I know what you’re thinking. “Two moms? How were you born? Are you adopted? Does that make you gay?” I get these questions all the time, along with a few statements that are as bad as fish tacos from the school lunch, or any food from school as a matter of fact. I grew up with a single mom until I was about six, and always thought women being with women was normal. My dad and mom weren’t together, due to the fact that he wasn’t a chick, and some other issues my father caused. So no, I’m not adopted. I was born the same way as everyone else, not with a “gay gene,” either, (by the way, that's just a myth, just because my moms gay doesn’t mean I am.) So there you have it. All the questions you have, or should I say had, are finally answered. I said earlier, how the comments about having two moms can be rough. I’ve always dealt with snarky comments and rumors throughout my whole life, mainly about my moms. The worst, are the rumors that are always spread around. People have said to me how, “You must be gay since you mom is.” I’m not. Others, are inappropriate, and gross me out to much to even write. I’ll put it to you this way: just because I have two moms, doesn’t mean …show more content…
that they are childish and act differently than any other parents. The comments get out of hand. In elementary, I was always scared to let friends come over, or tell anyone about my mom. I felt as if I was the weird kid. For a period of time I was upset that my mom was gay, and kept to myself, telling myself, “Do not let anyone find out about your mom, or you will be judged,” But as I’ve grown older, I realized it was something that I should be thankful for. I get to live a totally different life, that others wish they had. I couldn’t even imagine my mom with a guy. I love the fact that I have two moms, and now always embrace it, or even brag. Throughout my life, my mom has had a few girlfriends.
One being Jean, who my mom calls, “Crazy, and childish.” Another one was Karen, who was harder to get rid of than a tattoo. Then there’s others that I can remember my first birthday party more than I can remember them. It’s just like any other single mother, having a few relationships, but none really going anywhere. That was until my mom met Holly. I was about six or seven. Holly, looked like a stereotypical lesbian. Short hair, as dark as the night, and often wore baggy shirts, and loose jeans. To make things clear: NOT ALL LESBIANS LOOK LIKE THIS! Taking one look at my mom, you’d think she was straight. Wrong there kiddo. Holly, has been my legal step mom for two years, but my moms girlfriend, my caretaker, and guardian, for five
years. Over the years, looking back, I think that having Holly as a mother is something as great since sliced bread. She’s done more for me than my own father has. She provided for me, financially, and mentally. I don’t know how many times I’ve let her down. Too many times to count. But she’s always found a way to forgive me and still love me. One of my greatest fears, is letting her down to the point where our relationship can’t go back to the way it was. I have a closer relationship to her then most kids have with their parents, which I can tell from seeing others relationships with their parents, and I can see it for myself. Holly is soon adopting me, and I’m so thankful that I could have her as a mom. Growing up with two moms has given me a rare occasion to be able to learn from a different side of society, and to be able to accept everyone, not for who they love, what gender they choose, how they were raised, or who they were raised by. To be able to have two moms is an experience that not all get, but in my opinion most should have, because it shows people, including me, how to see the world, considering some people have different, and useless opinions about this topic, and teaches us how to accept others for their diversity. Having two moms, has shaped me to be the person I am, by giving me a rare experience, teaching me to accept those who are different, and how to see the world for how it truly is.
Many individuals are taking the process of process of parental licensing into their own hands, despite their contributions being made up in mind only, however, it is thought that counts. One respective person believes that a restriction on having children should begin at the earliest stage of one’s life: birth. As soon as a child is born, doctors should “go in and turn off their spickets” (McRedmond). In the later stages of life, this would prevent several cases of teen pregnancies, seeing as though it would be an impossibility for women to get pregnant. Then, when a women eventually becomes ready enough to think about having children, they should go through a testing process, perhaps similar to Sherman’s ideas of interviews, writing, and demonstrations of capability. If they pass, they “get their spickets turned
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If you have ever considered adopting a newborn, or a child under the age of three, then you have undoubtedly recognized that the price affiliated with this type of adoption is outrageously expensive. Some adoptions costing in the upper $40,000 range. When there are so many children in foster care already, why are the costs of adoption so extreme? How is the adoption process broken down into these fees? What do adoptive candidates have to go through in order to adopt a baby? Is the foster care system failing the children it currently serves? Why are more birth mothers choosing the unsightly demise of abortion rather than adoption? Do these women who choose abortion know all their options when it comes to their unborn child? Is there enough
She’s one of those old souls stuck in the fifty’s and refuses to see the 21st century. She is a good mother, it 's only when it came to me she lacked. I met my mother when I was four. She adopted my little sis and me. Through my younger age I hated her I absolutely hated her and she failed to understand why or explain to me so I could understand whom the lady was that I was staying with. Where my real mother was. She failed to help me see what was going on and with me only being four I thought she kidnapped me and I hated her. As I grew up I learned precisely what was going on and I no longer had a heart for her it dwindled down to more of a dislike. I understood why was with her, but I expended most of my early youth wondering why did this have to happen to me. And why did I have to be with her. My mother wasn’t a bad mother she only lacked the nurturing a love I needed. She held my early years against me and we’ve been stepping on thin ice ever
Is it fair to have to take a course and pass a test to become a parent?
They decided to separate, and I was switching between them until the home I lived in my whole life was foreclosed. I had seen the emotional toll on both of them. About 9 years old, I moved to an apartment with my mother to Prescott Valley, the year my mother fell to alcoholism. Often, she partied a lot, to which I suppose now that I think about it, was to catch up to her younger years before she had me. One Christmas Eve, she was at a party, and I was "babysat" by her friend's son, Jack.
The relationship between a parent and a child is one of the most dedicated relationships out there, but unfortunately not every child gets to experience this special bond with a parent. Up to this day, thousands of children are put up for adoption all around the world, all of them waiting to be taken in by a loving and caring household. These households could also consist of one parent, if they are kind-hearted, and loving people who are able to financially and emotionally support the child. Many argue that single parent adoption should not be allowed because a child needs both a mother and a father, but it is better for a child to have at least one parent instead of none. There are no scientific facts proving that a two-parent household is better for a child than a single parent household.
The countless ways maternity leave can have an impact on parents and children. In many countries besides the United States, compensated leave, whether mother or father factor in on a child’s life from birth on. Every working parent especially mothers warrant a paid leave for the first year of their newborns life. Should the United States adopt the same law governing extended parental leave with pay? Adopting a law similar to other countries would benefit both the parent and child.
When I found out that this wonderful country does not have a national policy of paid maternity leave I was shocked, since this is a human right for mothers and babies and it is also a life or death issue for poor single mothers... Among the “women’s rights debate”, who is fighting for this right? Even worst: Why American mothers do not realize that this is an injustice? Why some intelligent educated women accept this situation without complaining? According to the International Labor Organization – ILO, United States does not provide support to new mothers.
Women are blessed with what I consider is the biggest gift in the universe and that is to give life to what once was part of them. At some point in our lives we ask ourselves……. What is a good mother? Although there can be endless definitions, my definition of a good mother is based on what I consider to be morally right. A good mother always thinks about her children first, a good mother is always willing to give her life for her children, a good mother is soft and gentle with her children, but a good mother becomes aggressive and protective when her children are exposed to potential threats and a good mother will always want the best for her children.
A family is a social foundation found in all societies. It unites people in supportive system as they care for one another. In many countries, including the U.S., families form around marriage and are seen as a legal relationship. Patterns of marriage and relationship vary around the world. There are four general marriage patterns around the world endogamy, exogamy, polygamy, and monogamy. Family support is a system involving two married individuals providing care and stability for their children. How the family support is in the household leave the impact on the children as they grow up. Present day how a family is formed has changed from traditional view now with single parents, divorced parent and gay marriage.
I am around my mom a lot more than I’m around my dad, but I still see him for extended periods or time. I have not and have no desire to have a social stigma. As a matter of fact, I have found that I am generally more accepting of people who differ from me. In my experience, someone that has not been in my position and has grown up thinking that being gay is not okay, has it worse off because they are not open to the idea of people
Single Parent Struggle For many years, children growing up in a single parent family have been viewed as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father.
My great grandmother, Margaret Christensen, was born in 1918. Her mother was required to stay strictly at home for ten days after she gave birth to Margaret. This was to allow her to recover and for complete concentration on her child. This was considered her maternity leave. Maternity leave is “a period of absence from work granted to a mother before and after the birth of her child” (Dictionary). She could ask for more, but those were the days granted for her recovery. In the United States, parents who need maternity leave are offered twelve weeks, much better than ten days, but these twelve weeks are not paid for just as they were not in 1918. In this area, America has not developed very quickly or at all in one hundred years. On a national level there is no program that states this leave is to be paid for. The system that America has now may work, but it is not helping America’s families or it’s economy. It is forcing parents to choose their jobs over families.
CARE gives a helping hand to single girls vulnerable to child marriage. They want a change in the lives of girls 7, 10, or even 16 years old who endure. CARE wants to bring an end to the human violation that puts the lives of 39,000 young girls at risk every day. It is reaching countries in need of an end to child marriage leaving positive impacts in life of young girls.