No matter who you are and what experiences you’ve had, everyone can agree that family plays a huge role in your life. In the book “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” family plays a role in teaching Charlie that your family is chosen for you but you can pick your own friends, but in the book “Love, Hate, and Other Filters” family is taught to the reader by showing how no matter what happens and what decisions you make or what is said, your family is always going to be there for you when it comes down to it. Both authors Stephen Chbosky and Samira Ahmed teach me about family using revealing actions.
As proven in the beginning, throughout the book “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” family plays a role in teaching Charlie that your family is chosen
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Furthermore an accident happened were a kid named brian hated maya because she was india and living america, this scares maya's parents because their daughter windes up in the hospital with bad injuries, so they go back on her decision for her to go to NYU because it too far away from home and they don’t want to get even more hurt or even worse without them “it's not that we don't trust you, your ummi worries what will happen to you if you go far away from home” (pg. 229) This make maya angry because she wanted to go so badly so she sets her parents straight and say to them “I'm not asking you for permission; I’m informing you of my decision. I am going to New York in August”(pg.248) her dad doesn’t like this so he fires back saying “you’ve made your decision now understand mine. As a daughter, you are dead to us. When your turn eighteen in June, you will leave this house.”(page 250.) but her dad really didn’t mean that he just said it to scare her, because he wants her to stay at home and not go to new york and he thought by saying that she wouldn’t want to go to NYU anymore because she wouldn’t want to lose them, but that wasn’t the case, it just made her …show more content…
Both books focus on one main character, Charlie and Maya are both going through a struggle. Charlie is starting high school with no friends “ I start high school tomorrow and I am really afraid of going.”(page 3) and Maya is worried about not being able to go to her dream college “ I applied to NYU and been accepted. NYU is my dream school. I’m not going to the University of Chicago if I can't help it” (page 8). Their struggles relate to family because Charlie wants to make friends because of his parent's cold shoulder to him. On the other hand, Maya's struggles go along with family because even after Maya’s choice to disobey her parents in order to follow her dreams, they cope with it and still love her the same. Not only are both characters going through a struggle, they also seem to have little to no power in the beginning. Charlie seems to have no say in any family activities, so he just goes along with everything. Maya was born into an American-Indian family so her parents usually expect the social norms. Therefore both characters struggle with power and new experiences through
In conclusion, a family is presented as a haven of care and love and a social unit of teaching values, especially for growing kids. However, the family does not seclude a person from the larger society, thereby giving all the members a choice to live their own life. Through the review of the movie, Tom and Matt were used by the director to define family and cultural values.
First, after the mother tells Izzy she is going to Costa Rica, Izzy gets upset. She verbalized, ‘“Mom wouldn’t leave me. Right? ‘But that's only three days.’I stepped away from mom and the shards of tile. ‘I don’t have a choice.’ ‘But what am I supposed to do? That’s three whole month's”’(paragraph 11-14). Izzy gets upset with her mother due to the fact that her mother is leaving her in New Mexico for three month,s while she goes to Costa Rica. Her mother knows that it is going to benefit them, and she is doing it to help Izzy. Next, Izzy’s mother and Izzy argue over going to New Mexico. The mother announces, ‘“You’re going to New Mexico and that’s final.’ I swallowed and tried not to cry ‘Why do you always get to decide everything?”’(paragraphs 28 and 29) The mother wants the narrator to go to New Mexico and spend time with her Nana while she is in Costa Rica, but the narrator does not want to go to New Mexico and wants to stay home and she thinks that her mother is ruining her summer. Finally, the mother and narrator argue after they were talking about the narrator's plans. The mother says, “Honey, you can make friends at your new school in the fall. Besides, this is a wonderful opportunity for you.” “Opportunity?For me?Or for you?” (paragraphs 33 and 34)The narrator feels as though that she is not going to have a great
“Wallflowers” by Donna Vorreyer is a piece that truly makes one ponder over the slightest things the average human being overlooks every day. When one typically hears the word wallflower, one tends to think of those people standing on the wall at a party, just minding their own business. They do not say much, rather they stand around and take in all that is going on around them. It is seldom that they are noticed because they are so quiet and shy that they keep to themselves, but they still hold onto those hopes that the light will shine on them one day. Every person needs at least a bit of attention from someone every once in a while, whether they like to accept the fact or not. Therefore, the moral of the poem is that everyone has a place where they belong in this world; whether it be with those that pretend
Family can help to build different character traits or it can help to better people. Family is also something that can be relied upon to help with different problems. Many times families and family members will teach a lesson that can be used later in life to help with varied situations. The people that are in the non-fiction literature all have one thing in common: they faced a problem, and were able to overcome it with the help of their family. With the help of family, people can better themselves and the people around them, by using the lessons their family has taught them.
Maya knows that to be black and female is to be faced with violence and violation. This is brought into focus when she goes to live with her mother and is raped by her mother’s boyfriend. When Maya is faced with this catastrophe, tells who did this to her, and the man is killed, she believes her voice killed him. She withdraws into herself and vows never to speak again. Her mother feeling that she has done everything in her power to make Maya talk, but can cannot reach her, sends Maya and her brother back to Stamps. After Maya returns to Stamps and with the help of her Teacher-Ms. Flowers she begins to speak again.
The theme of the story My Favorite Chaperone, written by Jean Davies Okimoto, is family is always there for you. In this story, Maya is a girl in 9th grade who had recently moved to America from a country called Kazakhstan with her mother, papa, and brother, Nurzhan. From the very beginning, it’s clear that her family is an important part of Maya’s life. It all starts off with her being called to the principal’s office because her brother got into a fight. Her dad of course got mad at both her and her brother. Maya was rather cold to her brother for getting her in trouble. Her mom wasn’t exactly pleased. Only pages later in the book, Maya was caught hanging out with her friend Daniel, an American boy. Her parents didn’t like that either. They
In Gloria Watkins’s essay “Keeping Close to Home.” Watkins claims that she connects to her family through communications and being open and honest with them. From her family, Watkins learns that she should respect and value the skills and talents that other people might have, not just focus on those that she likes. Watkins’s family has influenced her perspective on life by telling her to remember her own identity, and never forget about her past and history. There are some that thinks we do not carry much of our own family, but I think we do carry a lot of our own family with us whether is good or bad. We would carry traits such as admiration of others, daily habits, and being respectful to others.
Every teenager has the same exact problem: high school. The conflicts, drama, and social assemblage is a part of every high school student experience at his or her different campus. While most students determine that there is no single adult that has any idea of the situations and circumstances that each person faces in their daily life, they are unbelievably mistaken. Novelist and screenwriter, Stephan Chbosky, perfectly captures these issues in a mature, thematic experience that every teen can relate to. And for some odd reason, some individuals feel that this coming-of-age story needs to be banned from public libraries and schools throughout our nation.
Although Charlie also suffers from suicidal thoughts, he also displays positive coping methods, like expressing himself in letters to his anonymous new friend. Furthermore, Charlie also acquires defense mechanisms like repression, as previously mentioned, and is expressed in his refusal to consciously remember the threatening or conflicting situation of being raped by his aunt. Another defense mechanism that we see Charlie expressing in The Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012) is rationalization. Rationalization occurs when individuals being to make up excuses for unacceptable behavior, such as being raped. In various scenes of the movie we hear Charlie rationalizing his aunt’s behavior and her death, since she was, as he claims, his “favorite aunt” (Chbosky, 2012). It is clear that Charlie still cares for his aunt and even takes on some of the blame for her by saying things like “my Aunt Helen would still be alive today if she just bought me one present like everyone else”, or saying “she would be if I were born on a day that it didn’t snow”, in reference to his aunt’s death (Chbosky,
Charlie struggles with apparent mental illness throughout his letters, but he never explicitly addresses this problem. His friends make him realize that he is different and it is okay to be different from everyone else. This change in perspective gives Charlie new opportunities to experience life from a side he was unfamiliar with. Without these new friends, Charlie would have never dared to try on the things he has. His friends have helped him develop from an antisocial wallflower to an adventurous young man who is both brave and loyal. Transitioning shapes how the individual enters into the workforce, live independently and gain some control over their future
The perks of being a wallflowers is about Charlie, a 15 year old freshman student that is about to start his high school year. He lives with his parents and older sister. Charlie has as an older brother too, but he lives away because he is attending college. As the movie starts goes, it is implied that when Charlie was a kid he was molested by his aunt, who later dies in a car accident on Christmas Eve, (which is also Charlie’s birthday). His family seems to have a strong bond, they each follow a role, and they support each other. During some scenes in the movie, Charlie seems to be having internalizing problems. As the movie progressed, it is revealed that Charlie had a friend that committed suicide, and this event made Charlie to feel sorrowful. When he enters high school, Charlie appears to be very concern of what others may think about him, as well as
The coming of age novel, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, by Stephen Chbosky, follows the self-discovery of an introverted 15-year-old boy named Charlie. The novel is written in a series of letters to an anonymous person, which he sends, as he needs someone to talk to after his best friend’s suicide
Recently, Hempstead High School has decided to use the book The Perks of Being a Wallflower as required reading for their senior English class. It’s an intriguing book with many lessons to be learned from it, and it’s written in such a style that teenagers have an easy time connecting with. However, about thirteen parents have complained of the book’s “obscene nature,” specifically the fact that the characters have sex, use drugs, and drink alcohol. These people are asking the Dubuque School Board to ban the book from required reading use. There are many others who are in support of the book being used in the classroom as well, pointing out how these actions are merely a way to make the characters more realistic, and the book points out how the use of drugs and alcohol are bad ways to cope with your problems.
I have put a great deal of thought into what makes a piece of literature good as opposed to what makes a film good. I, like many people whom I am compelled to call the generation of Harry Potter, tend to judge a film by how faithful it is to the original literature. It is our steadfast belief that the merit of a film is solely dependent on its accuracy to the books we hold so near and dear. However, we are wrong. One interview by John Green put this in the most plain way.
However, it established a stronger me and I have come to discover how strong my own bonds are within my family. However, it is not just those whom are biologically connected to you but those whom you choose to surround yourself with that can resemble family. This is distinct in the film ‘Million Dollar Baby’ by Clint Eastwood, the protagonist in the film is Maggie Fitzgerald she was unfortunate in that she was born into an unsupportive family. Which makes me feel fortunate to be raised by a family that is in strong contrast to hers. But what resonates with me is the relationship she shares with her coach Frankie Dunn whom seemingly became a fatherly figure to her… and Maggie was like a daughter, filling a void in each other’s heart.