Relationship Role Contribution Paper As we grow older in life, we obtain new and challenging roles that are different than what we were previously used to. For as long as I can remember, I was the little girl dreaming about her perfect wedding and what her dream husband would be like. I also vividly remember playing with dolls and discussing my favorite baby names with my friends. As I draw nearer to a more mature stage in my life, I realize that my two dreams of being a wife and mother are much more difficult than what I perceived them to be as a young girl. These two roles take a great deal of time, commitment, and work in order to be successful. Both roles have a lot more substance and meaning to them, aside from a gorgeous wedding or a …show more content…
Many times, how we were raised and brought up in our family of origin will be a large determining factor in these conjugal roles (Welch, 2009, 261). Talking through these roles from the onset of our relationship will prevent a mass of conflict that may be subject to happen if we let them become ambiguous. For example, in my family of origin, it is normal for the wife to do the majority of the housework. Sometimes I get the feeling that my mom is very overwhelmed and has an underlying hope that my dad would help her out more. I feel that immediately initiating a conversation about the tasks that I would like help with and the tasks that my future husband also needs help with will be extremely beneficial. Not only will it help our marriage as a whole, but it will make bringing up an issue about unfulfilled roles and expectations slightly …show more content…
Uninvolved parents are low in responsiveness and control (p. 360). A lot of the interactions between these families are meaningless and the only belongings provided to the child is their basic needs. I can learn from this type of family that by providing a great deal of moral support and encouragement, will help my children to fare better. The second type of parenting is permissive. According to Welch (2009), these parents have high levels of responsiveness and communication, but give no demands or rules to the child (p. 361). I can become a better parent by realizing the negative consequences that this parenting style provides and providing structured rules to my child through co-parenting. The third type of parenting is the authoritarian parent, who is reliant on obedience. These types of parents are low in responsiveness and affections, but high in demand with rigid rules (Welch, 2009, 362). Many children who come from this parenting style are in need of emotional support and have more behavioral problems (Welch, 2009, 362). I have learned that by encouraging communication and discussion with my child, I can help accommodate both of our needs without producing serious psychological effects. Lastly, authoritative parents are those who are responsive, but also demanding of good behavior (Welch, 2009, 362). These boundaries are
Parenting styles have been widely defined by Baumrind into three categories, authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Parenting styles can be defined as a pattern of attitudes in how parents choose to express and communicate with their children. These styles are categorized based on the level of nurturance, parental control and level of responsiveness (Dwairy, 2004). Authoritative style exhibits high levels of demand, responsiveness and nurturance; authoritarian style exhibits high levels of demand but low levels of responsiveness, permissive style exhibits low levels of demand but high in responsiveness and nurturance (Dwairy, 2004). These parenting styles have been proposed to have a significant impact on a child’s development as well as academic achievement and psychological well-being. Children reared by authoritative parents are stated to have the highest levels of academic achievement, self-esteem, emotional adjustment and well-being according to Baumrind’s category of styles (Dwairy, 2004). However, these three categories are based on Western samples and have been said to describe parenting styles mainly in the West and question its limitations in describing parenting across cultures, as each style’s defining patterns may have different meanings across cultures.
However, in this type of parenting style, authoritative parents are more responsive to their child, more willing to listen to questions and more forgiving rather than punishing when their child fail to meet expectations. These parents are more supportive, rather than punitive, also, they focus on making their child confident and socially responsible.(Baumrind, 1966). In authoritarian parenting style, children are expected to follow the strict rules and regulation established by the parents. The parents are too demanding and directive but not really responsive towards their children. They are also status-orientated and children are expected to obey their rules without any explanations (Baumrind, 1991). Then, there is the permissive parenting style in which the parents rarely discipline their child because they have low expectations of maturity and self-regulation. Permissive parent is more responsive, non-traditional and lenient towards their child. They are nurturing and very open with their child (Baumrind, 1991). Lastly, neglectful parenting style is those parents who have both low demandingness and responsiveness towards their children. These parents are generally detached from their child’s life and in some cases; they may even reject or neglect their child’s needs (Maccoby & Martin,
“Categorizing parents according to whether they are high or low on parental demanding and responsiveness creates a typology of four parenting styles: indulgent, authoritarian, authoritative, and uninvolved” (Darling, 1999). Each style is based on different
Within the realm of Communication and Parenting, it is apparent that most researches will refer to three main parenting styles: permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative parenting. Permissive parenting is described as a style in which parents exert minimal psychological control combined with high levels of affection. Authoritarian styles differ from this greatly, as it is defined as parenting with many demands and few expressions of affection. Authoritative parenting can be described as a balance of permissive and authoritarian styles. Authoritative parents have high expectations for their children, and they are able to effectively share ideals of love and respect. The essay “The Role of Parenting Styles in Children's Problem Behavior,”
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
This style of parenting is best described as the child having more control over the parent. There are a lot of parents today that seem to have no control of their child actions and even words. This in which can make the parents question what are they doing wrong when it comes to raising their child. This type of parent have very low demands and are highly responsive, maybe even too responsive to the child’s needs. Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
The type of approach to discipline a child that the parents use have a dramatic impact on their relationship between them and the child’s development to adulthood. Research have found that there are four major types of parenting styles depending on what parents think the child needs from them. These are authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. The purpose is to explain the difference between them and the effect on their child development.
I remember telling my parents that if I do get married, everything is going to be equal and they got so offended that I, as a woman wanted to have control outside the norms. I am aware of the concept of "the man being the head of the household" but I am not willing to lose a part of myself so that someone else can have the space to be in control. The worksheet of Yi, Ping, Gong (2017) really showed me the wholeness that I want to have within myself which involved peace and comfort with my strength and weaknesses. It also brought to my attention that I am however willing to expand that space so that the person can see that this world is made up of both men and
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another.
There are generally four types to the spectrum of parenting; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved. Authoritarian parents are the overly strict and demanding parents. Authoritative parents are the ones that want their child to be responsible and make their own decisions but also know when intervention is needed. Permissive parents are the ones that “give in” and allow their child to have the power but are nurturing for their children. Finally, the uninvolved parents are the ones that are detached and do not emotionally engage.
It can be said for most parents that they want their children to grow up to be successful contributing members of society. Being a parent is a difficult, yet rewarding task. But why do some types of parenting result in juvenile delinquency while others find success. There are four generally recognized parenting styles and are categorized: authoritarian, permissive, neglectful, and authoritative. This essay will break down the various styles, its type(s) of discipline and effectiveness.
Diana Baurmind and Alfred Adler have similar categories of parenting styles. Authoritative parenting can be compared to democratic and encouraging. Both of these styles offer love and security of the child. They express the parent is in control, but the parent also respect their child with explaining parental actions in a positive way. Permissive parenting can be compared to over-submissive parenting style. The child is rude, and demanding. The parent usually accepts the child’s behavior. In my opinion, the parent does not want to upset the child, or bother with correcting the behavior, so they will give in by rewarding the child in order to correct the child’s behavior. Authoritarian parenting can be compared to over-coercive parenting. These parents are very strict with children. My father can be compared to this parenting style. There was no reasoning, no communication, and his actions were final. This kind of parenting reminds me of being in the military. Finally, uninvolved parenting can be compared to neglecting parenting. I almost wanted to compare uninvolved to rejecting, but I cannot necessarily say the parent has denied acceptance. The parent is selfish, and does not even provide the bare minimum for their child’s necessities. I can compare this type of parenting from a 16 year old mother from the show Teen Mom’s. Jenelle had her son Andrew at a very young age. After his birth, she was distance and cared more about partying. Her
When the word “family” is discussed most people think of mothers, fathers, and other siblings. Some people think of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and even cousins and more on the pedigree tree. Without family in people 's lives they would not be the same people that they grew up to be today and in the future. When people hear the word family they think about, the ones who will help them in any way they can whether it 's money, support, advice, or anything to help them succeed in life. Family will forever be the backbone of support. They are the ones who support their children during those life decisions. Family is not always blood related. Finally family is forever, family will never go away.
Many of us have role models in our lives and to most people role models are athletes and movie stars, but to me a role model is much more. To me a role model is a person who has positively influenced someone in life, and is not a person filled with selfishness and greed. They help shape someone’s personality, and characteristics. They are people who someone can look up to for advice in a hard situation, and know that they will give those words of wisdom. They will never judge our past actions, instead only look to help because they really care. A role model is someone who we should never feel awkward talking to about our problems. A perfect role model for me is my mother. She is a wonderful human being. She’s smart, wise, ambitious, patient and such a loving person. There are no words that can describe my gratitude towards her, but through this essay I will describe some of her characteristics that makes her my role model.
When I am asked what is my role in my family, I am lost in thought. Firstly, because of a paradoxical relationship between my family which means that my parents only want to do their own things but they still live together, I hold the opinion that I am the protector of my family. Secondly, I have two younger male cousins which are younger twelve-year-old than me. I watch and accompany them when they grow up and I want to be a good example in my family.