The social penetration works when both sides proceed in the relationship with a "gradual and orderly fashion from superficial to intimate levels of exchange" (Williams, 2014). For instance, a college student chooses to live on campus and decides to make friend with his neighbor. They are both freshmen and new to the university. Thus, those college students can predict to build a friendship in the future and become bestie. In contrast, some people are quiet and shy to make friends, they will avoid talking to strangers. Someone is eating by themselves in the dining hall, another colleague shows up and wants to sit with him. They slowly start talking and find no common among them leading selflessly available to the conversation That will be the …show more content…
The penetration method is no longer applicable, so the social penetration theory does not work. As explained by Bylund & Cameron Social Penetration Theory is an recognized and familiar explanation of how intimacy cultivates in friendships and romantic relationships but it has many critics (Bylund & Cameron, 2012): Petronio thinks that it is simplistic to equate self-disclosure with relational closeness and also challenges the theorists' view of disclosure boundaries as being fixed and increasingly less permeable (Bylund & Cameron, 2012). She questions if a complex blend of advantages and disadvantages can be reliably reduced to a single index? Are people so consistently selfish that they always opt to act strictly in their own best interests? (Bylund & Cameron, 2012)
Face-to-Face Communication Example
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Annie, an inactive social media user, who uses only Facebook. She lives in Indonesia. In November 2013, Annie met JA through Facebook, who is familiar with Twitter, Skype, Linkedln. JA is a structural engineer at a big private company in Liverpool. They started the conversation around weather and local time. At this stage, they sometimes talk about their daily activities, plans for the next day. Also, Annie and JA figured a suitable time chart to communicate easily because of the different time zone between UK and Indonesia. Annie was surprised when she received most private information from JA. He is a widower and does not have any children. His wife has died from cancer and he still loved her so much. However, JA needs to move on to overcome his sadness, so he tried to socialize and make new friends. A few days later, their conversation and JA's interaction has occurred intensively. He exposed that he loves Annie and ask her to be his wife even though she was already married. Annie only wished to be a friend, she needed more data up to the penetration as in the social penetration theory, she thought this process was supposed to end soon. JA kept continued texting his foreign Indonesian friend. Thinking that JA's profile picture was attractive, Annie would fall in love with him if she was single because he also was touching and
After moving to Eatonville and marrying Joe, Janie discovers that people are not always who they seem to be. While Joe at first seemed to be easy-going and friendly, she wa...
Beebe, Steven A., Susan J. Beebe, and Mark V. Redmond. "Verbal Messages." Interpersonal Communication: Relating to Others. Boston: Allyn and Bacon/Pearson, 2009. Print.
Janie is an exceptionally interesting person. She is still developing and does not know exactly what she wants at her point in life. She is still exploring her world and who she wants to be. I am at that same point in my life so it is easy for me to relate to her and understand what she is going through. I have countless opportunities but am unsure of which prospect will fulfill my life in the future. Janie is in the same position and is doing what she has to do to find out what will implement her life best. She is uncertain how she would like to live her life or even what she wants in her life. There is only one thing she is positive she wants to encompass in her life, which is true love.
We can infer Joe's attitude towards women and marriage from several statements that he makes to Janie throughout their relationship. While he courts his future wife, Joe explains himself and his intentions: "‘Ah'm uh man wid principles. You ain't never knowed what it was to be treated lak a lady and Ah wants to be de one tuh show yuh. Call me Jody lak you do sometime'"(29). He then situates Janie's subservient and silent position within the marriage: "‘mah wife don't know nothin' ‘bout no speech-makin'. Ah never married her for nothin' lak dat.
In the beginning of the story, Janie is stifled and does not truly reveal her identity. When caught kissing Johnny Taylor, a local boy, her nanny marries her off to Logan Killicks. While with Killicks, the reader never learns who the real Janie is. Janie does not make any decisions for herself and displays no personality. Janie takes a brave leap by leaving Killicks for Jody Starks. Starks is a smooth talking power hungry man who never allows Janie express her real self. The Eatonville community views Janie as the typical woman who tends to her husband and their house. Janie does not want to be accepted into the society as the average wife. Before Jody dies, Janie is able to let her suppressed anger out.
She realized that she married him only because of Nanny’s wishes, and she did not - and was never going to - love him. It was with this realization that her “first dream was dead, so she became a woman” (25) And although the “memory of Nanny was still powerful and strong”, (29) Janie left with Joe Starks. However her marriage to Jody was no better than her marriage to Logan. Jody was powerful and demanding, and although at first he seemed amazing, Jody forced Janie into a domestic lifestyle that was worse than the one that she escaped. Jody abused Janie both emotionally and physically, and belittled her to nothing more than a trophy wife. But Janie never left him. This time Janie stayed in the abusive marriage until he died, because Janie did not then know how to the tools capable of making her a sovereign person. She once again chose caution over nature, because caution was the safest option. And overtime she became less and less Janie, and less and less of her sovereign self, and eventually, “the years took all the fight out of Janie’s face. For a while she thought it was gone from her soul...she had learned how to talk some and leave some. She was a rut in the road. Plenty of life beneath the surface but it was kept beaten down by the wheels” (76). During her marriage to Jody, Janie never got it right. She was trapped under Jodi’s command and because of this she never
With Janie, there is an overwhelming conflict between her own will and the will of God. On one side of her reasoning, she feels the need to find and experience true love but on the other side, is God pulling the strings in her life. Janie's Nanny pushes her in the direction of marriage, even if there is no love between her and the man she marries. Janie desperately longs for love but is still unsure in her young womanhood if all it takes is a simple marriage to a man who will take care of her. This can be seen when Janie asks herself, "Did marriage end the cosmic loneliness of the unmated? Did marriage compel love like the sun the day?"(pg 21) Janie soon realizes that being taken care of is not the same as true love. Marriage is not what Janie wants. She wants love and her desire to get out of the marriage is clearly seen in all the references to animals. "She feels like a mule while she's with Logan. She knows she has the spirit of a stallion inside her but she is literally surrounded by a gate and can only stare towards her impossible dreams of love down the road" (pg 25-27). Logan puts a tremendous amount of un-needed stress on Janie with his demands as well as his verbal and physical abuse often seen through their marriage. Still in shock and confusion of the whole process, Janie gathers her courage and decides to run away with a man she barley knows, Joe Starks.
out to marry her as soon as possible. When Janie asked about love, she was
Living with her Grandmother and theWashburns’, Janie was surrounded and raised with white children. She always believed that she was white herself, and that she was no different than anybody else. As she was growing up, she was told what to do and how to live by her grandmother. Janie’s grandmother planned her life out for her. She told her that she must get married right away. “Yeah, Janie, youse got yo’ womanhood on yuh. So Ah mout ez well tell yuh whut Ah been savin’ up for uh spell. Ah wants to see you married right away.” Janie’s grandmother did want what was best for Janie, but she basically told her what to do instead of letting her know what she wanted for her. Janie’s grandmother told her exactly who she was going to marry and who she wasn’t even to think about. “Whut Ah seen just now is plenty for me, honey, Ah don’t want no trashy negro, no breath-and-britches, lak Johnny Taylor usin’ yo’ body to wipe his foots on. Brother Logan Killicks, he’s a good man.......You answer me when Ah speak. Don’t you set dere poutin’ wid me after all Ah done went through for you!” She is basically telling Janie that she can’t marry Johnny Taylor, the one she is exploring her womanhood
The Social Penetration model demonstrated two way in which communication can be more or less disclosing. The model is like an onion with layers. The first dimension is known as breadth, which is the range of the subjects being discussed, which with an onion as demonstration would be the outer layers. Second is depth, the depth level is significant and more central to ourselves, In the onion this would be the inner and core. The inner and core layers are the things with most private and significant to us. Thus, sharing information from our depth may require greater risk taking. The information from this dimension of self is typically known by and held in confidence by only a few people. Due to the fact
Throughout her marriage with Jody, Janie fights this inner battle of wanting independence and fulfilling her duties as a wife. At the beginning of their marriage, she admired Jody and his aspirations for the tiny town they moved to. But as his status in the town moved higher, Janie’s status also involuntarily moved along with it. In her marriage to Jody, Janie’s own thoughts and feelings are suppressed and she realizes that she was saving up her thoughts and feelings for a man she had never even met. “She found that she had a host of thoughts she had never let Jody know about.
She wanted to be her own person, but she also wished for the perfect marriage stereotypical to the time. “Did marriage end the cosmic loneliness of the unmated? Did marriage compel love like the sun the day?” (3.21). With these ideas going into her first marriage, Janie had set herself up for failure. Those were her questions about what marriage was, finding out they weren’t true were the deterrent to her marriage with Logan ending well. By viewing love as a union between two people who loved each other, not having love may have lead to Janie not even trying to make the marriage work. Being as young as she was, and having little to no experience with the topic, Janie never gave the marriage as much effort as she likely should have. Going into her second marriage, she met a man who spoke rhymes to her and gave her what it was she now thought a marriage needed, but he did not show her signs of what she needed out of love. “Janie pulled back a long time because he did not represent sun-up and pollen and blooming trees, but he spoke for far horizon.” (4.29). Janie's youth and little understanding of love should have made her listen to what she saw as love, the pear tree with its bee. Without her idea of love present in her budding relationship with Jody, Janie again set herself up for failure. Without feeling a connection to Jody, besides “newness” and
The need for interpersonal communication across all human endeavors is growing especially in the context of
The purpose of this literary analysis is to determine if social networks are helpful or harmful to relationships. As social networking evolves, different aspects of communication suffer. Such as the social penetration theory, which “describes people as onions with several layers of information”. pressed tightly together in the cuff. The outermost layer consists of the kind of information you would get.
From context that has been gathered, Jim and Annie only met on the Journey over. This journey would have taken about three weeks. In this short space of time a romance budded into a relationship that will soon turn to marriage. Affection can be caught in the letter through phrases such as “my dear Jim” and how she signs off the letter by “close with love”. The way in which relationships in the 1800 began can be noted for the minimal amount of communication. Yet, despise this many relationships still flourish through one letter a month means of