown at a child that can injure them. Many times, physical abuse goes undiscovered because children tend to hurt themselves all the time anyway. According to the book, Violence the Enduring Problem states, “Many child victims are fearful or incapable of reporting their victimization to an authority figure. And Despite the mandatory reporting laws in place in all states, evidence of abuse and neglect can often remain hidden except for extreme cases, such as when broken bones and concussions require medical care” (170). Also, physical abuse is often explained away by adults as accidents. But according to Childhelp.org states, “A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds. That in 2014, state agencies found an estimated 702,000 victims of physical child abuse” (Child Help). It is an epidemic that has plagued the United States for decades. Child abuse is an ever-growing social problem. Children that are physically abused have a high propensity to develop psychological disorders, such as, depression, anxiety, and PTSD. There is evidence about the mental health implications of physical abuse and environmental stressors that contribute to the ongoing
The third type of child abuse is emotional abuse. Mersch says that emotional abuse involves verbal assaults, ignoring, or constant ...
This world is an unpredictable, frightening place. Abuse may be a slap in the face, an unpleasant comment, or not knowing if there will be dinner on the table, but the end result will leave the child feeling lonely and unsafe. Children need structure, clear boundaries, and the feeling that their parents care. Child abuse is no longer a family problem, it is a nationwide problem. Child abuse causes serious injuries, including physical and psychological, and even deaths. People need to open their eyes and realize this is a serious problem.
When people think of domestic violence, they often think of an injured or bruised woman who has been brutally assaulted by her partner. However, not all abusive relationships involve violence. Verbal abuse is the main abuse that will be discussed in this research paper. Just because you’re not assaulted does not mean you’re not battered. Many women suffer from verbal abuse, which is no less devastating. Sadly, emotional abuse is often unrecognized, even by the person being abused. Emotional abuse can hurt just as much as physical violence, or even more in my opinion. This problem has become especially evident in in our country today. As an example, lets look at my last relationship, we were together for almost two years, and sometimes it seemed we were on a roller-coaster ride, in our relationship. It appeared she was so insecure about herself that she had a breast implant surgery, besides that she was not happy with her figure. She is now thirty-four years old and there is a fifteen-year age difference between us. The truth is that it seemed that every time she would get upset, she would just yell and threaten to call my parole officer, and she would say to me how “I was a no good gangsta thug, and she wished that I was back in prison or dead, and how she regrets leaving her former boyfriend for me.” When in fact, my anger and jealously would overcome my feelings for her.
If there is abuse in your surroundings during childhood it can form emotional troubles because it can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as manipulation, intimidation, and failure to please someone. Emotional abuse can be patterns of failure of parenting on the caregiver to provide a supportive environment. Growing up in a toxic household that contains drugs, prostitution, fighting can mold a child into believing that they are not worthy enough to have people in their life to support and make them better. Now, emotional abuse is not only within a child’s household, this can happen anywhere. School is one place where children deal with emotional abuse in the sense of words. Being bullied and being called names everyday can have a toll on someone psychologically, where they start to believe that they are exactly the names that abuser is calling them. This can get looked over because some many think that it is just words and that they can not hurt you because there is not physical evidence, but these less severe forms of abuse can still cause emotional deprivation that still have a strong affect. This can make children anxious and insecure, who are slow to develop as adults and who may fail to develop a strong sense of self-esteem (Gibb,
Although all therapists are aware of the childhood emotional abuse issue, it is possible that only few therapists understand the scope of the issue. Emotional maltreatment is harder to detect than other forms of abuse because it is more subtle. When Child Protective Services (CPS) conduct family assessments, it is the hardest form of abuse to prove because parents are very open about the topic and emotional abuse does not leave any physical evidence behind. However, it certainly influences a child's self-esteem, promotes the feeling of guilt, insecurity, and creates the inability to form stable relationships during adulthood. Although some behavioral disorders are related to emotional abuse, it is not possible to predict it correctly because the patterns can deviate significantly as each child displays different outcomes. Emotional abuse is often considered a suitable form of disciplinary measures, but even excessive practice of verbal abuse can create negative outcomes, so the parents apparently take most of the responsibility because of their inability to raise their child without resorting to violence. Besides parental education, other courses of action will be required because the abuse rates for emotional abuse and other types of child abuse are extremely high, so the issue demands urgent action to prevent further impairment on healthy psychological development in children. However, the entire responsibility should not be on mental health care professionals, but it should be distributed equally through society and all social agents that determine public opinions and acceptable forms of behavior. The best approach to preventing childhood emotional abuse is through influencing several social factors for prevention and increasin...
It can include: outbursts of anger, gaslighting, name calling, undermining, and threatening. It can lead to feelings of vulnerability and uncertainty within the victims. People verbally abuse special needs workers and homeless people every day. Verbal abuse often involves ‘putdowns’ and demeaning language intended to convince the victim that they are not worthy of love or respect. Slurs, such as retard, loser, lazy, and weirdo are often hurled at them. It is dangerous because verbal--and emotional--abuse is often not recognized as harmful. Victims face unseen threats which cause them to feel unsafe in their daily lives. This form of abuse is extremely detrimental and destructive to a person 's health. It can lead to feelings of vulnerability and uncertainty, and cause severe damage to the victim’s self-esteem and self-worth. It can even prompt them to question their validity as a human being. After exposure to verbal abuse, victims may develop clinical depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish in its target. People that bully often project their own negative self-worth outside of themselves, choosing to disregard their own flaws in favor of putting down others. “It goes against our nature to hurt other people,” says Nicole Legate, a clinical psychology researcher at the University of Rochester. But when a human being hurts others, it’s time to step in. Everyone