I will examine the Nguyen’s family and their struggle with parenting. In my family case study, I will present their family, their history and their response to the stressors.
Mr. Nguyen is a 45-year-old Asian doctor. He works full time at local hospital and manages his own medical clinic. He works from 7am to 9 pm daily and he only takes half day off on Sunday. He is married to Mrs. Nguyen who is 40-year-old Asian real estate broker. They have two children Tony 17-year-old and Anita 15-year-old. Tony is a son of Mrs. Nguyen from her prior marriage. Tony is not a good student, he always gets lowest scores and Mrs. Nguyen often visits school principal because of his bad behavior in school. In contrast, Anita always in top A student at schools. She usually receives praises and awards for her study and her good attitude.
The family lives in a 3-bedroom home in Vietnam. They seldom interact with their neighbor and they often meet their relative on holidays and New Year’s Eve. The couple begins
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Everyone in hospital where Mr. Nguyen working knows about his son and start the rumors. Mr. Nguyen feels disgrace about Tony and they start to argue with each other. His wife told him that she would be leaving the home with Tony unless some drastic changes occurred. Mr. and Mrs. Nguyen go to family therapy to address their problems.
Mr. Nguyen confided to his wife that he had been depressed due to his hard-working job. He wanted to cure his patients and brought better life environment and education to his children. While he was working day and night at hospital, he expected Mrs. Nguyen to take good care of their children. When he received the bad news that Tony addicted to drug, he felt that he fails of being a good step-father and he could not do anything to change the situation. However, he did not want Mrs. Nguyen and Tony leaving the house so he wanted to work through the
Maria had no authority over her restless family. The source of the conflict between Antonio and Maria originates from her oldest sons taking to going where they please and not caring about their parent’s wishes. The burden of pleasing their parents passes from the eldest sons to the youngest one. With the sole duty of pleasing his parents, Tony internally rebels against their wishes instead seeking to set to rest his churning mind by seeking his own beliefs. His brothers console themselves about abandoning their family by saying that “Tony will be her priest” (Anaya 36) and not knowing that the “dreams of their father and mother [haunt] them” (Anaya 36) also haunted Antonio. Having the responsibilities of his brothers and his family shape the way he grows and thinks. He isn’t just thinking about himself he also has the problems of redeeming his family on his head. Through the story and through Ultima Tony realizes that he is not bound by obligations and can instead shape his own
Fadiman, Anne. The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down: A Hmong Child, Her American Doctors, and the Collision of Two Cultures. New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1998. Print.
In the end, Tony plays the role of both hero and villain. His wife, Marcela, represents both the whore and the virgin Mexican-American. The both prove unfaithful: Tony to America and Marcela to Mexico. Herein lays the schizophrenic world in which good and bad coexist across the borders of two emerging world countries struggling for control of land and culture. There’s a price to be paid for such human greed and unrealistic expectations. Ultimately it proves to be a place where virtue doesn’t remain intact and villains abound, even among the good guys!
Within this critical analysis, I hope to show that the lack of communication and compromise between the Hmong family and the American doctors, was the defining blow to Lia’s ill health. I hope to do this by addressing the following three main points of interest in relation to this miscommunication; the views held by the American healthcare professions on the causes of Lia’s illness, contrasted with the opinions of Lia’s parents. I will then discuss the health-seeking strategies of Lia’s parents and how they were influenced by different resou...
Family became an important aspect in Mah’s life. In the Chinese culture family is typically a vital part of the way of life. Mah may have been ashamed the way her first marriage ended and did not want the same with this man she met named Leon. Leon is a Chinese immigrant and family is his priority. Mah and Leon marry and have two girls, Ona and Nina. They form a family like connection more than ever before. Leon was a fairly stable man and loved his family. Mah and Leon were b...
Tony also stands up against a mob for Florence; everyone wants to punish Florence for "not believing in God" (214) and Tony pushes the crowd away and refuses to give Florence the penance that Florence does not deserve. Although Tony knows that he will be given the "Indian torture" (214), he still speaks up for his friend. Anaya often presents Tony as a dependent character, never wanting to "be away from the protection of [his] mother" (51); in fact, he's so close to his mother that it seems that he's going through Oedipus's Complex. Anaya actually does this to increase the impact of Tony's bravery. One might expect Tony to stay in his undercover bushes when Tenorio is standing so close; however, when Tony hears that Tenorio knows the way to kill Ultima, the thought to warn Ultima supercedes his fear and encourages his legs to pick up and run home (255).
In Paradise of the Blind, Hang and her mother Que, live in Hanoi. Hang's Uncle Chinh, is
Anne, Fadiman. The Spirit Catches You And You Fall Down: A Hmong Child, Her American Doctors, And The Collision Of Two Cultures. New York: Noonday Press, 1994. Print.
This week we were assigned to assess the Perez Family, this assessment was tailored towards exploring the family’s dynamic and our thoughts on how we as nurses could improve their developmental outcomes. The Perez’s have a three- generational family form, which consist of married twenty somethings, a young and growing family, and grandmother all living under one roof. This family is in multiple stages of development that further the stresses in their daily lives. Although the case study does not mention how long the “main characters” Maria and her husband Jamie have been married, because of their age it is safe to assume that they are newly married. Maria and Jamie have yet to lay a stable foundation (marriage) for themselves, yet alone their
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Kim’s following her around all day and the excessive touching she receives, both of which make Heidi feels rather “smothered”. This feeling can be explained by the high need for personal space of Northern Americans, who usually expect others to keep their distance (Sammons, n.d.). As Heidi grew up in the U.S, she is under the influence of this spatial pattern; hence, she perceives what could be seen as a loving, caring behavior of her Vietnamese mother as a violation of personal space. In contrast, Vietnamese have lower preference for interpersonal distance compared to Americans, and in the case of Mrs. Kim, her wish to spend time with her daughter also inclines her to follow Heidi. In addition, Heidi and her mother have dissimilar interpretation of touch. While Heidi views the constant need of touching make her mother look like a child, and as if she was the parent, Mrs. Kim considers it as a way to show her affection and love towards Heidi. Though these differences do not lead to a confrontation between Heidi and her mother, they certainly have adverse effect on the newly bonded relationship.
The main coping mechanism, then, became suppressing of the memories and emotions attached to the traumas of the Vietnam Wars. Their home served as the host of these demons, but the demons impacted parenting styles. Thi acknowledges that her parents taught her and her siblings many lessons, some intentional but others, quite the contrary. It was the “unintentional ones [that] came from their unexorcised demons and from the habits they formed over so many years of trying to survive;”(“The Best We Could Do,” 295) these lessons were indeed unintentional because just like the suppressed communication, they derived weak communication between the parents and the children. In Min Zhou’s article “Are Asians Becoming ‘White’?” she concludes by including a picture of a Vietnamese family celebrating the 1998 Lunar Year, looking happy. This happy family in the article is much like the Bui family because on the outside, they appeared happy, but inside their home and their hearts, a darkness
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