I've always been told that I’m a very motherly, nuturing person, which has always seemed odd to me because I've never really had a mother. My mom passed away about two months before my 6th birthday and my sister and I were emotionally abused by my step mother for two years before my father finally left her for our family's mental well-being. I think this trait may stem from my childhood, my number one job has always been to watch over my younger sister Katie. Since my father was in the military until I was almost 16 and we spent most of our childhood moving from city to city he was always busy and so it was my job to make sur her and i were taken care of. I was always the new kid and so was my sister so other kids were often cruel to us. I always felt the need to protect her …show more content…
And that need to protect and care for others still manifests itself today. I always find myself rooting for the underdog, and doing whatever I can to help others, especially those who are disenfranchised.
Academia is also something that is very important to me, although it has not always been that way. Through elementary and middle school I moved so much that I sort of had this mentality of "who cares" when it came to school work. I never excelled, I never did anything that I didn't have to because there seemed to be no permanence in my life, no consequences because in a few months or a year we'd be repeating the same cycle, moving to a new school, a new house, and I would have to start all over again. But that all changed when my father started going back to school and retired. He had dropped out of college during his first year because his family couldn't afford it and enlisted in the Air Force. The dedication he had going back to school inspired me to try harder in school. My father had also retired from the military after 30 years of
I was raised in an encouraging household where both of my parents greatly valued education. Although they were high school graduates, neither could afford to attend college; a combination of family and financial woes ultimately halted their path. As a result, my parents frequently reminded me that getting a good education meant better opportunities for my future. To my parents, that seemed to be the overarching goal: a better life for me than the one they had. My parents wanted me to excel and supported me financially and emotionally of which the former was something their parents were not able to provide. Their desire to facilitate a change in my destiny is one of many essential events that contributed to my world view.
My mother was always stuck watching and taking care of her younger siblings. Sometimes she would get in trouble for not making sure they stayed out of trouble. Not having her own privacy was common for her, since they lived in a...
When I was born, my mother breast fed me for two weeks, I stayed in the hospital room with her instead of going to the nursery, and she was home with me for the first five years of my life. My father worked and my mother tended to the home, with the help of her mother and grandmother. I ate Gerber baby jarred food and my mother read to me every night. My family did not adhere to many other cultural norms however. It was culturally expected that a husband and wife would have a home, with stable jobs and an established relationship before having children. My father was eight years my mother’s senior, and my mother was only 18 when I was born. My mother never earned her high school diploma. My parents were married the month before I was born. My father worked in construction and had a criminal record. Every single one of these descriptions violates the cultural norms of where I grew up in North Carolina. Although my story starts to sound a lot like a Lifetime movie, my mother defied all odds to provide a safe and secure haven for me. “When they sense that a parent is consistent and dependable, they develop a sense of basic trust in the parent” (Crain, 283). I could rely on my parents and trust that they would be there to take care of me which lead to my development of “the core ego strength of this period: hope” which emerges from the child developing a favorable balance of trust over mistrust. “Hope is the expectation that despite frustrations, rages, and disappointments, good things will happen in the future” (Crain, 285). My mother is the living embodiment of that sentiment. As early as I can remember, I can remember her insistence that as long as we were together, we were
It was out of the question for me since I did not want to put the time in to train and learn any sport. At the age of nineteen I went to the recruiters’ office and joined the United States Army. The promise would have to be put on hold for now. The Army was a way for me to create a shortcut to that life I wanted to obtain. I kept telling myself that college was not for me. I actually believed it and did nothing with college for the next nine years. Other responsibilities in life gave me a reason not to pursue a college degree. Marriage and three kids will change any plans you have in life, paying bills and keeping that job became high priority and overshadowed college. Creating a better life became challenging with every sunrise and sunset. Army life is over after twenty years of faithful service and now the next chapter begins. I want my children to say “I want to earn a college degree just like my dad”. I know this is the example I want to set for my children. Not only will it make my family’s life better near term but also make my children’s life better in the future. After I earn a college degree I know my mother will be the happiest women in the
Ever since I was a little girl I always wanted my life to be like the ones in movies, but sadly it was not. Having one parent wasn't easy, but my dad did his best to be a great father. My parents separated when I was 7 years old and that was when my childhood changed. Growing up with no mother was difficult, in fact, I felt left out when I would be around my friends because they had both of their parents and did family things together and I didn't. It was very depressing for me because I felt like I was different from everyone else. I also felt like I couldn't do anything or go far with my future goals because I didn't get much support like others did. I never found it easy, but I’m glad I had a father that stood by my side through thick and
Throughout my life I have been motivated by my family to do well in my schooling. When I was youhnger i watched as my brother took his hard work from our small town and took that same drive with him as he went on to further his ediucation at college. That really motivated me to work harder in school so that when it came to be my time to go to college I will be able to do the same as he did.
What makes person a hero? Is it fighting for your country in war, rescuing a “damsel in distress,” or being the one to discover cancer? All of that is heroic, but being a hero can mean many things and be the simplest things. To me, it is being brave and strong when all seems doomed. It is sacrificing things for the better of someone else. It is the smallest act of kindness that was not expected. My mother, Susan Marie McCartney, is my hero.
Ever since then I had to grow up with an unhealthy relationship with my mother and I couldn’t have a relationship with my siblings since I didn’t have any. The responsibility fell on me to provide for her, family, and friends. When you’re that young with so much responsibility you think serious thoughts. I promised myself that whenever I had kids I would take them everywhere, do everything with them, be together, and give them everything I never had.
One thing that really bothers me is how much I changed. I used to play games all day, not focus on school, wouldn't get in serious trouble, and was very innocent compared to my present day self. There are cons and pros of my past self compared to how I am currently. I am more happy of how I am now then I am before. As time changes, so do I and I can not stop that. What’s done has already been done and can’t be changed so you always have to look towards the future and never the past. The past will not definite who you are today unless you let it. I would have never expect that I would be transferred to a continuation high school in my freshman year. It is a bad thing to many people, but I am thankful that I am sent to it because I will learn
Until that point in time, I was not a self-reliant teenager; I had everything done for me. That all changed when she died, because I had to start ciphering things out for my own. I was no longer being catered to; I was being involuntarily forced to act like an adult now. In addition, this brought unwanted responsibility, which meant a tremendous reconstruction in my life, and it was a good formation occurring. I started to become independent in my journey through life, and was no longer dependent on everyone to do deeds for me like my mother once did. It was an extensive metamorphosis, and of course I battled it every step of the way, but the transformation occurred to be evident. The change did happen and I am delighted that I developed responsibilities, because it made me a sound and durable
I dont really know what im doing, seems like i never have. From being in grade school and not knowing why God put me here to being in high school and still wondering the same thing. You said you wanted something interesting, yet not sad, but those two things are like best friends.
This has been the underlying theme of my personal and professional growth. While in high school, I understood this and wanted to do what was within my capability to improve the wellbeing of others. In my senior year, I established the Amine Club and successfully led it to fundraise thousands of dollars for the local community fundraisers and end of the year field trip to Asian town. After graduating, I enrolled at UCR where I began my undergraduate education aspiring to become a doctor; I did not know what kind but I wanted to be one as I thought becoming a doctor was the only way to help others.
There are many roads in life that people travel down to get to where they are going, and it is impossible to know where you are headed until you find experiance in where you have been. I did not have the opportunity to grow up in a military family per se, but the discipline instilled in myself by both of my parents allowed me to strive for any goal I set out after. From a very young age, a higher education was something not only to be sought after, but an expectation.
My mother was taking care of me, and my three other siblings all alone by herself. When my father was living my mother only had one job, but now she had to work more. She had a massive impact on our lives by making sure we had everything we needed. Because I was the oldest of my siblings, I felt like I was a parent. At just eight years old, I had to skip school just to make sure my siblings had someone to look after them while my mother worked. I was obligated to feed them, give them baths, and put clothes on them. It was very difficult, but I knew my mother had to pay bills, and take care of us and herself, so I knew she couldn’t afford a babysitter. When times got very tough, my mom would get stressed out and take it out on us by throwing tantrums, hollering at us and beating on us. I didn’t have a choice but to encourage my mother, and be the one to push her to not give
Many people, as well as myself, believe that a mother’s influence is one of the most important influences that one will ever come in contact with in their lives. A mother’s love, comfort, and support will often help to shape a child and allow them to become the person they need to be later on in life. My mother has had a great influence on my life from day one. I often refer to her as my “rock” because she is definitely a solid foundation in my life. Being that she is a great role model, my mother’s support and presence in my life has allowed me to grow as a person, keep my spirits high through hell and high water, prosper in all that I have done, as well as mold me to be a great person in the future.