Secure Attachment

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Attachment begins during the early years of life when we develop emotional ties with our caregivers. These emotional ties serve as a base from which an infant can explore their environment. Attachment can develop differently depending on how a child is parented. The availability of comfort and security from a caregiver to a child is crucial in developing secure attachment. If a child goes through infancy without these things they may form anxious preoccupied attachment, dismissive avoidant attachment, or fearful avoidant attachment. The attachment style we develop as children is most likely to be stable over time. So, that means what we learn from our caregivers we are most likely to reciprocate in our future relationships. If we develop secure attachment as an infant, we are most likely to expect availability and responsiveness from others because thats how our parents treated us. But on the other hand, we can be insecure in our relationships which is related to inadequate childhood caregiving (Firestone, 2013). This all effects what kind of relationships we look for, how we look to have our needs met, and how we respond to others needs in relationships. …show more content…

Dr. Firestone says that we choose our partners based on our needs and how we seek for them to be met. She states that 60% of people live with a secure attachment style, but the other 40% fall under the other styles. So all of us operate differently in romantic relationships. Secure attachment leads to being more emotionally ready commit and become close to others, but also being secure if others don’t choose you. Avoidant styles may be completely scared of intimacy and experience extreme highs and lows in relationships. Meanwhile, people with an anxious attachment style might view love in a very obsessive way and experience a lot of

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