Reflective Essay On Unhealthy Relationships

I decided to write this book as both a cathartic practice and to offer help to victims of psychological and physical abuse. There are many loving and well-intentioned people who have become casualties of malicious partners. Oftentimes people on the receiving end of the abuse, myself included, sustain deep emotional wounds as a result. Abusive relationships area not ones that we can skip away from once they end. We are not likely to quickly move on and into healthy relationships. Much to the contrary, it is possible for the dysfunctional interactions characteristic of an unhealthy romance to bleed into our other relationships, such as those with family or coworkers. Though I do not endorse attitudes of victimhood the reality is there are innocent

Certain individuals seem more susceptible to abuse and I hope that this book will impart some knowledge that I myself have gained to guard myself from future abuse. If there is anything a person can take away from enduring psychic and physical wounds it is to continue being a starkly different individual than the abuser, but most importantly how to avoid any other unhealthy relationships.

While I surely did things that contributed to the cycle of negative energy that permeated our home, I tried my best. This relationship left me feeling completely lost. After it ended my emotions fluctuated daily between sadness, despair and hopelessness to feelings of fear, anger and intense paranoia. Since I was left to take care of a spirited 18 month old son I knew that I had to overcome the wounds I had sustained. No matter what had happened my son deserved the best of me. I was far from it.

I was depressed, anxious, irritable and deeply exhausted. I battled with feelings of shame over the downward spiral my life had taken and how I allowed it to affect my

These reflections are only briefly constructive to prevent ever falling into the grips of a sociopath again. I do not use that descriptor lightly. It is heavy and laden with grim future events, people’s loss, threatened safety and cunning emotional transgressions for the abuser’s selfish life enhancements. Theoretically, my partner may have been narcissistic, suffer from bipolar disorder, or be displaying a combination of disorders but that was not the whole story. It went deeper than that. The label sociopath is rarely applied officially, even by professionals in the psychological community. Sociopaths do not seek help and when they do it is often as part of a mandated recovery program or with the pressure of family members or close friends. More often than not though it is the victims of sociopaths occupy therapist’s offices. When a sociopath does enter into treatment they can often charm the practitioner. Many sociopaths are methodical and calculating, they can weave body language, facial expression, vocal intonations, eye contact and flattery into a convincing tapestry to blanket the eyes of an inquiring party. At times they are flippant and might brag about their disregard for rules, authority or others rights. However, most of them are hiding in plain sight and look like anyone else. They can seem deeply genuine but often prey on trusting, isolated and sensitive individuals because their