Life is made up of choices. We chose to go to school, choose to be brave and most importantly we choose to smile. I've never been the person to be open emotionally, when it comes to opening up I find the quickest way to change the subject. Middle school was like going through the Mean Girls movie, without the miraculous happy ending. I was lost, an outcast. Have you ever smiled for the wrong reason? Smiling has always been easier than explaining why I'm sad, sometimes all I could do was smile and hold back my tears. I had smiled for so long I didn't know if it was real or not, I thought if I smiled long enough I would forget about being sad, but it only worked for a little while. I came to a new school trying to start a new life by changing the girl people thought was annoying. …show more content…
To fit in I became like those who made me feel small, that girl who was happy once, was lost inside me and all I could do was try to search for her. I became the one who judged the girl who felt out of place, I wasn't strong enough to understand that I shouldn't of cared about what they thought of me, I should've chosen to be me, instead I lost myself trying to please others. Like a prison I was stuck as somebody else, I became the bully, I disappeared into someone unrecognizable. Nothing was enough, that bully that I had become for them wasn't enough, I was still nothing, the ugly and annoying girl, I wasn't brave enough to stand for myself when I was pushed into a locker or attacked on social media, all I did was cry and all I heard was the word ugly replaying in my
Whoever may been a victim of bullying or are the bullies was once a kid and they believed in something with all their heart, maybe it was that they didn’t like how smart you are, your clothes, or how you talk. It’s how they feel towards you to make them not like you. And they use to have friends, friends they can hang out with, talk to and just be these themselves with, but when they started being bullied for being different they’re friends not hanging out with, talking to them and don’t want to be friends with them because they’re afraid to get bullied just like just like that person. And it’s hard for people like that to survival if they’re just getting picked on by students or adults. You think “it’s just a phase, they’ll come out of it” or “they just need to talk to people to get them to notice them”, but it’s not that it’s they don’t feel like they fit in with everyone because everyone is very different form them and when they try to talk to people they
...o you are and accept yourself. Now with this story there is not much in the way of language to support this, but when it comes to point of view it more than makes up for it. The story makes the reader think about who they are, and question whether they are okay with it. It is this provocation of thought that hooks the reader and makes them want to read more and delve deeper into themselves to find out more about who they are. The character, Marilyn, is very bland in the beginning, but as you read on she becomes very relatable, and it almost feels like we are in her place experiencing the constant conflict of who she is and who everyone wants her to be. We hope she can overcome this obstacle and be a better person for it; however, she is still very conflicted at the end making it even more relatable to real life, because not everything can end as a happily ever after.
When life becomes overwhelming during adolescence, a child’s first response is to withdraw from the confinement of what is considered socially correct. Individuality then replaces the desire to meet social expectations, and thus the spiral into social non-conformity begins. During the course of Susanna’s high school career, she is different from the other kids. Susanna:
...air style. I was trying to fit in while finding out who I was. I tried different things by joining the Asian American Club, National Honors Society, and H2O Bible club. In addition, I learned how to play volleyball. Through those clubs and the friends I met, I found out what defined me as a person and what I had a passion for. I was able to define myself by junior year as a person who was a perfectionist, athletic, nice, and loved to dance. I can relate to Cady from the movie because she also was trying to find her identity and how she fit into a new environment. I am glad that I had parents and friends that were able to support me and guide me into the right direction to become the person I am now. My parents would rebuke me when I was wrong and my friends were there to keep me accountable of my actions.
“I just want to be someone, mean something to anyone, I want to be the real ME”, by Charlotte Eriksson. The quest of my journey is to discover my real purpose, my real goal but most importantly, find my real identity. This is known as the “Identity versus Role Confusion Stage” or as described by psychoanalyst Erik H. Erikson, the fifth stage of the Eight Stages of Man. It occurs between the ages of 12 to 18, where every person battles to establish a certain roll or skill that provides one with a sense of a sturdy foundation in the adult society. I too am currently going through this stage of life, dodging many obstacles in order to seek out my identity. The hardest obstacle- my attempt to fit in with my peers, but the extremes I took to find it, may have scared me for life. Nonetheless, it showed me a piece of my real identity and helped me figure out how to grow through it and better myself; it showed me the real me. In the past as well as today’s society, individuality is vital. Each teen wants to create a unique identity for ones’ self, and the start to creating that identity is in high school.
In middle school all everyone wants to do is fit in, but I especially wanted to with my friends. During this point in life, I was discovering who I was, but my friends were very different than I was. My mom noticed I started changing myself to fit in with them, so she talked to me about embracing myself for who I am, and if my friends could not accept me, then was they my true friends? This has stuck with me because nobody should make you change who you are. I will take this through the rest of my life as I grow old, and stay true to
When you stop to reflect upon the last time you smiled, was it out of genuine happiness or was it because you felt socially pressured to smile? Most likely it was a reaction out of discomfort and not an actual expression of joy. Society has pressured us to smile in order to show submission and not aggression.
Surrounding myself around new people in a different atmosphere that weren’t afraid to be themselves is when I finally discovered who I truly was inside. It started to fit into
While my friends went out, I stayed at home. When I went to parties, I’d always think I'd have had a better time on my own. Even when surrounded by others, I felt shut out, like I was different from everyone else. Social situations, including school, were torture. I bulldozed my way through life.
Imagine a world where you are constantly seen as wrong for just being who you are. You’re a fifteen year old boy named Ethan. It all started last year when other boys around you would talk about how cute the girls in your class were. Your best friend Dylan was starting to experiment, kiss girls and even do other more sexual things. Dylan one day made a comment about you dating a girl in your P.E class. Her name was Jade and she was quite pretty. However, you felt nothing when you looked at her. The butterflies you were supposed to get when your eyes met, never happened. It was when you looked at Dylan that they stirred. Dylan didn’t know how much he had just hurt you with such a comment, but your distaste for Jade was obvious. Your classmates soon noticed and it wasn’t long before your life at school was filled with hate, and only hate. From then on you were mocked, ridiculed, and seen as the lowest of the low, for something you couldn’t help. It didn 't matter how hard you tried to like girls, you simply couldn 't, and because of it your world was filled with
Not just physically, but mentally. Towards the beginning of the year, I was self-conscious and weak. I was afraid of what all of my actions would make others think of me, and how their thoughts would make me feel. I was worried that what I wore, wrote or said would end up coming back and negatively affecting me. The following lyrics show what I felt like in the middle and beginning of my “eighth-grade career”.
It was December. Everything in the middle school was perfect. My friends, my grades, my relationships with my parents.Someday my mom come home with the news. She said that we are moving to the USA at the end of the April.
I’d like to say that I was completely strong and secure in who I was, but that would be a lie. I felt so alone, like I was some sort of black sheep. I was a 3rd class of human at my school. There were guys, girls, and then Brennen. I never fit in. There were so many questions constantly on my mind. The
Growing up, I always felt out of place. When everyone else was running around in the hot, sun, thinking of nothing, but the logistics of the game they were playing. I would be sat on the curb, wondering what it was that made them so much different from me. To me, it was if they all knew something that I didn’t know, like they were all apart of some inside joke that I just didn’t get. I would sit, each day when my mind wasn’t being filled with the incessant chatter of my teachers mindlessly sharing what they were told to, in the hot, humid air of the late spring and wonder what I was doing wrong. See, my discontent
Many people are aware of their emotions, whether that is happy or sad. We have become accustomed to these emotions and understand what we need to do in order to change the way we are feeling. When people experience many different situations, whether they are uncomfortable or excited, they become familiar to being able to adapt or leave the situation and completely change their attitude when entering another. When we feel sad, we have different ways of cheering ourselves up. Some just relax while others will play a sport to run or play off the stress they hold. We all have our individual ways to changes our attitudes and perspectives towards different situations. We all have become familiar with our personalities so we are able to control our emotions and thoughts, which makes up our mental well being.