Joshua Ackerman, Professor at MIT Sloan School of Management writes in the Scholarly Journal, Let’s Get Serious: Communicating Commitment in Romantic Relationships, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, that some commonly thought notations about expressing or communicating love may be incorrect.
Statements of I love you have helped men survive in wars; patients live past a deadly diagnosis and have made entire kingdoms fall. In today’s time those words can be a signal to the start of a romantic relationship, and can indicat a desire to shift from casual friendship and involvement to intimacy.
In the journal with information provided from various studies that were performed he shows that most people believe that females are more likely to express love first in relationships, but it is males who more often verbally express love. It further shows that males feel happier hearing such confessions. Reported in the journal, men think about saying it one and a half months before women do. He states that the reason is simple, because they are not facing the same kind of evolutionary costs or traits. He states that men face a higher cost from missing out on a romantic opportunity. Males want sex because it’s a necessary step to spreading their name and heritage. Females, as the power-holders in sexual relationships, need time to assess the quality of their potential mate.”
The Journal also states that males and females reactions to confessions of love differ dramatically depending on whether the couple has had sex, further explaining that reactions should or could be more or less dramatic depending on what the person wants or needs from the relationship. “A pre sex confession may signal interest in advancing a re...
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...themselves to start of family without a husband or lover.
In my personal relationship with my wife I feel that I thought about expressing my love prior to her thinking. Ultimately I did express my love to her with the three simple words of I love you. I thought for the longest time that I was the exception to the rule as in society everyone hears about the woman that falls for the man and he just cannot see the forest for the trees. This journal showed new light into the fact that males in general may have deeper thought and understanding into the concept of love than previously thought.
It also has helped me to understand that the use of normal publications, newspapers, magazines is not enough to make an informed decision on something so important. One needs to back their discussions with factual information, not something that is designed to sell to the masses.
The relationship between the husband and wife seems initially to be perfect. They both show each other expressions of love. There is understanding, harmony, financial security, and good communication between them. The couple spends a lot of time together, discussing future plans, and talking about the good moments they had in the past. However, behind all of this positive interaction between the two of them is something they are both not able
When thinking about romantic relationships, whether in the movies, media or your own relationship what characteristics come to mind? The topic we will discuss in this presentation attends to the romantic relationships within interpersonal communication.
The concept of love is a very ambiguous, controversial, idea that is nearly impossible to come to a singular consensus on. In this essay I will be describing and comparing two philosophical views on the concepts and ideas behind love. Through the works of Todd May and Plato, different approaches to the concept of love will be illustrated as well as determining the similarities and differences between the two perspectives.
The article, “Measurement of Romantic Love” written by Zick Rubin, expresses the initial research aimed at presenting and validating the social-psychological construct of romantic love. The author assumed that love should be measured independently from liking. In this research, the romantic love was also conceptualized to three elements: affiliative and depend need, an orientation of exclusiveness and absorption, and finally a predisposition to help.
Our society uses the term "love" far too lightly. Having been guilty of this offense myself, I admit my guilt. I often say, "I love Mexican food," or, "I love my truck." Love, however, is not just a happy feeling we get when something nice pleases us. Love is a verb. Love is the action of giving yourself totally to one person without expecting anything in return. Love is being willing to put aside your own needs in order to meet the needs of others. Giving up your weekend trip to the beach in order to take care of your sick mother is one example of love. A destitute mother giving up her one piece of bread to feed her sick little boy is another example of love. The ultimate expression of love is being willing to lay down your own life in the place of another. Love is giving, not getting.
This article addresses the actions that cause people to feel loved. In a survey of male and
The ability to express love for another male through affection became more questionable short there after as the distinction between romantic and erotic love was less muddy. Until this point, no one got forced into feeling shame because they made it clear that they cared deeply for each other on a close-friendship level....
“L is for the way you look at me, O is for the only one I see, v is very very extraordinary, E is even more than anyone that you adore.” This are the first lines of the world-famous song “Love” by Nat Cole. The lyrics are best used to describe what love means to him, however love can mean something different to each person. A funny thing is that numerous guys have the thought in their mind that love is a simple thing, however, it is also for this reason that numerous guys are also yelled at because there is much more depth to love. Love could be considered a language that one needs to learn to speak in which they can earn to build and strengthen their relationships. In fact, according to the book ‘the five love languages by Gary Chapman, love
A song I recently heard entitled, “What is love” sung by Veronika Bozeman really speaks from the heart about finding out what love really is. She sings, “I would tell you that I love you tonight, but I know that I 've got time on my side. Where you goin '? Why you leavin ' so soon? Is there somewhere else that 's better for you”, she tells us that she loves this person but is afraid to tell them because she don’t know if they would leave or look for someone else; someone better. This is the feeling that most of us linger with. We want love, we want to be loved and we want to give love but sit around wondering what if the person I say these three words to doesn’t say it back or simply the feeling isn’t mutual. Indeed it is a very scary feeling
Boston: Bedford/St. Martins,. 349. The. “Psychological Theories About the Dynamics of Love (I).” 01 Mar. 2005 http://psychology.about.com/library/weekly/aa022000a.htm Richmond, Raymond Lloyd.
Individuals involved in romantic relationships often send messages to one another with the intent to convey honest information about their romantic partner. Literature on this topic has already been published, but researcher Shuangyue Zhang found gaps and unanswered questions in this previously conducted research that he wanted to resolve. In 2009, Zhang began researching the hurtful, but honest messages that are sent and received in romantic relationships with two overlapping goals in mind. He wanted to uncover the “motivations and relational consequences of honest, but hurtful evaluated messages,” while simultaneously investigating “the relational satisfaction, sex of the respondent and message types” (Zhang, 2009). With his purpose in place, Zhang developed a hypothesis for his research that stated, “Recipients will interpret honest, but hurtful messages more negatively than will senders” (Zhang 2009). The subjects of Zhang’s study, 515 undergraduate students (32.4% male and 77.6% female) from Midwestern University, were given one of two different questionnaires, “one sender questionnaire and one receiver questionnaire,” and asked to “reconstruct a conversation” that they took part in that involved an honest, but hurtful evaluative message (Zhang, 2009). Participants were then given a scale and asked to rate the hurtfulness, emotional pain and alleged honesty of the message that they recoded (Zhang, 2009). At the conclusion of the study, Zhang measured and assessed the honesty motives, perceived intent and relational ramifications of the messages (Zhang, 2009). The study effectively conducted by Shuangyue Zhang in 2009 not only yielded findings in support of the hypothesis, but also revealed other findings. These other findings...
Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need (Chapman, 19). Expressing love and understanding are required to build this relationship. First, the five languages must be comprehended. The first love language is Words of Affirmation (Chapman, 2014). Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love (Chapman, 37). When we verbally affirm a person, it is sending them a powerful message of love. Affirmation can be achieved with verbal compliments, encouraging words, or kind words. If the primary language is Words of Affirmation, this verbal confirmation is needed on a regular basis. The second language is Quality Time (Chapman, 2014). Quality time is giving someone your undivided attention (Chapman, 2014). Not just spending time together but talking and not having attention diverted. Focused Attention, Quality Conversation, and Quality Activities are the crux of Quality Time (Chapman, 2014). Consequently, a person with a primary language of Quality Time only wants undistracted time together (Chapman, 2016). Receiving Gifts is the next language that must be recognized (Chapman, 2014). Specifically, a gift can symbolize love, and visual symbols of love are more important to some people than to others (Chapman, 77). Hence, if the primary language is Receiving Gifts, then that visual representation of love is paramount. If a person
An example of this might be going to dinner or the movies with a prospective mate, rather than the casual encounters that someone might have with them in everyday interactions. Intimacy does not only pertain to specific acts, but also to verbal and non-verbal expressions of love. Although verbal expressions of intimate feelings through self-disclosure are important to relationship quality, the nonverbal expression appears to be more important. In general, people rely more on nonverbal than verbal cues to interpret messages. Some examples of these nonverbal cues include touch, gaze, gestures, and time spent together.
for someone to say that they love another is to respect them and their ideas and