April 28th, 2015. This date is forever forged in my mind and has impacted the way I live my everyday life. My Aunt Nomie, the pillar of the Barrow family, passed away after a hard fought battle of cancer. Although she fought the good fight, the many treatments and chemotherapy she went through was unfortunately not enough to keep her healthy. Her unique and happy soul kept the family together through the years, taught me to always look for the good in any bad that came my way, and kept us dying of laughter in the worst of times. She lit up any room she entered with her smile that went from ear to ear, no matter the circumstance. She fought with strength, determination, and killer faith. After receiving the news on the morning of April 28th, 2015, I knew my life would never be the same. …show more content…
I didn’t know the last time I visited my aunt was actually the last time I was going to get to be with her physically.
I sat in her room at her house with my Mom, Dad and Sister. She was asleep, curled up in a ball, rejecting any medicine we tried giving her. We knew her time with us was almost up but we didn’t want to admit it just yet. It was hard to look at her in the condition she was in: cold, skinny, and pale. My heart was aching and my mind was racing. I knew it wasn’t long before I had to say my goodbyes, but I didn’t want to face reality. Before leaving, I leaned over her hospital bed, hugged her tight, kissed her on her cheek, and said, “I love you.” She opened her eyes and said “I love you” back, with the strength she didn’t seem to have the entire day. That night, my heart was at
ease. The minute I woke up, I had a feeling in my mind that I can’t quite explain. I was very uneasy at the thought that something had to be wrong. After receiving the news that my Gigi had passed away, my heart shattered. The feeling in the air was empty and my stomach felt like I was on a roller coaster that never ended. It felt as though everything was in slow motion and life stopped all around me. The morning of the funeral wasn’t any easier, and I was beginning to think it never would be. The church was filled with our huge family and close friends, although it seemed as if I was the only one in the room sitting before my Gigi and all of the Pink flowers. If you knew my Aunt Nomie you would know that every outfit of hers either had a touch of pink or a hint of glitter. If anything made it easier, it would be that everyone in the church had on a piece of pink clothing and I knew she was enjoying the sight of that. I was looking out of the window in my Dad’s truck as we were in the never-ending line of cars that were being escorted to the burial site. As we passed other cars, they pulled over to the side of the road to show respect for our family. The old man mowing his pasture immediately stopped what he was doing, stood up, and waved us by. That was the first time a smiled had appeared on my face since the morning my Gigi passed, and I knew it would’ve done the same to her. We gathered at my Aunt Nomie’s house one last time. Of course, this time would be different than any other family get together because the person that kept our family sane was only there in spirit. Again, the air was empty and even the look on the dogs faces gave away the fact that even they knew something wasn’t right. I made my plate with extra cheesecake hoping it would at least make my stomach a little happy. I sat down at the foldable table in the old garage chairs with all of the other cousins. We laughed as we shared memories and funny stories with each other. At that moment, I realized that is what my Gigi would have wanted us to do. She never did like for any of us to be whinny or pouty anyways. Although there was one empty seat that day at lunch, I knew she was there with us making sure we didn’t leave any extra food on our plates or feeding anything we didn’t like to the dogs. Four months passed and I now understand. It’s not any easier but I know she is cancer free and happy. To this day on, I will carry everything she taught me throughout my life and share it to my kids, grandkids, and so on. I realize that life is short and never guaranteed for anyone. My Gigi has taught me that I should live everyday with a passion and a purpose and to never give up on anything that my heart is all in for. I hope to one day be half of the woman she was and to impact other lives just as she did mine.
I walked into the room on New Year’s Day and felt a sudden twinge of fear. My eyes already hurt from the tears I had shed and those tears would not stop even then the last viewing before we had to leave. She lay quietly on the bed with her face as void of emotion as a sheet of paper without the writing. Slowly, I approached the cold lifeless form that was once my mother and gave her a goodbye kiss.
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