The room was dark and cold. I still recall the chills running down my spine. The walls in the room seem like a prison without bars and the room appear to be surrounded with demons eager to enjoy the great pain I was about to have. I still remember wanting to scream and shout “Stop! I don’t want to do this, is there any other choice besides the one I am about to do.” I could feel the presence of my controlling boyfriend telling me that society was going to judge and criticized me for being pregnant at a young age, and my family was going to be mad and ashamed of me. Therefore, I had no other choice than to have an abortion. As a young teen mother I was afraid, I was not aware that I had other choices besides having an abortion. I had many dreams …show more content…
such us finishing high school and attending a university, but when I found out I was pregnant I thought everything was going to change. I thought that I was not going to be able to finish school and having a boyfriend who was very controlling scared me of what could happen in the future. Till this day, I still experience the pressure of not being able to make my own personal choice, how this decision still hunts me, and how abortion changed my beliefs and values. At the age of 17, I met the most wonderful man. Not only was he attractive but he was a gentleman and was also respected and admired by his peers. The more time we spend together his true color started to emerged. The most insignificant things would causes us to have arguments. As time went on, he began to prohibit me from hanging out with my friends. At first, I would get frustrated because I was losing all my friends because of him. However, I did not want to lose the man I thought I loved, so I eventually had to stop talking to my friends. Moreover, I could not spend any time with my family because, in his defense, my time was only to be given to him. People would tell me that my relationship with this man was not healthy; however, I would ignore their comments. He was becoming more and more demanding in our relationship. I would get angry because I felt like I could not do anything without telling him. I was afraid I was going to lose him. The first time we ever had sexual intercourse I refused, but since he said if I loved him I had to give my soul and body to him. I loved my boyfriend to the end of the world and because he said having sexual intercourse would show him I loved him; therefore, I had sex with him. Two months later, I found out I was pregnant. At first, I did not wanted to say anything because I was scared. However, I knew that sooner or later I had to tell my family and boyfriend the truth. Reveling the truth to my parents and boyfriend, about being pregnant, would be one of the hardest decision I had ever experience in my whole seventeen years of age. After revealing to my parents that I was pregnant, they were very upset of me.
My mom started to yell at me and tears roll down her cheeks. My dad just walked away and left to work. Once I call my boyfriend to tell him I was pregnant he got very angry and he began to yell at me he said, “You have to have an abortion.” I was very scared I did not know what to do. I had no support from my parents because they were upset at me. My parents did not talk to me for weeks. I felt like I was useless and ashamed of myself. I would cry alone asking God what should I do or I would talk to myself and ask God to help me. On January of 2017, I decide that the best decision was to have an abortion. On my way to Wichita, all I did was cry. I knew in my conscious that having an abortion was not right. However, all that came to my mind was about my family how they were going to be ashamed of me. I was being manipulated to do something I did not want to do. I could vividly see how people were going to point at me and my family for being a single mother. When I got to the clinic, the most frightful experience was seeing people outside and calling out names such us, “killer,” God is not going to forgive you, and that I was going to burn in hell. I was so scared I did not want to have an abortion. I felt like I had no power and everyone around me was controlling my life. After having the abortion, I felt angry towards my family and boyfriend because I did not have their support. I was upset
within myself and I would ask myself “why” so many times. I was mad at my boyfriend and everyone else. I felt useless because I was not able to make my own choice and have my baby. I felt guilty over the choice I had made. I wanted to kill myself, kill my family, and my boyfriend for not giving me any support. I had Anger towards people and my boyfriend for not telling me that I had other options
When the smoke clears and the dust settles, only the women who experienced such events in their lives should speak on the psychological effects of abortions. However, I do know, as the poet so puts it (Banh, 2014) that, I knew them all though faintly, I loved them all and I will always have an open space in my heart for all my un-born children.
When you read this dialogue do you know what abortion is? If you are like me then you are definitely confused! Like how do you even put yourself in this situation? You have the ability to search websites and figure out more information. While reading and searching how does an abortion affect the woman’s Body? Will an Abortion Affect me being able to have a child in the future?
Talking about abortion brings out an emotional response in many women. This is because having an abortion takes a massive emotional toll on some women. As Nanyjo Mann said, three weeks after having an abortion, “I became preoccupied with the thoughts of death. I fantasized about how I would die. My baby struggled for two hours” (Reardon, 1987, p. xviii). In the forward of the book “Aborted Women, Silent No More” Nanyjo, a women telling her story of abortion, goes on to tell about feeling unstable with herself after having an abortion. She wanted to prove to herself that destroying others didn’t hurt, but it does (Reardon, 1987, p. xix-xx). Continuing in reading Nanyjo’s story, she tells all of the effects and feelings she went through after having an abortion including stress, depression and low self esteem. Any girl under the age of 18 would have an even harder time dealing with this type of stress. Teenagers are already seeking their identity and worry about their grades, looks, and peer acceptance. Going through the post abortion stress all by themselves would be overwhelming and potentially put them at risk for mental breakdown.
Everyone of you hearing this, whether I’m reading it to you or you are reading it yourself, need to understand that you need to thank God your mother wanted you. We are blessed by each person on this Earth, including you. Justin Bieber, Celine Dion, Pope John Paul II, even Steve Jobs were almost victims of abortion. Can we imagine a world without the technological advances discovered by Jobs? No matter what your point of view is, whether Pro Choice or Pro Life, the fact alone that your mother did not think you were “inconvenient” or “a financial leech” should be enough to make you Pro Life.
I refused to meet him for a couple of months and when I ended up at a party with him, he made me laugh and we started talking on the phone every night. One month later I got pregnant with my son. I was shocked, I was on birth control and never missed a day. All I could think about is my catholic mom is going to kill me. She is liberal in some ways and conservative in other ways. She grew up in Massachusetts in a catholic portuguese family. She does not believe in abortion, she was raised to believe that the moment you conceive that is a human life. She told me to save myself for marriage. I am glad that women’s rights have evolved and I had the option to get an legal abortion because it is my body and I have the right to choose. I went to have an abortion and then I heard his heartbeat; I was pretty far along. I walked out and walked out.I went home and broke the news to my father first and then When my father told her I was pregnant the first thing she said to me was “ I will give you the money for an abortion.” I could not believe it. She said to me “my views have changed in the matter of five minutes Alana, you have the right to choose. You are so young.” My mom went up to my high school talked to the prinicipal about my pregnancy and she informed my mother that few of the staff and facility do not feel comfortable with a pregnant girl walking around the school.My parents informed
Abortion may be one of the most controversial topics in America today. Abortion is defined as “the termination of a pregnancy after, accompanied by, resulting in, or closely followed by the death of the embryo or fetus” (cite dictionary). There are really only two sides on people’s opinion on abortion; pro-life which means abortion should be outlawed and pro-choice which means a woman should be able to decide whether she wants to keep her baby. Thousands of protests and riots have begun due to the fact pro-life activists believe abortion should become illegal. Both sides bring valid points to support their decision that could sway any person’s thoughts. The Roe v. Wade law has allowed abortion to be legal in the U.S since 1973 (Chittom & Newton, 2015). The law “gives women total control over first trimester abortions and grants state legislative control over second and third trimester abortions” (Chittom & Newton, 2015). Ever since the law was put in place, millions of people have tried to overturn it and still
There are many limitations valued when it comes to the right of abortion. The news media still outlines the pros and cons of anti-abortion rights in certain-states-to soon, the entire country. My perspectives on the issue of abortion have been entitled from it to never be banned among citizen’s rights. The reproduction of pregnancy has been emphasized heavily on a mother’s decision to abort their child, but the father of the child plays an active role since he considers to that particular title. Through this current issue, majority of the people against abortion do not seem to have an open mind to how much it primarily affects the decision of the mother amongst her own views of considering abortion.
Did you know that in the United States an abortion occurs every 25 seconds? This equates to 137 abortions per hour or 3,300 abortions every day, which is more that 1.3 million abortions every year! Abortion has always been a controversial topic and even more so since the 1973 Roe vs. Wade Supreme Court ruling. Most people have very strong opinions about abortion and inadvertently form their opinions without knowing all of the facts. Abortion should be abolished because it is killing innocent human beings, causes health risks in women, and defies the religious and ethical standards of our country.
For many years, the morality of abortion has been questioned by two perspectives: pro-choice and pro-life. While modern culture explains that abortion is a woman’s free choice if she does not want the unborn baby, the Catholic Church teaches the world that from the moment of conception there is a child with a soul within the womb, and to abort it would be to murder an innocent being.
In today’s world abortions are being used as a gateway for unexpected pregnancies that are caused by many reasons, searching for a solution women tend to believe that an abortion is the easiest way to get rid of these undesired situations. In Sallie Tisdale’s essay “We Do Abortions here: A nurse’s story”, she describes the emotions and the rules that she as being a nurse in an abortion clinic has to deal with every day. Tisdale uses paradox, her point of view and metaphor to make the reader understand that choosing abortion, either way, will not have a happy ending.
How would you feel if someone decided that you should never get a chance at life? That
Many may argue this topic of abortion and both have strong evidence on each side of the argument to say why they are correct and why you should agree with them; some people feel that teens should be allowed while others may disagree. This paper will focus on why teens should not be allowed to have abortions and the effects of it.
Abortion is the termination of a pregnancy by the removal or expulsion of a fetus or embryo from the uterus before viability (dictionary.com). Those who disagree with abortion think that this is not right, mid evil and a form of murder. All of those thoughts are correct; abortion is the act of removing a fetus from the protection of the mother’s uterus. However, is it not the duty of the mother to protect her unborn child? In this day in age, we are still allowing this barbaric method of ending a pregnancy to happen despite the many alternatives. If an unexpected pregnancy should occur, abortion should not the only option. There are many reasons why abortion should not be illegal in all parts of the world, and people need to know the options available. Adoption is certainly a strong option in a world wanting for children. Abortion is not a method of birth control and people need to be educated on pregnancy prevention and take on some responsibilities.
Today many people ask the question, does abortion have severe psychological effects? People that are pro-life claim that most women who abort their unborn child suffer from many negative effects, such as guilty feelings, anxiety, depression, loss, anger and even suicide. In one case a woman had an abortion assuming that it would take away all of the stress of being pregnant and thinking about the consequences of having a child. Afterwards she said, “I was unprepared for the maze of emotions that hit me after I had the procedure. Instead of feeling relieved, I was awash in anxiety and confusion” (Lawlor, 2002, par.3). The disorder of having negative effects after an abortion is called Post Abortion Syndrome or PAS. In order to tell if a woman has PAS she has to be completely honest with herself and admit the feelings that she has. The symptoms that most women have are strong feelings of guilt and confusion. Some cases are much more extreme, for example, there was a seventeen year old who developed lethargy, malaise, and vomiting. Doctors where unable to reach a conclusion about her condition until the anniversary of her abortion when she experienced overt psychosis. Mental examinations also revealed signs of hallucinations, as well as psychotic thought processes. Research has shown that in most cases women will go on and say they are fine about the whole thing, and many years later be ...
Everyday, people are faced with choices. Some of life’s choices are simple, such as deciding what to wear to school or choosing a television station to watch. Other choices, however, are much more serious and have life-altering consequences. Being pregnant has many choices, whether or not to keep the baby. There are many choices such as adoption, or abortion. I decided that I would keep my baby because I knew in my heart that I would regret it in the long run if I didn’t. Throughout my pregnancy I suffered from depression, which is the condition of feeling sad or despondent mentally. My depression was mainly due to the fact that I was sixteen, alone, and scared, I was a waitress at a local restaurant, but that job couldn’t pay for all the financial needs it takes to raise a child. I left my baby’s father when all the arguing and physical abuse began. I couldn’t deal with that and I definitely wasn’t going to raise my child through it. Although I knew deep down that this big decision was for the best, it was still difficult and very painful. Just the thought of raising a child alone was scary. My parents were so disappointed in me they really didn’t have much to say, especially my mother. That made my pregnancy worse because I felt as though I had no one to talk to. I had friends to talk to but most of them didn’t understand what I was going through.