Henry Brunner, a biological father to four beautiful girls, a godfather to myself, a role model to many and a husband of 21 years to his wife Lisa, has given fatherhood credit for his transformation into a young, mature, responsible, providing father. As explained and experienced with him, becoming the man and father he is today was not easy and had many trials, tribulations, and lessons to be learned. With his childhood step-father being a rage-filled, aggressive, ignorant step-father, Henry pledged to be better, and the total opposite from that of which he was taught was to be a father. Henry states at the sight of his first child (Gabrielle) in her mother’s (Shayna) womb was as if a sudden mental change happened and knew the lifestyle he …show more content…
She was my first child, and I have to leave some of my old ways behind and become more stable and family focused man. This was a stage in life were a lot of things changed. My only brother committed suicide, the mother of my first child left me, and I met the love of my life (Lisa). This was a point that where a lot of pressure was placed on me and at times did not know how I could be the best husband, father, and man I could be. I had to cope with the loss of my brother, and I used fathering Gabrielle as way show and feel love and happiness, but when she was taken away from me, it affected me greatly and went downhill. I wanted to be a full-time active father, but I was only allowed to see her on the weekends. To be honest, I did not know how I was going to make it through. I was only 20 years old, but I knew men could handle it, but more importantly, a father HAD to handle it” …show more content…
He became more withdrawn from friends and more family oriented while still maintaining a good work history. A shift occurred where he slept more and became more despondent. His wife Lisa explained this shift as “a major depression setting… he withdrew totally from friends and when around family he would resort to sleeping. I feared many times that he would commit suicide because his brother had and this was his second major loss in such short time of the only family”(L. Brunner). After the resettling back into reality, he became more entwined with Kirsten and more spent most of his time at home playing with her. Like Gabby, he would encourage her to explore and be fearless (which she would forever hold onto). Henry appreciated life and family more than ever and would learn to be more patient, extrinsic and movatied. The relationship between Lisa and Henry was unbreakable they relied on each other a lot. Their sex life was more frequent and more intimate, and they noted they became more creative with their affections. Due to Henry’s rigorous work schedule and being the breadwinner, Lisa became the more of the primary parent and would take the kids to Doctor appointments, clean the house and raise both kids. Leaving Henry the time to play with them, eat, shower and grow an attachment to them when he returned from
In the story "Dog," Henry Devereaux was raised by parents who were aloof and unavailable. His parents were English professors who were "academic nomads," and his father was an "academic opportunist" who was revealed to be self-centered and one who craved attention, as evidenced by the fact that he favored being the "distinguished visiting professor" who held court with "obsequious junior faculty and nervous graduate students on Friday afternoons" (4). His mother was "hired as part of the package deal to help balance the books." They agreed on little and divorced when Henry was in junior high school.
The love one has for their family causes one to do anything to keep them out of harm, including taking the role of mother/father. Henry Lawson creates an image in his readers’ mind of the protagonist and all that she does for her
On one end he was ignored by his parents and even disowned, and on the other he was being constantly bullied and put down by his peers who were in their words “fighting the yellow menace”. But one day at school, he encounters a nice, Japanese girl named Keiko Okabe. Keiko and Henry seemed to click almost immediately. This is most likely because they had so much in common. They were both ridiculed horribly in public and by their own peers at school, they both had similar interests, and most importantly they both put aside their ethic pasts and acknowledged that they were indeed American. “That’s where I was born too. I’m Japanese, but American first” (Ford 24). Unlike Henry’s family who refuses to put off their Chinese heritage, Keiko and her family have fully embraced the fact that they are full Americans now and take part fully in American culture. This is shown through the Okabe’s love of jazz or the “colored” music as Henry’s father disdainfully calls. Also, Keiko doesn't even speak Japanese. She only learned English because that what Americans speak and she is American. Henry’s relationship with keiko also brought him out of his shell and showed a new side to his character. Whereas with his father and Marty Henry is quiet and in the background, with Keiko, Henry is much more confident and much more outgoing. He is even willing to smuggle illegal alcohol into a colored jazz club and spend a
Henry’s father, a strict, war-obsessed man essentially dictates Henry’s life, distancing the two as Henry continues to oppose his father’s views. Because of his father’s controlling ways, there is little love to be lost between the father and son. This animosity between them can be seen when Henry is about to leave his apartment to retrieve the family photos of his Japanese friend Keiko. His father tells him that should Henry leave to help Keiko, he “[is] no longer part of this family” (Ford 185).
Henry suffers from retrograde amnesia due to internal bleeding in the part of the brain that controls memory. This causes him to forget completely everything he ever learned. His entire life is forgotten and he has to basically relearn who he was, only to find he didn’t like who he was and that he didn’t want to be that person. He starts to pay more attention to his daughter and his wife and starts to spend more time with them.
In contrast to Joy, the other Wes’ mom Mary played a much weaker parent’s role. This is primarily due to the fact that Mary did not finish college and became pregnant at a very young age. She was her children's sole provider but was not ma...
With a husband and two children at the age of twenty eight, Edna Pontillier realized that the mother-wife life was not for her. With her new found independence Edna’s husband was unsure of how to handle his new untraditional wife. “I came to consult—no, not precisely to consult—to talk to you about Edna. I don't know what ails her.”(pg. 109) Mr. Pontillier is a loving and good husband but, his slight narcissistic personality causes him to lose touch with his wife. Mr. Pontillier buys Edna bonbons and compliments her in front of their friends but it would seem that he enjoys spending time with his friends and working more than he values his time with his wife. “Coming back to dinner?" his wife called after him. He halted a moment and shrugged his shoulders.”(pg. 8) The only reason Mrs. Pontillier stays with her husband for so long is because of her children. Although the Pontillier children are not major characters they help demonstrate her true commitment. Edna would rather die than let her children think their mother left them to be with another man. “She thought of Leonce and the children. They were a part of her life. But they need not have thought that they could possess her, body...
Looking back on the death of Larissa’s son, Zebedee Breeze, Lorraine examines Larissa’s response to the passing of her child. Lorraine says, “I never saw her cry that day or any other. She never mentioned her sons.” (Senior 311). This statement from Lorraine shows how even though Larissa was devastated by the news of her son’s passing, she had to keep going. Women in Larissa’s position did not have the luxury of stopping everything to grieve. While someone in Lorraine’s position could take time to grieve and recover from the loss of a loved one, Larissa was expected to keep working despite the grief she felt. One of the saddest things about Zebedee’s passing, was that Larissa had to leave him and was not able to stay with her family because she had to take care of other families. Not only did Larissa have the strength to move on and keep working after her son’s passing, Larissa and other women like her also had no choice but to leave their families in order to find a way to support them. As a child, Lorraine did not understand the strength Larissa must have had to leave her family to take care of someone else’s
Their hearts sank as they watched the child they had come to know and love as their own, be taken away by strangers that they had never met until today. As the CPS worker spoke with Mary she explained, “If you had just logged in her injuries acquired during the accident and told us what medicines you had used, this would not have happened.” Mary thought to herself “it was just a scrape… just a tiny little cut…” Many parents all over the world have gone through hardships like this one. If they even got to adopt at all. Many of the rules, regulations and prices agencies have come up with have been causing people all over the world to deter from adopting.
One out of four children, under the age of eighteen, are born without a father. (www.singlemotherguide.com). Many pregnancies are unplanned and even unwanted. Being a single mother is typically the new norm. Mothers believe they can be both the mother and the father. Mothers involuntarily become single mothers because of three most common reasons: divorce, never married, and teen pregnancy (The Various Reasons for Single Parenting).
" The Apple doesn 't fall far from the tree". " Because your parents are gay, doesn 't that make you the same way?" These are things that many kids hear. You are expected to turn out to be like your parents. You are stereotyped the moment you are born. However, when you are the child of same-sex parents you not only get labeled as a homosexual, but you also get all the stigma that any adult homosexual may receive. LGBT parents are just as eligible to be parents as heterosexual couples and despite the long standing stereotype, the children of same sex couples should not be stuck under the same stereotype as their adult counterparts, and the sexuality of a couple should not validate societies need to assume the sexuality of their child.
Everyone has a family, rather it is with your biological relatives or long-time friends. A lot of people have been raised in different types of households rather it is with a grandparent or a foster parent. Everyone has their own individual story of their particular support system. In most cases, people have been raised with both parents, which is ideal in this society. As years gone by, a lot of changes have occurred within raising a family, whether it be getting raised by a LGBT couple or being raised by a sibling. The most common change that has occurred is single-parenting. A lot of children are being raised by either just their mother or father. In most cases, the mother is the single parent. Being a single parent can be a blessing and a curse at the same time. In this essay, I will explain the ups and downs that come with being a single-parent.
“The children have been a wonderful gift to me, and I’m thankful to have once again seen our world through their eyes. They restore my faith in the family’s future” (Anderson, 176). Her children were her world; everything she did was for them. She tried her best to be the perfect mother.
percent of children in America are living in a single parent family. This is a chilling
Single Parent Struggle For many years, children growing up in a single parent family have been viewed as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father.