The Great Gatsby Dialectical Journal

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Helen, As I have thought and prayed a bit more about what you have experienced this weekend it strikes me that as you entered it with the expectation that it was a beginning, Ruben entered it with a number of lines drawn in the sand that He knew he couldn’t cross, and was entering the weekend seeking to discover where you stood in relationship to those lines before he took the risk of allowing his heart to get too attached. If he had, he may have found himself in a position later on having to decide between what his heart wanted and erasing the line he had drawn and stood behind for so long. As hard as this may be to understand, in many ways the decision has very little to do with the real you, and more to do with the wishdream he has been holding onto. I know it doesn’t ease the pain, and it may not even help with the confusion you are feeling, but I think it is true. He has an idea of what perfect looks like and he is committed to holding on to it. He has held it for 32 years. Maybe he …show more content…

will for 35, 40 or 45 years, or maybe one day he will finally bring himself to erase some of those lines. I wonder then, if he will have regreat. There is much I could say about the emotional, psychological and spiritual effects of those lines, but I have a feeling the protective papa in me make take it a bit too far, so it is better for me to remain silent. I will say this, even if his holding out allows him to one day find the right woman who not only has the capacity to walk past all the lines, and who sees him as the man she has been dreaming about marrying, I have a feeling that on his wedding night, when he finally gets to taste of the fruit he has been saving himself for it is going to be far more awkward than he imagined, and be over far quicker than he will ever admit, and in that moment when he is staring at the ceiling wondering what his new bride thinks of his performance, if he is lucky he will come to the realization good sex is not born out of having saved yourself, it is born out of selflessness. I actually feel sorry for the fact he will probably have to walk through a whole mountain of disappointment and self doubt before he discovers this. In the mean time, his lack of selflessness has caused you great harm. It has caused your heart to ach, and allowed for the enemy of our souls to use this brief relationship to stir in you self doubt. I have never met the man, but I am angry for how he went about this and the pain it has caused you. I am angry about the fact he was more than willing to allow you to share deep, intimate things with him, but did not have the decency to talk to you about this face to face, or at least on the phone (I have to be careful here because I can feel myself wanting to assign motive and that is not a good thing). You deserve better. You deserve a man who does not see you as potentially fulfilling his wishdream, but as someone he has been called to love, sacrificially, selflessness, completely, and without hesitation.

You deserve a man who does not expect you to be perfect, but who is willing to go all out in his love for you, exactly as Christ did for the church. You deserve a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how your future husband ought to love you (before you think me too profound, I stole much of this paragraph from Ephesians 5). This is the man I am praying God brings to you. He will not be perfect at it in the beginning, but he ought to at least be point this direction. Many men will say they are shooting for this target, but it is their actions and their words which really tell the

story. Helen, your story is still being written, and I know the Author and Perfecter of our stories, He has quite a skill of weaving them in ways that is unexpected, but quite beautiful. Trust Him to hold this pain and to hold your story. I do not believe how Ruben handled this weekend was kind. I also do not believe you owe him anything. He may want to know how you are doing, in part this may be to assuage his own feelings of guilt. He does not have the right to know how you are doing. Do not make excuses for him, nor judge him. Simply recognize you deserve so much more than this. Remember, the one who was without stain or blemish waited for you, despite the fact you knew brokenness and sin. You were worthy of his love, he made you worthy by his love. Wait for a man who understands this wonderful, merciful, grace filled truth. That man will not make you feel yucky, cheep and unworthy. He will make you feel like a the radiant bride that you are. We will celebrate on that day praising God for the wonders he has shown you. I look forward to it with anticipation. And, yes I know this is far too long, so forgive my wordiness. It is just that I am passionate about you thinking rightly about who you are and your worth (and I am a pastor and we like our words. May the peace of Christ reign in your heart, Ron

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