Is Motherhood a Woman’s Ultimate Source of Happiness?
“Bones You Break Yourself” by Fancetta Camerino and “Maybe” by Jesse Armstrong, snapshots a portion of the lives of two different women from two different backgrounds. Mags in “Bones You Break Yourself” and Tasha in “Maybe” suffer from similar transgressions yet, are in two uniquely different situations. Mags and Tasha prevent themselves from experiencing true happiness and motherhood because they both make poor decisions, are violent, suffer addictions and are incapable of nurturing a child.
Mags and Tasha make poor decisions in situations that need both tact and long-term consideration. Tasha, out of pettiness, rearranges her parent’s silverware and takes the spoons (Armstrong 62).
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Mags is an alcoholic. She waits until her partner leaves for work to decide to drink alcohol in her coffee (Camerino 9). In that moment, the alcohol comforts her against her feelings of neglect. The fact that she waits until her partner leaves shows that she does not want her partner to know that she is drinking. She admits that after a week of smoking she is unable to quit (Camerino 8). She knows she’s addicted and she waits until she is alone to both smoke and drink. She uses her addiction as a coping method to self-soothe her emotional and self-inflicted wounds. It is both her stress release and her method of destruction. She’s polluting her body which is counter intuitive to providing a place to grow and nurture a child within the womb. Tasha, on the other hand, she’s addicted to prescription pills. When she’s upset with her roommate for deciding to move out, her only comfort and focus at that moment is securing her next fix for Vicodin (Armstrong 61). She makes references to needing them to function many times throughout the story. She wants to take a Vicodin to calm down before calling her mom (Armstrong 61). It reduces her stress and allows her to react more calmly and happily. She feels the high when she goes to her mother’s house to take her daughter away (Armstrong 62). She’s feeling good and has a positive outlook despite her few petty actions geared to make her parents angry. She’s indeed dependent on the Vicodin to …show more content…
Mags is incapable of nurturing a child at this moment because she lost a child physically. She makes a reference to her empty womb and her body feeling like a morgue (Camerino 9). She feels a lot of guilt and responsibility for it because she feels that she could have done more or she has done something wrong (Camerino 10). She is suffering from severe regret and depression. Her addictions and masochistic tendencies are ensuring an unhealthy environment that would not be wise for her to seek conception. Tasha is incapable of nurturing a child because she lives a rocky lifestyle. She’s incapable of taking her child into proper consideration (Armstrong 63-64). She envisions a life with her child but is not only incompetent, irrational and self-defeating but, she is incapable of putting her child first. She leaves her child at the diner’s table while she sits in the bathroom craving Vicodin while debating the idea of letting her parents raising her daughter or abandoning her child altogether (Armstrong 65). They both do not know nurture themselves both in mind or body, let alone a
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...er appreciate the world in this way because her mental and physical state was always impaired. When she wasn’t she could not make these same associations because bonding with alcohol repetitively was the only constant joy she had in her life.
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