The Language of Love
Great, another personality trait typing test is in the books! Had I not previously known who I was, I would have no excuses for not knowing following these past seven weeks! Actually though, this week’s assessment was somewhat different and more personal than the previous the week’s experiences. Having my wife take the Love Languages test was as much fun as it was interesting. However, there were no surprises amongst us. We each know who we are and what we do and do not like. Most importantly, we are not afraid to talk about and tackle any issues that are looming on the horizon. There are no fester files containing unresolved issues in the Isherwood household. Both of us truly believe that our problems will not get better through time or distance, therefore we address them in the here and now. Our mantra is quite simple, “if something does not seem right, most likely it is not, so let’s talk about it”.
When I asked my wife if she would be willing to participate in a class project with me, she of course looked at me with skepticism. As I explained to her what was required and told her about the Five Love Languages she began to look more enthusiastic about her participation. Her newly found enthusiasm of course now drew suspicion on my part. As it turns out, my wife is well versed in the Five Love Languages and has The Five Love Languages book by Gary Chapman to prove it! Sitting next to each other on the couch we embarked on our Love Language journey. It was quite funny to each of us hearing one and other grumbling about a particular pair of questions. We had previously agreed not to help each other and to just go with the best answer. She of course finished before me, I was busy analyzing each of the questio...
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...les. I believe the Storge piece is the common theme between the two styles. We have a very practical relationship, each of us knows our role and we are comfortable with putting each other’s necessities as well a our niceties ahead of our own wants and desires.
This class has been a reaffirmation of my wife’s and my amazing ability to effectively communicate with each other in our interpersonal relationship. As noted in my previous essays and journals, I really have enjoyed every chapter of the text and learned something new during each assignment throughout the course.
Works Cited
Wood, J. T. (2010). Interpersonal Communication Everyday Encounters 6th Edition. Boston: Wadsworth, Cengage Learning.
5LoveLanguages.com (2007). The 5 Love Languages. Retrieved February 17, 2012, from http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=husbands
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