Spanking is often considered a controversial disciplinary measure, though it can be seen as a necessary one. Growing up, whenever I was mischievous my parents would talk to me and spank me to make me realize what I did was wrong and not to do it again. The spanking comes from the use of physical force to help children remember the feeling of pain before making a bad decision. In moderation, spanking can be an effective discipline measure because of how effectively it can establish parental authority, foster loving intentions, and teach children how to act. To start with, spanking children can help provide more authority for parents in the way of disciplining their kids. As kids act out of line, as a parent it’s good to remind them of what to …show more content…
The article states, “Backup spanking comes in”. It involves two swats of an open hand to the rear end, and parents should affirm love for the child afterward. Research finds this to be most effective with 2- to 6-year-olds.” Spanking helps younger kids gain respect for their parents as they show them authority. To continue, why spanking in moderation can be useful is how this violence is only used for love. When spanking children, a balance between love and abuse has to be drawn. As a parent, knowing the difference when spanking your kids is important. Depending on how this punishment is used, kids can have an understanding that their parents are only using violence to help them learn. The article, it said “Just like any disciplinary tactic, the outcome with spanking depends on how it is used. The child must understand that the parent is doing it out of concern — not out of rage or frustration, or to show who's the boss. Parents should not be out of control due to anger if they are spanking in this way.” Knowing the intention of parents can help their children understand that ultimately spanking comes from a loving intention of helping their kids make better …show more content…
According to the text “In several studies, kids whose parents used a balance of love and limits, including backup spanking, were found to be doing much better 10 years later during adolescence than kids whose parents were overly punitive and did not show love in various ways to the child.” Overall, spanking with limitations can show kids the proper way to behave while showing how much their parents love them. Emphasizing why spanking in moderation can be beneficial. Others may disagree, saying that any sort of violence can be harmful to kids. Solving a violence issue can be harmful for the kids, leaving them at risk of depression. The article states, “Corporal punishment in the home has been banned in 31 countries, including Spain, Israel, Kenya, and Costa Rica. No such prohibition exists in the United States, although 32 states have laws forbidding teachers and administrators from striking students.” Shows how in different countries, spanking is frowned upon and seen as unnecessary while here in the U.S. it’s common to see. A small dose of violence can help children understand better. According to the text, ‘Not all children will suffer negative consequences of
Spanking doesn’t allow children to learn the reasons why to act appropriately. When parents use physical punishment, such as spanking, to discipline their children, they do so in order to improve their child’s behavior. According to a report composed by a lead researcher in the field of pediatrics, spanking does not teach children the reason for why they are being punished or why their behavior was wrong. Spanking teaches children to act in a desired way only because of fear of being punished. Being a victim of spanking, I only feared the idea of being spanked, and that is why I changed my behavior for the time being. I did not actually understand the reasoning for why I was being punished. Spanked children do not understand the positive and important reasons for acting properly.
Spanking is the most effective form of discipline when a child knows doing something is wrong, but the child does it anyway. A child who is properly disciplined through spanking is being taught how to control her or his impulses and how to deal with all types of authorities in future environments. Parents can control their child’s future
...ginning of humanity. It worked then, and it works now. Critics have decided to re-define spanking as abuse. They would like for everyone to believe the propaganda. The truth is, however that spanking has its benefits. A little pain has positive long term results. Parents can expect a well mannered respectful adult to be the result. Parents should decide if they want to spank their children; not society. One parent’s choice of discipline has no value over another’s. The key thing to remember when it comes to discipline is to discipline out of love for the child. Never spank a child while angry. Explain to the child why the spanking has to be given. Afterwards, show some affection. This way the child will feel loved and understand reconciliation (Dobson). The child will have no feelings of resentment. When parents follow these steps, discipline will never be abuse.
The use of spanking is one of the most controversial parenting practices and also one of the oldest, spanning throughout many generations. Spanking is a discipline method in which a supervising adult deliberately inflicts pain upon a child in response to a child’s unacceptable behaviour. Although spanking exists in nearly every country and family, its expression is heterogeneous. First of all the act of administering a spanking varies between families and cultures. As Gershoff (2002) pointed out, some parents plan when a spanking would be the most effective discipline whereas some parents spank impulsively (Holden, 2002). Parents also differ in their moods when delivering this controversial punishment, some parents are livid and others try and be loving and reason with the child. Another source of variation is the fact that spanking is often paired with other parenting behaviours such as, scolding, yelling, or perhaps raging and subsequently reasoning. A third source of variation concerns parental characteristics. Darling and Steinberg (1993) distinguished between the content of parental acts and the style in which it was administered (Holden, 2002). With all this variation researchers cannot definitively isolate the singular effects of spanking.
The Controversy Behind Child Spanking Spanking a child is a controversial issue. On one side of the debate are people who believe spanking is a necessary component of parenting. On the contrary, there are people who think spanking a child is destructive.
First of all, spanking does not lead to violence. Our surrounding world and media do. "The average sixteen-year- old has watched 18,000 murders during his formative years, including a daily bombardment of stabbings, shootings, hangings, decapitations, and general dismemberment" (Meier 34). It seems unjust to blame parents who are trying to raise their children properly for today's violence. If a child touches a hot stove he does not become a more violent person because of it, he just learns not to do it again because he learned a valuable lesson from the pain (Meier 34).
Finally, we need to know more about the personal resources of parents that can lessen the incidence of spanking. It is found that spanking sharply decreases as the parent ages. Despite ideological motivations, parents can and should be trained to understand alternative strategies of discipline (Day 93).
From helping them read and write, to teaching them right from wrong, parenting is a huge job and adds a lot of pressure on parents because they want their child to succeed. However, different parenting styles brings on different characteristics and reactions out of their children, which is why when it comes to parenting, one is entitled to their own opinion on how to discipline their children accordingly. When it comes to disciplining, it can be done by taking away television time, phone time, or even taking away a favorite snack, but what about spanking as a form of discipline? Spanking by far, is considered the biggest controversy when discipline is being discussed, and there are many opinions on if spanking helps or hurts the child. With
Spanking is commonly associated with parents attempting to correct behavior in a child; ultimately often out of frustration and/or anger with the child’s behavior. In the heat of the moment, most parents do not associate the long term psychosocial or behavioral effects the act of spanking can have on a child. The dangers of these effects derived from how children think and behave show us that spanking is not an effective form of discipline.
Parents use spanking as a tool to correct their child’s misbehavior. Misbehavior by children is an act of disobedience toward an adult or guardian. The correct way of spanking should be done out of love and compassion by the parent by pointing out the error in the child’s behavior. After a parent takes
Spankings are usually given by a parent, legal guardian, teacher, or other person in authority over a minor. Generally, spankings are given when a child displays unacceptable behavior such as being rude, foul language, stealing, fighting, and other acts of disobedience. Wikipedia states that in most societies, “parents are regarded as those having the duty of disciplining their children and the right to spank them is appropriate” even though this is changing in many countries. There are government agencies, laws, and policies in place for most states that outline the proper way to utilize corporal punishment. When these laws are followed, children should be safe in most circumstances when they are corrected with corporal punishments. There will always be a risk of child abuse because of the way some people in today’s society don’t value life but I don’t bel...
Swat! The entire store tries not to stare at the overwhelmed mother spanking her three-year-old whaling son. As if the screaming tantrum wasn't enough of a side show at the supermarket. This method, or technique perhaps, has been around for decades, even centuries. Generations have sat on grandpa’s lap and listened to the stories of picking their own switch or getting the belt after pulling off a devilish trick. So why then has it become a major controversy in the past few decades? The newest claim is that spanking and other forms of physical punishment can lead to increased aggression, antisocial behavior, physical injury and mental health problems for children. Brendan L. Smith uses many case studies and psychologists findings in his article “The Case Against Spanking” to suggest that parents refrain from physically punishing their children due to lasting harmful effects.
Spanking. It is a hotly debated topic, and everyone who has an opinion seems to have a strong one. It is either child abuse or it is a fundamental form of discipline. It is traumatizing or it is character-building. It is repugnant or it is commendable. Many have difficulty removing their emotions from such a controversial topic. I, myself, struggle to consider objectively a situation I’ve always deemed moral and paramount to a child’s development, but with the cruciality of raising the next generation, objectivity is imperative. Because children are wayward and often misunderstand instructions, parents must decide early on how they will discipline their child. This raises the controversial question: Should parents use corporal punishment
“I will beat you into the middle of next week!” or “I will whip you until your butt swell up!” or “If you play with fire you will get burnt by the belt!” or I will smack the daylight out of you!” These are some of the quotes my parents used on my brothers and me when we were kids.
Spanking is a disciplinary act that has been used by parents for years now. It does not seem like a big deal at the time, but spanking does have long term effects that can affect the child even when he or she is a adult. Spanking whether it is appropriate for parents or any guardian of a child should be allowed to spank their child or not. There is a lot of controversy because parents say kids need to be disciplined when they are behaving badly. Others say parents shouldn 't spank their child because they long-term outcome is worse and they are not teaching the child a lesson. Some parents agree with these specialist and don 't spank their child but use other ways of discipline that doesn 't involve hurting