The Broken Hearth Chapter Summary

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The Broken Hearth is a book that discusses; some might say debate one of the biggest charges in America, which is the structure of the American Family today. American families today are more unstructured than in the past. American family is under difficulty as never before. Although the nuclear family is the most common and yes we should go back to our roots and have an understanding of what America was intended to be. But our society is now accepting and embracing same sex marriage and one parent homes. Marriages are less central, divorce rate are high, and children being born out of wedlock and non-married couples living together today is more common. The conventional nuclear circle of relatives is being extensively challenged …show more content…

Before getting married, certain things were told to me about having a good marriage and raising children. It states in the book, “that two loving parents are all a child needs”. (Bennett, 2001) For instant, my mother advised me that if I get married I would have to serve my husband and marriage is till death do you part, unless you witness with your own eyes infidelity. However; before I got married I already had a child, so there goes traditional family values. When I met my husband we lived together first until I got pregnant with my second child. Once I was pregnant, is where I felt my marriage was arranged because my husband said he was not leaving his child. We got married not really loving or knowing each other but tolerating one another for our child’s sake. Cohabitation is what it was as he did what he wanted to do. As mention in the book, “the family is the child’s most important model in terms of how life ought to be lived, the setting where children see vivid demonstrations of love, kindness, compassion, generosity, patience, duty and fidelity”. (Bennett, 2001) Well as time went by, my husband did not believe in the monogamy relationship because he was hurt by his first love and felt I was going to do the same. During the first 10 years of our marriage he ventured outside the marriage and had a child out of wedlock. In Hebrews 13:4 it states, “Give …show more content…

I strongly believe children should live in a house hold with a father and a mother according God’s perfect plan. However; I don’t necessarily believe that it has to be a father and mother. I think it’s possible for a same sex couples to raise children and provide stability. Although in the book it states “We need to accept the fact that children thrive best when they are cared for by a mother and a father who are committed to each other in a stable and enduring marital relationship”, (Bennett 2001, p.68) I think children strive from parents who are committed to each other in a stable and enduring marital relationship and pushes their children beyond their potential and through encouragement. And if a man and a woman love one another, why is it so important for them to get married? I don’t believe a major factor for a man and women who loves one another to get married. Although the bible states, “a man and women should become one flesh”. Does that mean God wanted us to plan a wedding, get finically in debt just to get a marriage license or did he want us to dedicate ourselves to one another? I believe it means to share life together through joy, hope, happiness, fear, success and failure. So, do these things need a marriage license? I think

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