Why are we are afraid of failing? We don’t want to look bad in front of others, make a mistake and get embarrassed? I think it is more than that…deeper than that, it goes down to the very core of who we are as a person. Our fear of failure is rooted in our belief system created from childhood; quietly fostering (sometimes) into mental illness from neglectful and abusive parents; developing into full scale neurosis as we mature into adults and learn to hide our symptomatic quirks from others. Fear is so much more than simply being afraid of something. When we were afraid of the dark, we learned we could control our fear and turn on the light. In the dark, we see a monster. In the light, we realize it is only a chair and a jacket hanging …show more content…
If one believes that is partly true, but believes in the power of free will (making one’s own decisions), that is the philosophical concept of compatibilism. When applied to real life failures and the realization that I can’t control anything but myself; the light bulb goes off was and one realizes that failure isn’t actually a one-time event. Coming to the “a-ha” moment that there are free acts of choice and freedom in the pre-determined choices for every aspect of everything that …show more content…
Since failure is truly more common than success, one’s question for life should not be if you have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. Philosophically speaking, there is no achievement without failure. To even imply that it might be possible to achieve anything without failure, gives people the wrong impression. The person construct theory introduced by George Kelly, Psychologist, says that in order to know success and its definition we must also know failure and its definition (INSERT CITATION). One can’t have proper perspective without the other. That theory goes hand-in-hand with the concept of failure and success - navigating/conducting individual behavioral situations test our perceptions and interpretations. If we do not like the results or “how we handled it”, we can change - albeit not always easily. (INSERT
That exact statement makes me or any reader feel that failure doesn’t always have to be perceived to be negative. Failure can improve personal growth. We are always scared out the outcome failure will bring, but that is the silver lining for our personal growth. If we concentrate more on the effort we put into a certain task, we can grow by the steps we take along the way. Anyone can succeed, no matter their
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What exactly is failure? It is, according to the dictionary, “Lack of success.” Many people say that “failure isn’t the falling down, but the staying down.” But who are we to say? Lack of hope, the thought that death and failure are one and the same, and a pessimistic outlook on life can cause someone to fail, but thankfully not everyone falls victim to these. Failure is always controversial, because people view things and events differently. As Elaine Maxewell once said, “My will shall shape the future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.”
Success and failure seem to be pretty distinct opposites, but many times the differences between success and failure aren’t as obvious as we may think them to be. Sometimes a failure can be turned into a success if you are willing to look back at them, and are open to learning from them. Many times, one’s attitude toward a failure can determine whether or not anything is learned from it. Those who remain upbeat and positive after a failure may be able to get something out of it, but those who just don’t think about it and ignore it won’t get anything from it.
And if it is true that the lessons we take from failure can be fundamental to later success then I am right. This is where my path to success really begins. It is never late to start again. Small things that aren’t so small can have a big repercussion in someone's life. We as human beings need to learn how to be more loving, respectful and compassionate. I am so proud to be who I am today because of this past experiences. I believe almost everybody has had a time in their lives in which they failed, nobody is perfect. Failure indeed can be fundamental to later success, but the expectations of success are not what people think, at least for me, but I certainly know I'm not
All students will face the terror of entering college, a place that will rip you away from the familiarity you had before. It is a place with an atmosphere so different from what you’re used to that you’ll feel it before you walk on that campus. But don’t run away just yet, there’ve been other’s who’ve felt troubled with doubt and fear about their abilities to succeed as a student in college. In the article “Conquering the Freshman Fear of Failure” author David L. Kirp implores that “students can acquire ways of thinking that helps them thrive” (1). In comparison, to Kirp’s article, the protagonist in “Make Your Home among Strangers” by Jennine Capo Crucet, also manages to overcome her doubt on her ability to succeed as a student. Students need to learn to face their fears in order to have the desired life that is filled with happiness and prosperity. First generation students constantly struggle with
Failure is one aspect of life that no one can avoid. The terror that comes from failure is that it has the power to break someone down to where they feel they can not get up and overcome the situation. Failing at a situation seems to make all hard work vanish in an instant, as if all the time and effort that was put forth into succeeding was never even there. Although failure can hurt and cause anxiety and even depression, it also allows a person to discover that even though they have been crushed they can still conquer it and succeed in the end.
It’s inevitable to never fail. Everyone will fail at some point in their lives because perfection isn’t realistic. The question is, is failure fatal or a learning experience for success? The articles “The Right to Fail” by William K Zinsser and “In Praise of the “F” Word” by Mary Sherry both explore the concepts of failure. William Zinsser’s article makes the claim that failure is the only way for people grow and should not be looked at solely as negative. Mary Sherry’s article makes the claim that failure should not be feared by teachers and students but used as motivation for success. Both authors use evidence and appeals in similar and different ways to get their claim of failure being positive across to the audience.
In the words of Bertrand Russell, “Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom” (Russell). Fear causes many problems in our lives. Fear influences many of a person’s actions and decisions. However, people usually regret the decisions or actions they made out of fear. Also, these actions and decisions can cause problems for those people in their future. Fear is a harmful emotion, for it clouds people’s judgement, disables them from taking action, and causes them to make decisions that they will regret later.
Since 1877, American politics and society have been influenced by fear. This fear came from a lot of ways, for example: foreign culture and also from American. After the Reconstruction of the south of America, after slavery, the northern and the Southern became more and more close. By the United States unification, America met a lot of events that made people felt fear when America society had development and became strong, like Communism power, effect of atomic weapons.
Failure is necessary in life. It should not be a thing to be afraid of. Being afraid to fail will only make a person not be their best. If one has an attitude of being afraid of failure, they need to take a step back, and really diagnose their life. Some failures can be prevented but only if one stays on the right path to success. Most times people fail is because they ignore what is right, and choose the
People usually afraid of failure because they tried to do something and failed, or took a risk and it didn’t pay off, or made a decision and it turned out to be the wrong one. That fear of failure create the stress and anxiety when people want to do something hard or try something new. Just because you tried something two or three time and failing does not mean the entire idea is a mistake. Do you expect to get a Blackjack on every game that you played? That would be an impossible thing to do. There is no success that comes without failure, where failure is experiences and lessons that help you to perfect your works. People should overcome their fear of failure and use failure as a tool to work toward their success because failing is so important
Failures can either be motivation and a step forward or discouragement and a step backward. What can someone do to make failures a positive? It depends on how you perceive failure and what you look for upon failing. As is the natural course, failure is almost inevitable, so it was a matter of learning how to deal with that failure. One of the more challenging failures I have experienced came in my sophomore year.
It doesn’t matter if they are failing or success, the only thing matter is how hard people are trying during the process. The value of success will worth and have respect after they walk through failure. It’s important on how people stand up after they failed, not how they failed, because everyone will fail at least one time on their life. A good example of people who fail but they stand up and learn from it is people who play sport. At first time of playing, no one will good at sport. Sometime they make a common mistake when they start play but if they learn from it, they won’t make that same mistake again during the game. To have that success they have to make mistake and fail during the practice so they can learn from it and practice to overcome their failure. But people who never fail when they play, they may make a common mistake on the
Fear of failure, I know this phrase very well. It allows the fear to stop me doing the things that can move me towards achieving my goals. When I look back at my fears, I grasp the moment that I have been so afraid of failing that I decided against it and I lost some great once in a lifetime opportunities. Fear of failure subconsciously; hint at, I weakened my own efforts to escape the risk of a higher failure. Many of us have possibly faced this at one time in our lifetime. The fear of failing can be restraining. It can cause us to stop the forward progress in life; we are probable to miss some huge opportunities along the way. Everyone describes failure differently, since we all have diverse expectations, and wishes. However, there’s something