Raising a family is like a roller coaster, sometimes it moves up everyone is happy, and they get along. Other times when family members dislike each other and things are bad the rollercoaster moves down. No matter what most parents manage to get their families through the ups and downs that the life throws at them regardless of the difficulty. One of the things that makes raising a family more difficult is when then younger sister/brother is more spoiled than their older sibling. If the parents are not careful in how they raise their kids and they spoil one more than the other these could be risky for the family. This can cause many problems in the future that could jeopardize the family relationship. People can relate to this situation if …show more content…
The sister and Stella-Rondo does not get along since they are young because of the age difference. The sister mentions that Stella-Rondo is one year younger that her “for the reason she’s spoiled” (437). The older sister did not like Stella-Rondo from a young age because she gets everything she wants. The disrupts the older sister because it makes her feel like she is not part of the family, almost like she is just there to take care of the family and not be a family member. Another reason the older sister is jealous of Stella –Rondo is because she never appreciates what others do for her. Stella-Rondo has a tendency to mistreat the things that she gets from people and her parents. For instance, in the short story the narrator mentions “she always had anything in the world she wanted and then she’d throw it away” (437). When the older sees that Stella-Rondo throws away the good things that she receives from her parents she gets upset with her younger sister. The older sister thinks that is unfair that she can have anything she wants, but she chooses not to appreciate or take care of the good things her parents give. In today’s society this is a problem that many parents have with their younger kids, they get whatever they want without having to work for it. Unlike their older brothers/sisters who have to earn what they want is how the older sister feels. The last reason that the older sister is jealous of her is because she had an opportunity to get out of town and she threw the away. For instance the town that they live in is relatively small the older sister states “as soon as she got married and moved away from home the first thing she did was separate”(437). The older sister saw Stella-Rondo marriage as an opportunity for her younger sister. She thought that her younger sister is going to take advantage of this opportunity of
By using the older sister’s point of view to narrate the story, the author is able recount the injustices done to Sister as well as angle for sympathy from the audience. From the beginning of the story, Sister builds a case by blaming the discomfort and anguish of her home on Stella-Rondo. Sister states “Of course I went with Mr. Whitaker first…and Stella-Rondo broke us up”, to depict how the strained relationship with her younger sister started. Although there are many unexpected conflicts within the family, this action of Stella-Rondo stealing her older sister’s boyfriend is the core, driving force of all of the conflicts within the household. To relentlessly reiterate this point, the author uses the narrator’s anger to constantly bring up the separation of the spoiled Stella Rondo and Mr. Whitaker.
Stella-Rondo brings out jealousy in Sister that causes tension between them. Sister hates that Stella-Rondo married Mr. Whitaker since Sister supposedly had him first. She feels like Stella-Rondo broke them up by lying. Most likely, Sister is upset because she was not the one to end up with the guy she liked, but she displays her feelings childishly. Sister’s snide comments towards her sister are the real reason that Stella-Rondo turns their family against her. Stella-Rondo’s lies about her daughter, Shirley T., increase Sister’s jealous feelings. Stella-Rondo claims that Shirley-T. is adopted, but Sister does not believe her. Sister wants her family to see through Stella-Rondo’s lies and realize that this two-year old child is not adopted. She points out that Shirley-T. is the “spitting image of Papa-Daddy” (359). Sister cannot stand that Stella-Rondo left Mr. Whitaker after only staying married to him for two years. The fact that “the first thing she did was separate! From Mr. Whitaker!” when Stella-Rondo got married and moved away infuriates Sister (359). Consequently, Sister makes sure her family knows that she had him first. In the heat of the moment at the end of the story, Sister starts saying that Mr. Whitaker left Stella-Rondo, not vice versa, which only builds up more tension.
Throughout the story, it has been Sister who has tried to persuade the reader to take her side in the debacle with her family. The truth is that it was Sister who caused the entire dispute that is going on with her obsession to compete with her sister that goes back to her childhood where she feels that Stella-Rondo is spoiled and continues to be spoiled up to the end following Sister’s desperate need for attention.
During the course of the story we see many references that Sister is envious, even jealous of Stella-Rondo. Sister thinks that because “Stella-Rondo is exactly twelve months to the day younger [than she is] that she’s spoiled.” (108) A person exactly one year younger than another sibling is no more or less spoiled than the other person. Sister says Stella-Rondo has “always had anything in the world [she]wanted.” This seems to bother Sister because she thought she never got everything she wanted. “Papa-Daddy give [Stella-Rondo] this gorgeous Add-a-pearl necklace”. There are some benefits that naturally go along with being the younger sibling. This does not mean that Sister has to behave the way she does. True, she never references Papa Daddy buying her anything or giving her “everything” she wanted, but she has to take into account what he has done for her. Papa Daddy got her the Post Office job “through [his] influence with the government”, which Sister thinks is the “next smallest P.O. in the entire state of Mississippi”.
Interpersonal conflict is. Every relationship has conflict and determining on how the conflict is resolved or handled can make the relationship stronger or weaker. If someone is more easily to come up with a compromise rather than always getting their own way, they may have stronger relationships (Bevan and Sole, 2014). Television shows also use interpersonal conflict between their characters to find a solution or compromise in the end. Interpersonal conflict is all around us, it is how we handle that conflict that makes or breaks our relationships.
Sister brings on the unfair treatment upon herself because of the way she treats Stella-Rondo due to her own jealousy. When Sister and Stella-Rondo were growing up, Stella-Rondo always got whatever she wanted. Then after having these
Divorce is becoming a worldwide phenomenon, significantly affecting children’s well-being. It radically changes their future causing detrimental effects. According to (Julio Cáceres-Delpiano and Eugenio Giolito, 2008) nearly 50% of marriages end with divorce. 90% of children who lived in the USA in the 1960s stayed with their own biological parents, whereas today it makes up only 40% (Hetherington, E. Mavis, and Margaret Stanley-Hagan, 1999). Such an unfavorable problem has been increasing, because in 1969, the legislation of California State changed the divorce laws, where spouses could leave without providing causes (Child Study Center, 2001). This resolution was accepted by the other states and later, the number of divorced people has been steadily growing. Such a typical situation is common for most countries in the world, which negatively affects children’s individuality. However, remarkably little amount of people can conceive the impact of marital separation caused to offspring. (? passive) Many children after separation of parents are exposed to a number of changes in the future. They have to be getting used to a further living area, feelings and circumstances. Their response to divorce can vary and depends on age, gender and personal characteristics. This essay will show the effects of divorce on children under various aspects such as educational, psychological and social impact. In addition, it will contain data about the divorce rate in the US and present disparate reactions of children. It will also include adequate recommendations for parents as to how act to children after divorce, in order to minimize the adverse effect on children.
Since Sister was affected the most by certain actions of the family, Welty narrated this short story through Sister’s point of view to show how the function of the family declined through these actions. Sister was greatly affected when her sister broke the bonds of sisterhood by stealing her boyfriend and marrying him. Secondly, Sister was affected by the favoritism shown by her family towards her younger sister. Since her sister was favored more than her, this caused her to be jealous of her sister. For example, Sister shows a lot of jealousy by the tone she uses when describing what Stella-Rondo did with the bracelet that their grandfather gave her. Sister’s description was, “She’d always had anything in the world she wanted and then she’d throw it away. Papa-Daddy gave her this gorgeous Add-a-Pearl necklace when sh...
Single parenting is becoming more common than the traditional nuclear families. Nuclear families are the basic structure of how families are and it has been seen as how every family should be. However, this structure is becoming less ordinary as single parents start becoming the norm. Although this situation is rising, many do not realize it. Single parenting is quite common, but it still struggles with income, abuse, and damaged relationships.
Divorce is a process that many people in America go through. The divorce rate continues to escalate over the years. Divorce is a serious problem, it is a gradual process that ultimately results in families breaking up. There are various factors in which a marriage can fail and end up in divorce. Some skip the step of trying to reconcile things and make it work. In some cases it is easy for a divorce to take place. For instance, in cases where both parties are in agreement and have no children it is easier to handle a divorce. But in the cases where children are present, what happens to the kids? Both parents are at each others throats or one is devastated from the rejection, what role does the child play? It is a hard thing to cope with as an adult imagine as a little one or even a teenager, it affects them in more ways than anyone can imagine. It can affect them both physically and emotionally. The effects of divorce are immense, it permanently weakens the bond or relationship between a child and his parents. Can lead to them reaching out or looking to others for attention, causing poor attitudes, low self esteem, dropping grades, loss of virginity, use of drugs and or weapons, or in some cases mutilation of the body. There are various effects that children have to deal with that maybe extremely hard to cope with. One parent may say one thing yet the other disagrees and makes it impossible for the child to have a stable relationship with both of them. Children need both biological parents at their side to be guardians and counselors in their lives, to be examples of what they need to do to become outstanding citizens in our community.
Generally, sibling rivalry can be quite simple in relationships. It’s easy to generate within a family, especially one with two or more siblings, because
The Negative Effect of Divorce on Children Divorce has a negative effect on the psychological and social aspects of our children, which may appear instantly or not come to the surface for years. This is why I think that divorce should only be a last resort and not rushed into, even by couples with the most troubled marriages. The only acceptable reason for someone rushing into divorce is if they or their children are in danger. I believe that marriage is a commitment not to be taken lightly and disregarded at the first bump in the road, especially when there are children involved. Far too many people do not want to take responsibility for their actions and choices; for example, people use abortion as birth control and couples’ jumping in and out of marriages like it’s a trial and error institution.
Many people grow up with a sibling, in fact eighty percent of people in the United States and Europe grow up with a brother or sister (Dunn 1). Most people can agree with the statement that growing up with siblings has impacted their development and personality. This topic has been researched by psychologist and sociologist for decades; which has provided both positive and negative outcomes of growing up with siblings. Children can benefit from growing up with siblings because they can learn from their siblings, gain social skills, and their siblings may become a valuable asset in one’s life.
She is in a contest to grow the healthiest prettiest flower possible and she has entered the contest every year for the past 5 years and she always falls short of first. This year she swears she is going to win first. She imagines a seed, then she imagines planting that seed. She envisions herself taking care of this seed every day until it is a beautiful flower. She starts by planting the seed in extraordinary rich soil in an old pot her mother gave her. She then plants the pot in a spot with a lot of sunlight. She waters the seed as often as it needs it. Once the seed starts to sprout she trims the blossoming flower and she protects the newly sprouted flower from pests. In this story she is resembling what a family does. Family takes care of you, it protects you, and it makes sure you’re presentable. Most of all family wants you to win first, it wants you to be number one, and it wants you to be the best you can be. Family contributes to an individual’s identity by pushing that person to pursue her own identity, create goals for herself, and strive to achieve them.
No matter how many times you’ve raised children, it never gets easier the second time, especially when it’s grandchildren that they have to take in. There are many reasons that grandparents may be called upon to step up and raise grandchildren. There are also many positive and negative effects of grandparents raising their grandchildren.