The Limulation Of Marriage: The Abuse Of Love And Marriage

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While society has heavily embedded the idea of love into marriage, the actual applications of marriage does not incorporate love into it. Love and marriage are a thing that has been disconnected for a long time, yet the restrictions that have plagued marriage are the same restrictions that affect love due to the heavy mental connection that culture created with marriage. Abuse of the systems that marriage creates is a main reason for the failure of love. When someone can use marriage to gain something material, people will not marry who they love and ruin the concept of marriage. This is due to the heavily embedded bureaucracy that has found itself weaved into something that should merely be a sign of commitment and love towards another person. …show more content…

There are movies, books, songs, poems, and even a holiday devoted to love. However, the concept of love that seems to be greatly glorified by our own society is also heavily binded by expectations that come from ignorance or beliefs. These restrictions are mirrored by the restriction that marriage seems to face due to the heavily embedded notion that marriage is the prioritized outcome of love. However, as many authors such as Meghan O’Rourke bring up, marriage seems to have grown old and might need to be renewed or replaced in some way. (O’Rourke, 2013) Some of the suggestions that are brought up in O’Rourke’s review, “The Marriage Trap,” seem to be a bit radical, but these suggestions are not to be ignored. While a new standard would be hard to implement completely, the concept of a more liberal form of marriage that removed the restrictions from its infrastructure would provide a less oppressive environment in the world that would let love more openly thrive. The failings of love as a whole are heavily connected with the failings of marriage in our society, and we should to be more honest about these failings because it would reveal the disconnect that love and marriage have always had between them and could allow for changes that would allow society to remove the roots of misogyny and discrimination while allowing true love to

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