“Oh my gosh Pierce! There is absolutely nothing is ok with PDA!”
“Wo! I’m just asking you what you think about it!”
When it came to the simple question of “What do you think about PDA?” people had some pretty strong opinions about people showing the world how much they love their significant other. These harsh and rash opinions made me think about a lot of questions like. If so many people feel pretty strongly about this simple topic then why the heck do people do it? What would be a good agreeable line that nobody should ever cross when it comes to PDA? If you do in fact do publicly display you affection for someone is there a day when you don’t anymore? If you do stop why do you stop?
People who are in a relationship
The people that I watched, and talked to who were in a relationship were interesting. They mostly defended PDA, because they did a little bit of it. “Pierce when you are in love you just want to show everyone that person, and really make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel good about themselves.” When I went to the mall I noticed some things about how different age groups showed their affection for one another. The Older couple really did not show as much affection as younger couples did. I have made the hypothesis that people start to lose it when they have kids. I noticed as I walked around in the mall that people did not really show as much love for their partner the older they got. For example, there were two different couples standing right next to each other outside of a Runza. One couple were in their forties with two kids, while the other couple were in their mid twenties with no kids. The couple that were in their forties did not show much attention to their significant other instead they spent all o...
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...other’s think. Yea I thought I was going to put something deep right here, but its true people could care less about what people think. So even if the world set these rules to tell us what is too far, and what is not to far when it comes to PDA, people really wouldn’t care they would just want to show everyone what they have accomplished in their life, and that accomplishment is that they have someone in their life. So yes we could all sign a petition on something we all agree on what is ok when it comes to showing your love for someone in public, but at the end of the day people just do it to show off what they have in life, and to show what they are capable of doing in life to the whole world. So what is happening in our world is that it’s a bunch of people, who just want to show off, and when you stop people from showing off and boasting then you will stop PDA.
...ors throughout the study. The authors aim to convince the general audience that there is a connection between the attachment theory and adult romantic relationships that should be considered throughout other studies and research. In the study, there were no sex differences obtained in three attachment styles, nor in the background questions; authors assume that conditions are generally the same between both sexes. While the data supports the position, attachment styles correlate with adult love relationships, the different conditions of both sexes are not considered within this study which affects the reliability of this data and what it supports. Additionally, the studies data was immensely accumulated from questionnaires, biased results could have been created based off the questions that were asked or the current situation or mood the subjects were experiencing.
Intimacy and love are important factors to interpersonal relationship but as a foundation to not governing and controlling society. Consider a situation of three-person group, or also known as a triad, intimacy and love is not successful majority of time (Freidkin 05/20/10). Take for example, a family of three, a father, mother, son or daughter, has unconditionally love for each other. However, as the teenager grows up, he or she may not always agree with the parents' decisions about their life; and/or vice versa, in which the parents may not like the teenager's lifestyle. This shows that we tend to hold other with high regards and respect when we love another. Also, when we love others, we want the best for them and help them make better decisions to have better relations with the party. In relation to society, intimacy and love are not ideal features because they are too personal; not everyone will let others control their lives and surroundings willingly for strangers. For those who have conflicting beliefs with higher personnel will feel that some choice...
In Dubai PDA is legal, however as it is a Muslin city, the only legal activity is holding hands. According to BBC News, a young British man and women were “sentenced to a month in prison” followed by deportation and fines for PDA. If this were any Western country, then such problems would not arise from being publicly affectionate with a partner. It seems that the phrase PDA has a different definition within each society. For the Iranian culture, PDA is not only illegal –it is forbidden. No man or women can be affectionate in public, whether it is holding hands or making eye contact. Research claims, “Islam has determined that any sex-oriented pursuit of happiness and enjoyment in public is to be avoided” (Motahari 19). Therefore such actions will not get you a fine and deportation, but a death sentence. This punishment illustrates the major difference in each society, for example a simple ‘thumbs up’ h...
In this chapter 2 of Knox and Schacht the authors explain the way to conceptualize love as well as all the aspects that are incorporated into love. The ways in which people view romantic and realistic love and how here in America we look at romantic love in a sort of fairy tale way. The authors explain the different styles of love that people can be categorized under in different relationships. Knox and Schacht take a look at arranged marriages in other countries and how love is intended to come after you are married and not before Knox and Schacht 2016, pg. 37-45). If relationships are focused on sexual attraction it takes away from simply being friends with a person which can also lead us to not actually seeing a person for who they really
The definition of a relationship has changed so many times in the past decades. It has gone from a connection between two people to an obsession and almost a competition. In today’s world a relationship consists of major intimacy and closeness. There are some who believe that intimacy while dating is wrong. They form their own definition of a relationship into what they call a “godly relationship”. Those supporting that kind of a relationship condemn sexual closeness and monitor who their young people are allowed to date. There are two worlds of dating in our lives today; one with infatuation and the other with togetherness.
Perel explains how the culture we live in now withholds different expectations for love in individualistic societies. (Perel, 0:53) This connects to what we learned in the love chapter. We learned that in western cultures, there is an overall focus on “attraction and matching” and the expectation that they will live “happily ever after” with their partner. (Clark, 2015a) These are the expectations Perel is referring to which individualistic societies now rely on in forming their concept for what love should be like in relationships. These expectations however, may also be impacted by interdependency and our compassion level. For example, comparison level “describes the value of the outcomes that we believe we deserve in our dealings with others.” (Miller, 2012, Interdependency, p.176) Our prior events that we have experienced may serve to explain why individuals have these high expectations, especially since the current culture we live. Perel mentions that couples commonly tend to bring up the fact that they want more sex (Perel, 10:37), which in the sexuality chapter we learned that sexual desire and frequency has different factors that are taken into account. For example, comparison level is overall an important aspect to consider here and rather than “evaluating how often they have sex or the degree to which they disagree about sex,” couples should instead
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Couples should love unconditionally because it is true love that is more than infatuation Nozick notes,
Love and the way we love others varies across different individuals of various cultural backgrounds. From a psychoanalytic approach, many theorists in this field focus on the development of love and it’s stages as we become of age to establish a loving, healthy relationship with a companion. In the book titled Personality: Classic Theories and Modern Research (Friedman & Schustack, 2013), A person must have social connection with others in order to achieve true happiness. This is something so unique to humans; the human connection. To connect with another person on an emotional, intellectual, and even physical level brings on an entire new perspective on life. Love is the most powerful force that we have as human
One may ask what love is, how do you define love? You can look up the word love in the dictionary and find ten or more different explanations. Most sociologists consider love to be learned through cultural experiences (Love). This would mean that however or if persons parents showed them love while growing up, that is how that individual would interpret love throughout their life. When the Puritans first came to America, their concept of love was less of a romantic passion and more of a deepening reciprocal of respect and affection (Seidman 16). During the Enlightenment (1714-1818), love was typically viewed as a rational and orderly experience that could be controlled by those who experienced it (Sternberg 69). Love was assumed to be a rational feeling made by rational people and thus could be controlled. This belief had a major alteration during the eighteenth and nineteenth century when people began to believe that love was uncontrollable and could happen without reason (Sternberg 70). This change in the perception of love being uncontrollable also shifted the conclusion that people were not as rational as first presumed. In the late twentieth century, love became more sexualized and erotic which became perceived as a crisis in sexual morality and marriage (Seidman 66). Love today is viewed as unobtainable by reason of Americans have unrealistic expectations of love, true love, love at first sight, and the idea that love conquers all (Love). As a result of these unrealistic views, Americans have moved back to the concept that love is controllable but not necessary for a “romantic” relationship (Sternberg 63). As presented, love and the interpretation of what love is has transformed dramatically over the past two hundred years ...
While movies, books, plays, and love songs certainly provide all individuals with a distorted view of both love and intimacy in today’s day and age, It also seems that it does not matter where love is mentioned or in what it is mentioned people act like starved animals that are in need of a steak dinner. As a result all the information about love and romance and relationships that is available to individuals may provide them with a dreamy and fanciful view of love and intimacy in the digital age. It is also true that technology and the many advancements of mobile communication that are available to help people navigate their daily lives no matter where they live in the world is very extensive and shockingly overwhelming to say the least. It is also true that people who are blessed to live in the new millennium are so enamored with technology and the new ways it helps them on their daily journey through life that they use it to connect with anyone and everyone for any reason whether searching for a lifelong love affair with an individual or connecting with family and friends.
...ng the kids to dance or soccer class, baking or cooking, mowing the lawn. Its the really little things you do for them that can make the hugest of a difference in the relationship. Showing affection could be as simple as being the person your partner has the most fun with. That doesn’t mean being the person you spend having crazy nights with, and nursing your hangovers together. Its as easy as just being silly with, maybe finger painting. Just spending time together anytime together is showing your affections towards your partner.
Love is everywhere. Anthropologists studied romantic love in societies and found evidence of it in 170 societies. In fact, they have not found a society that didn’t have romantic love. Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and human behavior researcher, relates romantic love to somebody camping in your head. Lisa Kudrow, as Phoebe from Friends, relates love to “a work of art.” While poet Ralph Waldo Emerson relates love to a hunter. Whichever spectrum you fall on or between, love effects all of us in life altering ways. In fact, according to a twitter survey that 891 people participated in, when asked if love affects them more behaviorally, emotionally, physically, or psychologically; 48% chose emotionally. Meaning that 427/891 people are
According to Vultaggio (2015), Maya Angelou once said: “In the flush of love 's light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.” Dr. Rappleyea (2015) once stated that love is a very complex emotion perhaps the most complicated of all human emotions. Some might even add that love is not only an emotion but it is also an action shared between one or more individuals. Family greatly influences how we love and the way we show our love for one another. In fact we first learn what love is or what it is not in our household, and gradually our meaning of love will mature. Psychologist Robert Sternberg developed a triangular theory of love which explains the topic of
To be partners in life, and to be happy in the union, couples should be open and honest, love and respect each other. This should be the "way of the world".