Protect your kids, Protect their social media. Why do parents want to monitor their child’s social media account? Teens use their social media accounts to post about their lives. Teens will post pictures, write or tweet, give their locations and talk about their lives in a negative or positive way. To protect their children parents should monitor their child’s social media accounts. Parents should monitor their teens social media account to make sure they aren’t posting things to jeopardize their future. Many teens play a sport at a high school level and aspire to move onto play at the collegiate level. Because you have to be recruited by college coaches they check mostly all of your social media accounts. In the article written by Associated …show more content…
Bayless continues by stating that “ the main problem with helicopter parenting is that is backfires” It backfires because the message that is being sent to the child is that my parent doesn’t trust me. The parents always wants to have a healthy and trusting two way relationship between their child. However that doesn’t get achieved if the child feels like every move they make is being watched. The line that can get crossed is very tricky to find, to be engaged just enough in your child’s life but at the same time not seem so immersed that the parents lose the perspective on what the actual need is. ( Bayless 2) While it is understandable that the parents just want to be sure that their child is happy and safe all the time, it is unrealistic to have that belief. Their are so many life changes that happen during your teenager years and parents have to trust that they have raised their child the best they could. When they have that belief then the parents would be able to trust that should anything happen, their child would come straight to them. They would also be able to trust that they have created a safe and loving home, that no matter what the child sees on social media, it wouldn’t affect their mental health too poorly. If a parents is constantly there to clean up their child’s mess, how would that child learn how to cope with anything bad (Bayless 2). It is very important for a child to go through some negative things because it will teach them how to be stronger. In realistic terms, a parent has to let their children feel pain and struggle just enough so that they can grow and work through
The expansion of the Internet infrastructure across the world, has brought an increased audience. Which has provided expanded markets for businesses and exploited new opportunities. There are virtually countless social sites and media used by individuals to access and share experiences , content, insights, and perspectives. Parents today tend to believe they should spy on their kids online activity. I argue parents should respect the privacy of a child's social life and his/her internet activity.
According to Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D., director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders Helicopter parents refers to "a style of parents who are over focused on their children". She also added "They typically take too much responsibility for their children's experiences and, specifically, their successes or failures"(n.d). Helicopter parents is all about ‘hovering’ over their children in an effort to become involved in their life that involves over controlling and overprotecting. This is a control in order to protect their children from harm and disappointment in today’s society. These parents also find it hard to let go, won’t allow children to make their own mistakes in life and also placed their own identity
Many teens nowadays have cell phones, smart phones, iPods, iPads and most of the newest electronics on the market. They also have social media sites such as Instagram, Snapchat, Kik, Myspace, Facebook and so on. Many people also say that teens now are “addicted” to their phones and can't let go of it. In the article, Let Kids Run Wild Online, by Danah Boyd, she explains how there are some parents that are “helicopter parents” and they track and monitor their child’s online activity. Danah Boyd is encouraging parents to lay back on their tracking and monitoring and to let their children do what they want online and they will tell you what is going on. She also said instead of being a “helicopter parent” by monitoring what your child sees and does online, communicate with your child and teach them what to do when there is an online predator and “developing strategies for negotiating public life, and the potential risks of interacting with others”. I fully agree with what Boyd is stating in this article and think that kids need their own kind of freedom without parents acting like hawks and watching their every move online.
Intrusive parenting is a new scenario that has just recently caught the attention of the public eye. Barbara Howard, author of “Landing Helicopter Parents,” refers to these specific types of parents as “helicopter parents” because they are in constant fear that something bad might happen to their child and are willing to do anything to raise a successful young adult (8). It’s because of this fear, that they tend to “hover” close to their child (8). Other terms
One of the main things that parents want for their children is confidence. On one side of this controversy, there are the Helicopter Parents who believe that confidence comes when their child is protected from failure. On the other side are the Free Rangers or parents with a more relaxed approach (Rutherford 407). Free Rangers believe that the best way to foster confidence is through learning how to deal with failure. There is no doubt that most parents want their kids to be safe. It is apparent that the earth isn’t always a safe place to be. However, helicopter parents feel that they need to protect their children more than Free Rangers do. Even if that means doing whatever it takes to makes sure that nothing bad will happen to their kids. It's good to be involved in a child’s life, but where do you draw the line between involved and micromanaging? In most situations, helicoptering means being involved, but not conveniently. However, there are certain cases where these actions may be justified. For instance, a child could be attending a school that is a bad environment with bad influences (Howard). If this were the case hovering would probably be the smartest thing to because a child is being saved from actual potential dangers. To helicopter as a parent can be extremely disruptive but it is done out of
This style may make become difficult for the child in the future and hinder their ability to become independent. These parents pay very close attention to what their child or children do and are going through, especially with their education. Because of this, it may end up giving the child problems in their adult life. In the article “‘Helicopter Parenting’ Hurts Kids Regardless of Love or Support, Study Says.” it states, “it also suggested that lack of warmth can take the situation from bad to worse, amplifying low self-esteem and high-risk behaviors such as binge drinking.”. As well as “including such over-involved habits such as solving children’s problems and making important decisions for them, while warmth was measured in terms of availability to talk and spending quality time.” Unlike authoritative parenting this parenting leaves no space for the child to grow and explore. Helicopter parents are constantly hovering over their children causing them to become dependent on the parent. Helicopter parents stop their children for learning essential skills in order to gain independence for their adult life. Unlike authoritative parenting, helicopter parenting is unequal in the balance between control the parent has and freedom the child is allowed to have. Over-controlling their children instead of finding a balance is the reason why this parenting style is not the most effective or best
In reference to Helicopter parents, it is stated that “Some researchers have begun to argue that late adolescence and young adulthood are such minefields today - emotional, social, sexual, logistical, psychological - that there are valid reasons for parents to remain deeply involved in their children’s lives even after the kids are, technically speaking, adults.” (Aucion 1-2) They hover over their kids, hence the term “Helicopter parents” It seems important to help your children through life, but it is also important for them to learn to do things by themselves. Another quality of Helicopter parenting is that it can help build a bond between a mother and child.
In this day and age, the media labels overbearing parents as helicopter parents, and the label itself has taken on a negative light due to the guilt by association. The ‘popular’ definition of helicopter parenting come from the ‘extreme’ cases (Jayson 5). The extreme cases in the news are just that, extreme cases; they do not depict helicopter parenting in general, and have been given the name Blackhawks (“Liftoff for ‘Helicopter’ Parents”). The idea of helicoptering has become a misguided ‘negative portrait’ by media using the term and ‘over parenting synonymously’, but the two terms should be used so. They are very different; over parenting is when a parent does not let the child think for themselves (Aucoin). Over parenting and helicopter parenting are not synonyms, but they are not quite antonyms. Helicoptering can become oppressive parents quite easily. Another side of over parenting is the side that ‘expects… immediate compliance’ to orders without giving reasoning. This style can cause below average ‘self-esteem… self-reliance and… social skills’ (McDevitt and Ormrod). The regular helicopter parenting is more common than what would be assumed as a study shows ‘60 to 70 percent’ of college parents have ‘some helicoptering behavior...
Helicopter parents are harmful to a child's emotional growth as they prevent their children from experiencing real life situations. Of course, parents and their involvement are crucial to one's life and growth in many aspects, but, there are some parenting types that are more detrimental than beneficial. Helicopter parents want to give their children an easy life, with no hurt or mistakes involved. They don’t let them experience failure, disappointment or any bad feeling and emotion, with is not good for a child. Everyone needs to experience some sort of loss and need to make mistakes.
Helicopter parenting is the term used to describe parents who are overly involved in their child’s lives/decisions, to the point it becomes a detriment for the child. Helicopter parenting can facilitate a child’s over dependence on the parenting system (van Ingen, 2015). Severe cases of helicopter parenting stunts a student’s ability to learn and grow independently. Helicopter parents indirectly communicate to their children, that they are unable to handle their own life. This can cause students to be fearful of making choices on their own, without first receive feedback from their parental figure. Helicopter parenting can also have far-reaching and lasting effects on a child’s psyche,
Social media is a daily part of most today, which has started a trend of constant oversharing of one’s emotions and lives. Although one may not see this as an issue, since it is one’s decision whether they share private aspects of their lives, the problem arises when children are involved. Parents who overshare on social media tend to depict details of their children’s lives, which shapes their identities and shares details they may not have wanted to be shared.
With the advancement in technology in a short matter of time it has impacted the world in many ways such as how the world communicates and our life styles. One of the many revolutionary inventions or evolutions is called social networking sites (SNS). Social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and many more, are where people gather in the internet, create a personalized profile about themselves, and interact with people around the world. With the lack of parental supervision between the ages of fourteen to seventeen, which makes one of largest demographics using social networking sites, these teens could be subjected to mature elements. Young teens between the ages of fourteen to seventeen should not be allowed to have a profile on social networking sites because they do not have the capability to make proper logical decisions.
There has been controversy as to whether parents should limit the use of social media by teenagers. Teenagers feel that there is no need to limit the use of their social media networking, but on the other hand parents should feel the need to limit their use and also keep track of their teen’s social networking. Social media has allowed to be connected with their peers, teens who post positive status are more likely to be involved in extracurricular activities, and to many teens putting up “selfies” is a self confidence boost; however, too much social media can affect students GPA in school, cyber bulling can affect social health. Social media networks can give out personal information.
Teens should be monitored online sometimes, but it is extremely important for teens to have privacy. This argument is thriving, and will continue to for many years, for there are both sides presented in this quarrel. The teens can build a sense of trust from the parents not watching over them at all times; on the other hand, if the guardian does not watch their child at least periodically it could lead to the teen feeling free and starting to do wrong. Some people are in agreement with being able to monitor teens; for example, Jim Beeghley, an instructional technology coordinator and Ed. D, challenged this belief of privacy by implying, “We pay for the phone, it’s not really yours, and if I want to look at the text messages, I can…
When it comes to having an account online it can get quite dangerous. Not only is it dangerous but having the gadget lying around the house or even having their own at a young age can make it easier for them to have easy access to those social media accounts. Parents need to take precaution with their children and the internet. Meeting someone online is so much more different from meeting them in person. It is hard to tell if people and kids are their real age that they put on their information because you can actually lie about how old you really are. There has been many cases where involving younger girls talking to older men, a 15-year-old can be talking to a