Change is an aspect of life that no one can escape; it occurs constantly throughout life, but no matter what family should always be there for each other. Valgardson’s Saturday Climbing is a short story regarding Barry having flashbacks of him and his daughter while climbing, using the cliff to symbolize the relationship between him and his daughter Moria. Coakley’s short story, Mirror Image journeys through the experience of Moria getting her brain transplant. Moria is changing so much her family is struggling to keep up, and her relationship with her family is starting to drift. This is relatable to the changes of a parent and child’s relationship. Both authors illustrate that when a strong relationship is not established and maintained …show more content…
between the parent and child, as changes occur, it weakens the relationship.
In Mirror Image, as well as Saturday Climbing, due to the changes Moria and Alice go through, their parents do not open up to them anymore and talk about anything. When Moria gets her brain transplant, she is confused about her body and asks her mother “’ [m]om, if my body is 16, does that mean I can get my license?’ ‘Forget it,’ her mother said” (Coakley 15-16). Alice’s mother is clearly not open to talk about her body with her, which makes it obvious she is not taking all the change too well. Alice’s mother just brushed her off and had no interest in discussing her body with her. This displays that she is not comfortable talking to Alice, and a strong relationship was not established before the surgery, which weakens the relationship between Alice and her mother. In Saturday Climbing, Moria goes through normal changes in her life that changes her father’s perspective. Moria is getting older, and becoming more independent. Barry cannot have as much control and security over her anymore which he does not agree with. He is losing confidence in her and in himself, Barry does not talk to Moria often but. “[t]he times …show more content…
he had managed to overcome his own insecurity and has asked her what was the matter, she turned back on him, answering, ‘Nothing’, with a tightly controlled voice’” (Valgardson 53). A reason being why Moria does not open up to her father could potentially be because they do not have a strong relationship established. Barry does not even have the confidence to talk to his daughter anymore, which shows the fact that he cannot have full control over Moria anymore really bothers him and is breaking them apart. Alice’s mother rejecting her to discuss her body, and Barry not having the confidence to speak to his daughter, shows that the changes Moria and Alice go through has weakened the relationship they have with their parents. It also shows that before these changes occurred, the relationship they had was not maintained. The changes that Alice and Moria have been going through have been weakening the relationship they have with their parents.
Alice has changed so much since her brain transplant, she cannot even eat the cake her mother makes that she used to love. As she put the cake into her mouth “Alice tried hard to swallow, tried hard not to let her face show any reaction to the cake, but the taste of the mocha forced her mouth into a grimace” (Coakley 16). Alice and her mother lost something they both had in common, which is a factor into why their relationship is not as strong anymore. Alice’s mother feels like she does not know Alice anymore because this was something she used to love. They will not connect as well after this because since they lost something in common, Alice’s mother might be unhappy about the change, and overwhelm her. Alice has changed so much her mother does not even know what she likes anymore, that has to be hard on her mom, which shows this is a part of why they are not close anymore. As Moria gets older, it becomes more difficult for Barry to stay close to Moria because “Unexpectedly, the surfaces smoothed, the places where he could get a secure hold were spread farther and farther apart”. Barry is working single parent as he talks about holding onto the rocks it symbolizes protection he has over his daughter. Moria gets older she spreads apart from him and becomes more independent. Moria changing has to be hard on Barry because he just wants to be the best
father he can be but he is trapped in his insecurities and does not want to make a mistake. It has become difficult for Moria and Alice's parents to maintain their strong relationship with all of the changes. They want to be able to do more than their parents want to allow them to, therefore this causes disagreements between them, which forces their relationship to suffer. Moria is getting older and wanting to go out and do more things that are independent, Barry is not able to hold his security on her anymore. “Barry was dumbfounded at the same age he had to have his girlfriends in before midnight”. Obviously, Barry and Moria agree on different things. Barry has a different set of rules than what Moria wants to follow, which causes her to turn against him and disobey him, which makes their relationship weaker and weaker. When they don’t agree on the same things, it pulls them farther and farther apart.“Geez Jenny why are you angry at me for not liking a piece of cake” Her sister gets mad at her for not liking the cake. This can make Alice feel isolated because everyone likes this cake, and she does not. This can make her feel bad about herself and left out. She might avoid talking to her family. Valgardson and Coakley clearly illustrate that small changes such as growth and development, or a change as serious as a brain transplant, can affect relationship you have with your parents, when there is not much trust, and a good relationship is not established. Moria and Alice’s parents not opening up to them, Alice and Moria changing, and them not agreeing on the same things anymore, displays that it has weakened the relationship Moria and Alice have with their parents.
Getting a divorce is not an easy decision for most married couples. This separation process is even harder when children are stuck in the middle of the dispute. While having a class discussion about the short story “Big Jesse, Little Jesse”, from Oscar Casares’ Brownsville: Stories, many peers came to the conclusion that Jesse seems to blame his son’s disability and the different experiences it brings into Little Jesse's life for the lack of connection between the two. However, the young age in which Jesse became a father, which deprived him from the enjoyment of his own youth, could have affected the father and son relationship, leading Jesse to try and find similar interests he might share with his son to build a better bond.
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