Self Control In The Dinner Party By Mona Gardner

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Self Control Reading this as a girl, it seemed very offensive to all women. Why do men think women are weaker than men? In the “The Dinner Party”, written by Mona Gardner, it portrays the idea of self control in both genders isn’t equal. This story takes place in India where a young girl is having a conversation at a dinner party with government officials and their wives. The men argued that women don’t have the self control to control their fears when they see something scary. Even though some men don’t think that women have self control, it has been shown that women have a lot of self control when handling scary situations, especially when the situation puts others lives in danger. In this story it proves that some women can have a lot of self control when it is putting others lives in danger. During the dinner argument the hostess told a servant boy to put a bowl of milk out as bait for a cobra. “An American scientist saw this and told everyone to be completely still while he counted to three hundred and whoever moved while he counted would have to give up 50 rupees”. This is proving that women can have self control when in dangerous times. This story is showing how …show more content…

“Towards the end of his counting the cobra went outside to the bowl of milk and he slammed the doors shutting it out. The man then went on saying that the scientist had just proved that men have more self control than women, but then the scientist asked the hostess how she knew there was a cobra. She said “because it was lying across my foot.” Some women can and will have the self control to not jump or scream at the sight of a mouse, cobra, or something scary. When women are in scary situations they have an instinct to protect people like it was their own kid and in doing that they have to remain calm. Thus saying women are not as strong as men in stressful situations is not

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