Stuck in the Rut: Struggling to Get Out of Grief

Everybody at some point in their life will experience some sort of heartache which will cause them some sort of grief. Each and every person deals or does not deal with it differently. Through the many different beliefs and theories on the process and levels of grief, there is one thing in common. It can be very difficult, and sometimes life changing to deal with and move on from grief. People who experience the loss of a loved one have great difficulty accepting their death as shown by the, denial, bargaining, anger, false acceptance, and actual acceptance expressed by the grieving person.
People who go through a difficult loss of someone they love often show denial. Denial that their Mother, Father, Grandparent, Child are dying. Denial that things will be different after they are gone. Denial that they are really hurting. While there are many other things that show up when someone is going to go onto the last stage of their story, denial is the most prevalent. Michael Robert Dennis main focus in his article, "Do Grief Self-Help Books Convey Contemporary Perspectives On Grieving?," was to outline the questions surrounding self-help book, and how and if they can aid someone through grief. Dennis mentions that some people don’t recognize the need to move on, they feel instead the need continue the “shared relationship” (393). They deny the fact that they would need to because they don’t even believe that they could be gone in the first place. Charlotte Epstein, in her book “Nursing the Dying Patient: Learning Processes for Interaction”, digs through and dissects of stage of dying; denial, anger, bargaining, grieving, and acceptance. It can be hard to believe that someone, or one’s self is dying. Dr. Epstein states that “It is no...

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