Reflective Listening

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Reflective listening is an important tool for effective communication and a valuable resource in times of family conflict. In order to understand what is being discussed in this paper I will first explain what reflective listening is, then I will move on and elaborate on my recent experience utilizing this technique, and finally I will give my opinion on how it can strengthen familial relationships.
Reflective listening involves two pertinent steps: Ensuring the listener has understood the speaker’s message and stating the idea back to the speaker in order to confirm the information has been understood without error. Reflective listening can be very effective when having a serious conversation, especially when the speaker and listener are involved in conflict or having a difficult time understanding the feelings another is experiencing. …show more content…

I will start by talking about my less valuable experience using this technique. I informed my friend Ansley that I would be using these techniques during our conversation. She was telling me about how difficult the two classes she is enrolled in currently are and I could tell she was hoping I could relate to her since I am her only friend currently in school. She talked about the class and feeling alienated from the other teachers receiving their masters because she is specialized teacher, musical educator, and most of the other students are general education teachers. She was struggling. I was repeating back to her what I heard in my own words and ensuring I did not interject my feelings or add any of my input. It was difficult at times to just sit and listen and not interrupt. She told me I was hearing what she was saying and she felt

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