Parenting Styles
As a parent, your approach to your child is as unique as you are, expressing different types of affection and discipline that fits your expectations which result in three major parenting styles, authoritarian, permissive, and the best approach authoritative. Each type of parenting approach has its own benefits and also disadvantages resulting into categories for which fits best for each parent. But also expressing the superior advantages of being an authoritative parent.
Let’s start with Authoritarian parent, which revolves around the idea of “my way or the highway.” This particular way is a parents know best approach emphasizing obedience instead of love and nurturing. While a child grows it is important for the child to know they can express opinions or choices but with an authoritarian parent it seems to be “impossible,” as the parent will utilize punishment with no explanation or reasoning. Authoritarian parents think they know exactly what is best
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As an authoritarian has very strict rules and is not considerate of how their child feels, a permissive parent conceals only the idea of pleasing their child and not obeying the rules. Inconsistent obedience. For example, when you are in a grocery store and you see that one child screaming and yelling over a snack he/she wanted and starts throwing a tantrum, where the permissive parent comes into play is when the parent decides to try and please the child rather than recognize the child 's bad behavior. A permissive parent has few rules and expectations in their child, not promoting discipline or obedience. As a permissive parent may not have many expectations but they are very loving and nurturing towards their child showing them they will always be loved. The only disadvantage of that, is the child will start to look at their parent as a friend considering bribery for good behavior tends to be an often
I benefited from having authoritarian parents as they taught me about the importance of rules and boundaries, but there are more cons than pros for the authoritarian style. What I dislike most about this style is that my parents did not provide emotional support to me as I was growing up. They believed in setting standards, rules and regulations that were too punitive. My parents were too caught up in demanding complete obedience, and they did not take int...
Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, was the first psychologist to identify parenting styles in 1967. The three parenting styles are authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. At one time, these three were the only parenting styles but later on, uninvolved parenting was added to the list of parenting styles. The four parenting styles are described on how much love, rules and the child’s behavior. Looking back to my childhood, I can see how all the parents showed the different parenting styles, including my parents.
First, authoritarian parents are the ones with the most rules, they establish them and the child is expected to follow them without exceptions. This cause the child to view things only the way the parents say and having very little room for involvement in problem-solving tasks.
The authoritarian style of parenting is control focused and militaristic in approach. This parent has high expectations and demands strict obedience. They often rule by fear and punishment. Dr. Gwen Dewar states, “… Little nurturing, lots of psychological control” (Dewar). On Consistant-parenting-advice.com the author communicates this type of parenting can result in abusive discipline that can be emotional and physical; however this writer is also including verbal abuse to the list.
This style of parenting is best described as the child having more control over the parent. There are a lot of parents today that seem to have no control of their child actions and even words. This in which can make the parents question what are they doing wrong when it comes to raising their child. This type of parent have very low demands and are highly responsive, maybe even too responsive to the child’s needs. Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
The first type of parenting style is called authoritarian. In this parenting style the parents are the boss. They make strict rules and they enforce them. They focus more on restrictions than a loving relationship with their child. They believe it is their job as parents to catch their children being bad and punish them. These parents use external control on their children instead of taking time to tell the kid what they did wrong and why they should not do it again. Something these parents do not realize is that they do not catch their kids being good. Authoritarian parents are firm and unsympathetic. Authoritarian parents love to use discipline.
These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another. Even though authoritarian and permissive parenting may have some minor similarities they are remarkably different from one another in their approach to raising children.
Authoritarian-parents who are punitive and focus on gaining a child's obedience to parental demands rather than responding to the demands of the child.Authoritarian parenting styles give little to no options to a child. What the parent says goes. It is a rigid approach to raising children that may have been most effective in times of great famine or toil. It was used most commonly in large, traditional families in which the father was the patriarch, and everyone else was called to follow his command. Times have changed greatly since. Doctors see a problem with this approach in modern times,it creates a distance between parent and child in which the child doubts the parent's love for him. It is based on punishment, which can easily create anger.
Authoritarian parents, show very little acceptance, have very high expectations of their children and are extremely controlling. These parents are strict, and use a prohibitive and punishment method. According to a research done by Kimberly Kopko from Cornell University, it “reveals that adolescents of authoritarian parents learn that following parental rules and adherence to strict discipline is valued over independent behavior. As a result, adolescents may become rebellious or dependent” (2). The adolescents who come to be rebellious may showcase hostile behaviors, while those who are passive are likely to stay relying on their parents (2).
...ues come with a lot more disadvantages then advantages. Children of authoritarian parents are unhappy, and have low in self-esteem. They receive poor grades in school and they become bullies. These children become dependent and they have a very poor relationship with their parents because they are scared of them.
What exhibits the best approach to parenting? According to Bright Horizons, the four main types of parenting exists as authoritarian or disciplinarian, permissive or indulgent, uninvolved, and authoritative. However, which one displays the most suitable for a child? Well, that depends on what one defines best as, and typically (for a decent parent) what is best for a child manifests itself in becoming a mature and equally responsible adult. Therefore, the best approach for a parent to use if they want their child to turn out possessing character arrays itself in the authoritarian or disciplinarian form deemed ‘tough love’.
Parent uses different styles to raise their children in the best way they determine that suitability; creating a legacy. The factors that determine a child’s ultimate outcome include; the types of parenting styles used on children, parent involvement, and the various methods of discipline. Authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive are three of the most common and practical styles parents or caretakers apply to raise their children. Parents with authoritarian style are extremely strict, harsh, very demanding, and unresponsive. Authoritative parents are also demanding and controlling, and then flexible and responsive because they let the children participate in decisions making. Authoritative parents make an effort to explain their rules and expectations. Finally, permissive parents are fond, lenient, and responsive because they place few restrictions or demands on their
They lack social skills as the parent generally decides what the child should do instead of allowing the child to choose on his own. Children are socially withdrawn and look to others to decide what’s right. “Authoritarian parents don't explain the reasoning behind these rules. If asked to explain, the parent might simply reply, "Because I said so” (Why Parenting Styles Matter When Raising Children). Although these children are well mannered, they tend to do things behind their parents.
There are four main types of parenting style. This includes (1) authoritative, (2) authoritarian, (3) indulgent, and (4) neglectful parenting. Authoritative parenting is a type of parenting style which is both demanding and responsive. It is often referred to as assertive democratic primarily because the parents encourage their child to be independent, but at the same time, they tend to place limits as well a...
Authoritative parenting is the most effective because of the structure they give their kids. This type of parenting consists of firmness,consistency, and fairness. What is expected from the kid is communicated very well and respected. These parents have a great amount of control also a great relationship with their child. Although the parent and the child may share a great relationship the parent can also be cold hearted. Even though the